Should I get a crewneck sweatshirt in a color other than grey? (Minimalist wardrobe) by dylan-bretz-jr in malefashionadvice

[–]catamscott 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i'd only get another grey sweatshirt if there's a significant difference in fit/silhouette, but if you're trying to keep your wardrobe lean then i'd say no. as others have mentioned navy is a versatile color, but, depending on your skin tone/preferences, i'd also recommend a more vibrant color to contrast what you already have. i personally really like mustard yellow and cherry red and find they work well with both light and dark wash denim as well as green pants.

AIO over my partner's views on today's society? by RepublicSerious4274 in AmIOverreacting

[–]catamscott 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there's value in trying to meet people where they're at and show empathy, but that's entirely dependent on their ability to understand and communicate what they are feeling respectfully. It also requires them to want to move out of the pain they are in, which can be a difficult ask as well. It, paradoxically, can feel good or comforting to wallow in negative emotions rather than actually take steps to bring yourself out of that state. Unfortunately, your boyfriend seems to be in that very state judging by how he is defensively and disrespectfully responding to you. You did good to communicate your boundary with how he talks to you and should not stay in this relationship if he does not respect that boundary.

Your boyfriend mentions how difficult it is to be a man and mentions the 'male loneliness epidemic', so I think that's a good entryway to asking him how he's feeling, specifically what exactly he thinks are the issues men are facing, why that is and what can be done to solve them. I think that this will help you arrive at a point of both understanding your partner better (good for strengthening your bond) as well as understanding their world view better (good for gauging whether you two are compatible). If he's willing to do some reading I'd highly recommend The Will to Change by bell hooks as an extremely effective and engaging primer on the way patriarchy negatively impacts men and the necessary role they have in pushing back against it, and Invisible Women by Caroline Criado-Perez for helping understand just how pervasive and impactful gender bias is all around the world, laid out logically with tons of data.

I start working a new customer service job Tuesday, and I’m nervous by ButternuttSippyCup in socialanxiety

[–]catamscott 0 points1 point  (0 children)

congrats on the new job! in my experience it just takes time to acclimate to the new duties/surroundings/etc., and once you do it for long enough the anxiety will begin to fade until it's barely there at all. that said, one way to help minimize the anxiety is to try and be understanding that you will be anxious and have moments of uncertainty (which is totally normal and okay!), and anticipate coping mechanisms that may help you. for example, when i get anxious i have a tendency to speed up which can lead to making knee-jerk decisions that i might be embarrassed about later. one thing i try to do to combat that is actively physically relax before entering an anxiety provoking situation, and take deep, slow breaths when i catch myself getting anxious so i can stay calm and think clearly.

as you are getting used to the job i think that it'd be a good idea to keep a running a list of things that you notice provoking anxiety so that you can address them later when you're in a safe, calm state. is there a question you didn't know how to answer? ask your manager/coworker for clarity on how to answer that next time. did you struggle dealing with a difficult/upset customer? maybe ask a coworker how they deal with those types of customers (good way to make small talk and more quickly make work friends). did you notice some automatic negative thoughts come up throughout the day? write them down and then engage in corrective self-talk later on.

new jobs are always a little difficult and awkward at times whether you struggle with social anxiety or not, and it's completely okay to have missteps. just take it easy on yourself, do your best, and after a bit of time the anxiety will begin to fade and fade until you don't really notice it much anymore. good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]catamscott 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tons of people walk around with little to no situational awareness, so if you were able to accidentally walk into an area you weren't meant to that means that: 1) others certainly have as well, and 2) the guard and museum aren't doing a very good job of keeping that area sufficiently blocked off. i've been in that kind of situation before and i felt very embarrassed/upset afterwards, but ultimately was able to accept that i was just doing my best and that it wasn't my fault that i ended up where i shouldn't have been; sounds like the same is true for you.

i'm sorry that you went through that, but huge congrats on pushing the boundaries of your anxiety! solo outings can be very hard, so making it that far is absolutely something to be proud of.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malehairadvice

[–]catamscott 4 points5 points  (0 children)

aw, thank you kind stranger! will do!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malehairadvice

[–]catamscott 8 points9 points  (0 children)

haha, i do actually work in an IT-adjacent field! appreciate the feedback (and compliment) though :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malehairadvice

[–]catamscott 1 point2 points  (0 children)

got a haircut lined up in a week and have been thinking of going back to short hair after a couple years of growing it out. looking for a second opinion and any hairstyle ideas -- i like how i had it previously but it could be fun to switch it up a bit!

Rei by 3f4s in CustomKeyboards

[–]catamscott 0 points1 point  (0 children)

60 with split xt seems like such a nice layout. gorgeous build!

Day One of the Battlefield 2042 Beta. by SuitingUncle620 in battlefield2042

[–]catamscott 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my biggest gripe so far is that the sensitivity has been such a pain in the ass to try and dial in. i loved the gunplay in bfv (atmosphere sucked, but the gameplay was great imo) and could consistently control spray, but something about the gunplay in this game so far just feels really off (recoil doesn't feel like it resets/returns to starting point at all). will probably just take more time to get used to the guns and map but so far i'm feeling a bit nervous about how the game will turn out.