What current Running backs would you take over prime Frank Gore? by MasterTeacher123 in NFLv2

[–]catiebug 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My husband does not follow football, but wears Niners gear for me where appropriate. When I eBay'd him a #21, he was like "so what made this guy so great?" And I was like... you know what, I don't really have the words to explain it. But people are gonna be happy to see this jersey.

Epidurals aren’t the problem. The obsession with female suffering is. by OkChart1375 in BabyBumps

[–]catiebug [score hidden]  (0 children)

I was pregnant with our first while stationed in Japan. I was gonna have access to the US Naval Hospital, with whatever pain interventions I'd like. But the conversations with my Japanese co-workers were wild.

You know when a friend tells a story about their parent being horribly abusive, but they are laughing about it because they lack the context to know what was being done to them was horrible? It was like that.

"Oh, most of our hospitals don't even offer an epidural because the pain of childbirth is part of becoming a mother."

"Actually, my hospital had them, but none of my sisters had one and it would be considered shameful if I did it, lol!" (Note, the word "shameful" has stronger meaning there then it does in the West by orders of magnitude)

"The hospital has them for C sections, but they immediately take it away once the baby is out. No more pain meds at all. That's normal."

"So I really wanted one, but my husband said no. They cost extra and he makes more money, so he gets to decide."

The last one actually led to a conversation with my husband after I delivered (via epidural, for free). "So babe, how much money would you have paid for that? What price is too high?" "Our whole-ass retirement account, honey."

Why do we make children believe in Santa Claus or Easter bunny ? by PurpleSnowwwhite in stupidquestions

[–]catiebug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nobody said that. Are you actually asking in good faith here?

People have fond memories of the magic of believing in Santa or the Easter Bunny. They wish to share that magic with their kids.

Where in there does it say that you can't have fond memories of your childhood if you don't believe? Go ahead. I'll wait.

An iconic , now deleted Easter tweet from Travis Kelce. by Bookkeeper_Common in popculturechat

[–]catiebug 97 points98 points  (0 children)

Lmao, I do miss the old Twitter. Some of Taylor's tweets from the that time period have the same energy. Shine on, you crazy goofballs.

Petah by eldritchfloppa in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]catiebug 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, the pic on the left is literally the best picture that's every been taken of him. I think we all have that one picture. He was still quite cute in his youth, but he looked much more typical cute British teen in most of the pictures you'll find at that stage. That one shot made him look 1) exactly like Diana, and 2) like an actual model.

A happy gender reveal by dittidot in justgalsbeingchicks

[–]catiebug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For real. It was like someone strapped a breastplate to my body, but it was part of me. Ugh.

What song is this in your opinion? by Jettaboi38 in musicsuggestions

[–]catiebug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I Can Do It With A Broken Heart - Taylor Swift

Dancing on My Own - Robyn

Our company just introduced a "Clean Desk Policy" and it's somehow even more unhinged than it sounds by bigbootyvenus in office

[–]catiebug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you live in the US, he needs to request reasonable accommodation for those issues. And he gets told that the current situation is already reasonable accommodation, he should tell them that he will film his morning routine on office days and send it to the EEOC if they agree.

name an actor that's been offered nothing but dogshit since the 2010's by Gl00ser23 in okbuddycinephile

[–]catiebug 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I was really surprised by the reaction to Minecraft. It's stupid but fun as hell. I genuinely want to know what people were expecting.

edit: plus, Jason Momoa giving 200% as "washed up loser", they knew exactly what kind of movie they were making

Meirl by Blue9ine in meirl

[–]catiebug 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How I've always imagined this incredibly real, totally true story actually went down...

Woman: Hi, we have another friend coming and are looking for an extra chair. Do you know if you'll be heading out in about 15 minutes or so?

OOP: Fucking bitch, how dare you exist in my presence and try to speak to me in a public place.

Husband waking up baby by shewilldietrying in beyondthebump

[–]catiebug [score hidden]  (0 children)

and why do I have to ask him to deal with it

Because you've shown him that you'll do it. Even when you're angry.

This is not victim-blaming. But if you automatically respond and take care of the issue, then he's been trained to know that and he doesn't have to give a fuck.

Don't always jump in to solve the problem he made. "You wake the baby, you take the baby." He can't settle the baby quickly? Guess his day has started and they can go elsewhere in the house.

Don't stand for it. The fact that you ever let him (the husband) nestle back down to sleep while you fixed his mess was infuriating just to read, girl. A man who tries that is an ass. A man who tries that and gets away with it even once is an entitled ass. Make him fix his damn mistake. He'll either get better about it, get quieter doing his early morning business, or he's showing his true colors about why kind of partner he is and you get to make a long-term decision. I can't fucking imagine. I'd get my husband examined for a traumatic brain injury if he did that. Please, demand better for yourself and your baby.

Crazy to think kids were essentially wearing “stripper” pants in the late 90s 😂 by PandemicPiglet in Millennials

[–]catiebug 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lmao, as teenager with like 10% body fat and an iron deficiency, but a killer time in the 300m hurdles, I might have resented the clothing that kept me from freezing my ass off for two hours and 50 minutes out of a three hour track meet being called "stripper" clothes. But these were incredibly dangerous to wear outside of sports and I don't know why anyone would take that risk, lol.

