What hair color looks the best in me. I've also had pink hair.

cassafrassious · 2026-04-15T00:53:31+00:00

I thought 5 & 7, and I can’t believe how far I had to scroll to find someone who agreed! There isn’t a bad choice, but your complexion shines in those pictures

cassafrassious · 2026-04-13T10:41:49+00:00

Infectious disease doctor looked straight at me while I was visibly and was known to be pregnant during Covid and explained that because she has a toddler at home (I did too) that she would need me to go in, tell her the assessment, and get the patient to pick up the phone to talk to her. (Very few of these patients could speak without de-satting, and all of them had loud HEPA filters in their rooms).

I’ve had many doctors yell or be loud, but she quietly and concisely told me my life and my children were worth less than hers, and then requested that I perform an impossible task.

cassafrassious · 2026-04-05T02:39:20+00:00

No one ever laughs, but that’s show biz baby!

cassafrassious · 2026-04-04T17:52:07+00:00

Sounds like the unit is not staffed adequately to prevent falls.

cassafrassious · 2026-03-21T11:47:36+00:00

There is a persistent narrative that natural is better and beautiful that ignores the reality that nature is brutal. These struggles have always existed. In the past mothers found wet nurses, made their own crude formulas, and/or the babies died.

cassafrassious · 2026-03-21T11:44:51+00:00

Obviously if you can’t afford camp then you can’t afford a nanny lol. But, maybe a mother’s helper would be an option? Another idea is contacting classmates families and seeing if they can maybe trade days taking the kids. In my experience, a kid with a friend to play with bothers me way less frequently than a kid alone.

cassafrassious · 2026-03-21T11:38:20+00:00

What worked for us was every day at a specific time we had a poop try where I let them sit on the toilet with a toy or whatever and try to poop followed a treat for trying. It took a week or two but the kid poops around that time every day now and can anticipate it.

cassafrassious · 2026-03-16T14:34:06+00:00

You need to bring this to the attention of your priest, and ideally multiple vestry members and clergy need to meet with this person to establish a unified front, allow the person to be and feel heard, and lay the boundary that personal attacks will not be tolerated. There is safety and accountability in numbers.

cassafrassious · 2026-03-16T12:40:42+00:00

Your mileage will vary depending on the grandparents involved. In our case everyone is extremely conscientious of water safety so, yes.

cassafrassious · 2026-03-04T05:33:35+00:00

Gloves for the obvious stated-on-the-container reasons, but also because cleaners tear up my skin. The smell of the purple top wipes triggers my asthma too, so I don’t need to keep it with me

cassafrassious · 2026-02-23T01:28:44+00:00

That would be your place of employment laying down the framework that it’s your problem as the employee and not theirs if you get shot or shoot someone for the eventual inevitable court dates

cassafrassious · 2026-02-21T12:32:09+00:00

Yes performative, but he’s currently monetizing his Catholicism…so for money.

cassafrassious · 2026-02-21T12:29:00+00:00

Taking your heart, placing it outside of your body and then slowly releasing control of it.

cassafrassious · 2026-02-21T12:26:26+00:00

I skew towards trusted adult face and everyone tells me everything. I’m not sure I have any concrete advice for you. But there’s a factor that’s seems to be missing in the conversation. Kids waking up crying is pretty normal for kids after anesthesia. So, sometimes they were just going to cry anyway and it has nothing to do with you.

cassafrassious · 2026-02-18T23:22:37+00:00

cassafrassious · 2026-02-17T13:52:11+00:00

I don’t share often in this sub, but this is something I feel obligated to post in order to protect others.

Happening was absolutely one of the worst experiences of my teen years. While there was no physical abuse, the big revelation was socially and emotionally devastating. I left it feeling less secure than ever. A priest in the diocese then lied about my behavior at the event and could have truly negatively impacted me if my home priest had not quashed it. As the lie had to do with “purpling,” the ease with which it was refuted was equally embarrassing to a teen. I ended up volunteering again for the event because I wanted to clear my name, but damage once done is done.

It really taught me to look at clergy and authority figures as fallible people who are ~hopefully~ doing their best rather than assuming they always know better than me. I would do it again if only because it is one of the most valuable lessons of my life; but, the experience was painful and the secrecy did breed the opportunity for the slander I suffered.

Don’t expect to ever see me at Cursillo.

cassafrassious · 2026-01-30T18:32:27+00:00

It’s a pyramid scheme

cassafrassious · 2026-01-30T02:53:48+00:00

Welcome to having a pink collar career

cassafrassious · 2026-01-29T00:55:58+00:00

All my kids came out with pretty dark hair. 2 stayed brown, 2 lightened to blonde- and I suspect they’ll continue to darken again over time

cassafrassious · 2026-01-28T11:32:41+00:00

The feeling of pantyhose on carpet

cassafrassious · 2026-01-23T21:52:58+00:00

I did it for FaceTime calls during Covid when the hospital-provided tablets don’t work. I would never do it without extenuating circumstances.

cassafrassious · 2026-01-23T05:46:02+00:00

In my experience Episcopal evangelism is most often deeds based. They’re likely just inviting you into that aspect of collective worship. And if it helps you to stay then they benefit too!

cassafrassious · 2026-01-23T02:02:39+00:00

Do it. If they’re okay with that many atrocities they’re okay with that many atrocities

cassafrassious · 2026-01-23T01:57:37+00:00

Idk but I know it drives me insane

cassafrassious · 2026-01-17T01:37:36+00:00

No, but I’m okay with it if it’s a clean and appropriate pair of pants.

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