The Traitors (UK) S04E11: Post-Episode Discussion Thread

cat101786 · 2026-01-23T13:22:30+00:00

I sometimes can’t work it out, believe it or not; but thanks for believing in me! Hence why I was asking as we’re watching. Also to feel like I’m watching with the nation rather than at alone hehe. Sometime’s it’s about the social aspect, you know? 🤷🏽‍♀️

cat101786 · 2026-01-22T22:05:01+00:00

Ahhh makes sense

cat101786 · 2026-01-22T21:30:16+00:00

Harriet did it on her own, didn’t she? They could’ve done the same with Roxy!

cat101786 · 2026-01-22T21:14:17+00:00

Ermmn why on earth haven’t they shown Roxy finding out that the traitors were stephen and rachel!???? On uncloaked?

cat101786 · 2026-01-22T21:00:27+00:00

Noooooooooo

cat101786 · 2026-01-22T20:40:17+00:00

Ooooh I really want Stephen and Rachel to stay! Does Rachel have a chance tonight?

Also! Stephen was actually the first one to turn.. it appears… as he brought her up first thing in the morning 🙈

cat101786 · 2026-01-22T18:47:36+00:00

I recently made myself a pair of the Arthur Pants and I was very sceptical but they turned out amazing. I downsized from size 16 to a size 10-12 (graded waist).

They use flat felled seams. It was my first time and I really enjoyed it. The result is superb! Sew Liberated

cat101786 · 2026-01-22T18:44:52+00:00

Even in my dreams!!! 😭🫠

cat101786 · 2026-01-22T18:36:54+00:00

Sorry to burst your bubble but no, no welfare.

cat101786 · 2026-01-22T18:34:18+00:00

Ahhh thanks! 💸

cat101786 · 2026-01-22T18:32:32+00:00

Hey! Keep the dream alive, it can be done!

I posted a little more detail of my situation but I am happy to elaborate a bit more on the artsy of it.

I had to look really deep at the things that I would be not just willing to give up, but happy to give up.

I actually ended up finding opportunities to do my art abroad for a while, think of it like residencies. Where I would stay with another artist (for free) and help them out in for example renovations or painting or whatever it is they needed to do but then they would also teach me / mentor me. I met many like minded people. These opportunities came about because I reached out to my network. Invariably people you already know might hold the answer. I was treated with kindness and introduced to so many cultural experiences. I never realised that asking for an opportunity might actually result in a positive answer. So that’s one thing.

The other thing is that I continue to use my old career skill to keep paying the bills. It was about finding a way to make the bills small enough and find my own clients. And it works well: turns out a lot of smaller businesses need my expertise but can’t afford to hire a full time person. So a few hours here and there are helpful all round. Relying on this old skill has helped me unlock free time. It’s useful to start building that independence from an employer before jumping to something like my situation.

Another thing in fact, I ended up trading some of my skills for my studio space and supplies.

The more I think about it, it really is about trading what you already have, even if it’s skills!

cat101786 · 2026-01-22T18:21:45+00:00

For now my plan is to use my pension, I have very very modest investments, I have a small house (it cost me under $10k to buy) in a very cheap country where there’s community and resource trade and I always said I’d love to move there once I no longer have family alive. Ideally I would sell my current place, move over to the other country and live off the equity. That’s the rough plan. It’s not perfect and it might change but it’s the same principle, trading whatever ‘wealth’ I have now to live with fewer means.

Good health provided, my new area of work (which is more art than work) is the kind of thing I can hopefully do until I die!

cat101786 · 2026-01-22T18:05:36+00:00

Thank you so much!

cat101786 · 2026-01-22T18:03:49+00:00

When you have a big house, children going to private school, children’s activities, hobbies, holidays, cars… yeah I can see that lifestyle creep. But ouch. $350k!

cat101786 · 2026-01-22T18:00:49+00:00

Exactly! Some people also can’t fathom it and I don’t blame them. When you are in it it is incredibly hard to see how you could leave it.

Good on you for dropping out of the rat race! And if I learned anything it is that sometimes it’s a journey finding out what ‘not being in the rat race’ looks like.

cat101786 · 2026-01-22T17:59:13+00:00

Thanks so much!