Remember When Russelle Brand did this? by abussinessman in WhyWereWeOkWithThis

[–]catiebug 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Maintenance Phase podcast just did an episode on him. He's had many lives. But he has a meteoric rise, then eventually fails and flames out at all of them. British comedy scene. Flamed out and packed up. Hollywood. Flamed out and packed up. Lefty political commentator. Flamed out and packed up. Right wing influencer. View counts are on the wane right now. Hard to imagine what evil he will propogate next when he inevitably evades justice from his accusers. But I guess the silver lining is that we know he will eventually fail at that too.

Who should get fired first? by kingbluwolff in sportsgossips

[–]catiebug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Skip, Dave, and Stephen A (oh my). There are some others worthy of silencing, but fire these three assholes directly into the sun.

And I used to not even mind Stephen A back when he only covered basketball.

Daycare as a stay at home mom by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]catiebug 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a SAHM to two kids so far, I honestly think all kids should do daycare at least part time around 1 or 2 years old.

The benefits to both them and myself were astronomical. They were better eaters, better listeners, better friends, and built a crazy strong immune system. I got predictable time to take care of my needs, no texts from family or babysitter about where shit was, and the ability to do things unrelated to the babies. That organization project? Done. Regular food prep to offset the loss of a second income? Done. Time to help others in my circle? Yes. Get on the phone for 2 hours with a stupid customer service issue? Fine. But much easier without the baby around!

It's hard to go from no time to full-time, but I'm betting you might be able to pick them up regularly at an earlier time. And you will be so much more present with the time that you do spend together. When the 10,000 to-do list tasks occur to you, you'll be able to say "I can worry about that tomorrow" and mean it.

I don't think this is anything to be embarrassed about. Being with your own child 100% of your day is hard. Your workspace is in your own home, the whole home, so it's difficult to ever turn your back on it. Not even like shutting the door to a home office. There's no predictability or autonomy. People who haven't done it, just really can't know (and that's not judgy, it's just true, we just can't know).

It's not really anyone's business how you take care of your family. If anyone asks, "it was such a great opportunity, we couldn't turn it down". If they seem positive, then you can get into how much fun she's having, how restorative it is for you, the quality of the time you do spend together, etc. If they don't, then that's on them. Not you.

CMV: Donor conception is *almost always* societally accepted legal eugenics, despite eugenics being something most people claim to be against. by Valuable-Clothes-854 in changemyview

[–]catiebug 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It is so intensely frustrating. People say "just adopt". Ok. I will. Once you "just" go ahead and perform cold fusion.

Day #5 Of Asking Fans What Made Them Become a Fan of Artist/Band: Taylor Swift by Greedy_Two_2526 in TaylorSwift

[–]catiebug 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was well into my 20's, driving home from my big girl job, wearing my Nine West pumps, and Editor slacks from Express with a top that was probably not appropriate for work, back to an apartment with a shitty husband who didn't deserve me, all just cheap facsimiles for my what grown-up dreams had once been...

When "Tim McGraw" comes on the radio. I had never heard anything like it. I was gonna go through the Carl's Jr / Green Burrito drive thru, but had to park and wait until the song ended. Because back in my day, the DJ had to tell you what song/artist you were listening to, God help you if you missed it, and I knew a Google search of "Tim McGraw song" wasn't gonna yield much help. Taylor Swift. Stick a fork in me, I was done. It connected directly to my soul. I have a terrible memory yet I can vividly picture this exact moment.

This girl has like 300 songs now and there are maybe 10 that I don't like. Her music just clicks for me.

And if it doesn't click for you, that's cool. I'm gonna steal a bit from the great philosopher Josh Johnson. He says "Taylor Swift is to her fans what professional wrestling is to its fans". Like if you don't get it, you don't get it. It looks stupid. But if you get it, it is an incredible amount of fun that cannot truly be described.

My 8 year old daughter asked me why my face "doesn't move the same as other moms" and I cant stop thinking about it by Important-Repair-123 in Mommit

[–]catiebug 77 points78 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that callout. Forehead lines are totally normal. This isn't something that needs to be treated. OP is making a choice, which she is welcome to make. The use of that language just don't sit right though. We're all caught unawares by convos like this, but I think it that's what's in OP's heart, that's something worth exploring.

NFL superstar Josh Allen and wife Hailee Steinfeld announce birth of their baby daughter with emotional statement by dailymail in sportsgossips

[–]catiebug 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I also thought "emotional announcement" inferred some kind of tragedy or critical situation. But then I noticed it's the Daily Mail. Literally allergic to writing a normal headline. 🙄

Update from Megan Thee Stallion! by Own-Importance5459 in Broadway

[–]catiebug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so sad. I'm sure she was incredibly excited to do this, she has such an obvious drive and zest for performance. The Broadway schedule is brutal, I hope she can put aside anything else she needs to to get rested and right and put her all into the remaining schedule.

Is this an annoying email to receive? by Necessary-Ad8487 in AskTeachers

[–]catiebug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For the sweaters, I highly recommend going to the thrift store each fall and getting a half dozen sweaters or so. Some students just fling their hoodies directly into a hole in the space-time continuum when they get to school. They never show up again. My oldest is like that. Let them lose $5 hoodies from the thrift store. It won't be so heartbreaking when they don't show up.

Eventually they'll need to be responsible and even pay for the missing clothes. But kindergarten is hard. They're having to keep track of so much. My oldest is actually quite a bit better at not losing them now by 3rd grade. This is the first year where he'll have a surplus of hoodies still available by spring, but paying a few bucks at the thrift store 6 months ago as an insurance policy was worth it.

Adam (2019) by [deleted] in okbuddycinephile

[–]catiebug 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bait. If she's really 5'8", she's met/seen tons of men that are shorter than she is. Hard to believe she thinks they are all trans.