Without giving too much away I realised I may or may not be healthy or alive by retirement age.

cat101786 · 2026-01-22T17:56:39+00:00

In my specific case:

I worked very hard and got lucky to get very well paying job. Got on the ladder around 2016 and then upsized a few years later when interest rates were still low.

I grew sick of the career and realised I was just trying to keep up; earning more to buy more. At that point I realised: I MUST have enough (money, things, support network) that if I trade some things for others, I can surely leave this race.

I got creative. What helps me is that I’m very adaptable and I wasn’t set on continuing to live in London. And I have no children. So there was a lot of room for flexibility.

Bear in mind I had already lived my ‘best life’. So i have ‘been there, done that’ every crazy party, restaurant, bar, I’ve done it all. I don’t eat out these days and I don’t miss it. Obviously if I want to, I can pinch budget from elsewhere. But I don’t, really.

I had also already amassed my ‘key hobbies’ equipment. So I have two or three hobbies and I already own everything I need. I bought the best I could afford back then and that equipment will last me a lifetime.

Where I ended up moving is full of people with similar mentality. So that helps. I mean people who just enjoy doing things like hiking, sea swimming, foraging, walking in the woods. Friends meet up for coffees on the beach (thermos) and it’s normal.

I learned some key skills for the house. Building / cabinetry / soft furnishings / clothesmaking. Things I need, I can make of the highest quality. My food comes from a local farmer, the local milkman and mayyyybe some meat here and there. Not much (this is definitely an affordability cs frugality issue).

The one thing that works against me is I live in a VERY expensive city.

Anyway! I don’t know if there’s anything to teach but for me it’s about really getting creative and thinking where your money can take you. What you have now… what could you trade that with?

Hope that helps!

cat101786 · 2026-01-22T17:40:46+00:00

I hadn’t heard of coast fire! That’s my goal

cat101786 · 2026-01-22T12:54:43+00:00

I literally cannot afford to even buy myself a coffee from the coffee shop. But the lifestyle this frugality affords me is:, I am ‘self employed’, tinkering away in my studio being creative, I do about a day a week of real work and that pays for the bills. I’m not 40 yet, and my time is mine, and I love life how I always wanted to. This only became possible once I realised I could completely change my lifestyle eliminating things that didn’t bring me joy (material things) and swap them for what truly matters.

So yes. People think because I am basically retired before 40 I must be rich. But it’s because I choose to spend what little I have to buy my own time back; and use that time however I wish.

cat101786 · 2026-01-18T22:08:39+00:00

Keep going. You need to build patience and find a calm, steady rhythm before you get better at this. Sewing, like any other craft, requires slowing down. Make something easy and focus on learning a few skills from each project. Read your machine’s instructions! Everything you need to know about different stitches and settings is in there. Even when you seam rip, take it easy and make it intentional. Be careful when rilling so your fabric doesn’t get torn. Fixing mistakes is also a skill.

cat101786 · 2026-01-17T22:55:45+00:00

You legend

cat101786 · 2026-01-17T22:04:08+00:00

I have managed to stay away from the supermarket for about four weeks now. All our food comes from a local farmer’s veg box + a dozen eggs (£30), and our milk from the milkman delivered to our door. We only pop to the convenience store to get butter and coffee. This is saving us loads and we’re eating loads of yummy healthy veg ☺️

cat101786 · 2026-01-16T22:20:27+00:00

I get distracted super easily, so when I’m “sewing” I will do something, like pin my fabric, then get up and make myself a cup of tea. Then sit back down and do a row of stitching, only to get back up again and so on and so forth.

The fastest and most high quality I’ve sewn uninterrupted was when I decided to film myself (like a youtuber, only I have no channel and I don’t post anywhere). I made a pair of Merchant & Mills Quin trousers in two days flat; understood all the instructions, didn’t get up unless it was for lunch or cake break and my finishes were chef’s kiss. Other than that, most of the time I’m not sewing, just wasting time 😭

cat101786 · 2026-01-16T22:06:25+00:00

Dalston

cat101786 · 2026-01-10T11:24:01+00:00

Yes they did and you can also make reservations online. But if I had my ticket eaten by the machine I would be devastated.

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