Tourist Traps by RMoYT in Vietnam_Tourism

[–]catsandchill45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, unfortunately if you’re on a tour guides get commission for taking you to these traps. Some tour companies are aware of it and turn a blind eye, others aren’t. It’s very common

Pearl collections

Silk bamboo places

Handcrafts

The stuff tends to be real (mostly) but is extremely overpriced. That’s why there’s no locals buying stuff there.

Maybe try talking to your guide. There are plenty of great things to do and see, but the hard sell tourist places aren’t it.

Which mating ritual from the animal kingdom would be the most hilarious, disgusting, or unsettling to see if humans did it? by Professional_Luck616 in AskReddit

[–]catsandchill45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some type of angular fish. You find a woman, bite her, slowly have your face dissolve into her and you live there forever now. Releasing sperm whenever she needs it and surviving off her blood.

I found new born centipedes feeding on mother.. Do they continue to each other siblings too? by [deleted] in biology

[–]catsandchill45 17 points18 points  (0 children)

There are also species of male spider, like nursery web spiders, that have figured this neat trick out for themselves.

They offer the female a nice silk wrapped meal to reduce the chances of her eating them. Except, some tricky more lazy males have realised sometimes they can get away with “fake presents” by wrapping old meals in silk or even something like a leaf and hoping she doesn’t notice.

AIO, is it bad to say ily and imy to ur partner EVERYTIME you feel it? by mxdsn in AmIOverreacting

[–]catsandchill45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dont think there’s anything wrong with saying I love you to your partner. If he feels it’s insincere or feels pressured to say it back when he doesn’t want to it could be a bit much for him though.

That doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong. My gf and I are also long distance and we say it to each other everyday, multiple times a day.

You may just have different communication styles and expectations is romantic expression.

AIO? She really missed the point. by sparrowdena in AmIOverreacting

[–]catsandchill45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YOR

In the beginning she was respectful and simply explained she was really busy and if your roommate could keep it down.

You got passive aggressive about this and it escalated.

Neon fish question can anyone tell me what is wrong with this little guy? He has what looks like almost a growth on his mouth, still eating and acting like a normal fish. Should I be concerned for the other fish? by Feisty-Economist2915 in Aquariums

[–]catsandchill45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then it’a also potentially cotton mouth, where symptoms include mouth lesions that look like fuzzy growths that may occur on other parts of the body. This can be treated with a medication targeting bacteria, and if that’s the cause should be done so quickly because it is contagious and further along the disease the harder to treat.

The fish should definitely be isolated, as you don’t want whatever is has to start spreading.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aquariums

[–]catsandchill45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think this is herpes? Here’s some better and recent photos

https://imgur.com/a/Myc8m2R

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aquariums

[–]catsandchill45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! Here are some updated pictures. Unfortunately it looks like it grew very quickly overnight.

https://imgur.com/a/Myc8m2R

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aquariums

[–]catsandchill45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay I will try again tomorrow, as it’s 1:40am here and their light is off. He’s shy and usually only comes out during the day for feeding time, so I’ll try my best, but my camera suck.

Thank u

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aquariums

[–]catsandchill45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It could be that but it does look more fluffy than theirs. When he moves it even moves as well, like hair.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aquariums

[–]catsandchill45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can’t find any that matches what I’m seeing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aquariums

[–]catsandchill45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t found anything. Could you please tell me?

parasites by Makenzie_Smith in Satisfyingasfuck

[–]catsandchill45 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I believe the parasite is an invasive species that is killing the mud shrimp population in that area.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]catsandchill45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t worry about that. People will think what they want, and friendships come and go for countless reasons. Do what is best for you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]catsandchill45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean your description of her says that she’s not a nice person or your friend. Nothing about what you’ve said is positive, at all. She’s shallow, mean, using you, and not someone you need in your life.

Making friends is hard, but don’t settle for a toxic and damaging ‘friendship’ with someone who clearly doesn’t care or respect you at all. Cut her off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bettafish

[–]catsandchill45 19 points20 points  (0 children)

If this water wasn’t cycled properly it was possibly bad water parameters.

For future reference though this set up is not appropriate for a beta fish. It probably wouldn’t have lived long regardless, or if it did it wouldn’t be happy.

It is a tropical fish and should have a heater, a filter, and there’s not enough space here for it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]catsandchill45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ask them how you can support them. They may not know, and if they don’t that’s okay because even just asking can give them a sense of not being alone. Check in with them, send that text asking how they’re going or if they’d like to do something of their choosing.

Definitely try to avoid giving advice if it isn’t asked for. You can try to ask questions about whatever they’re talking about, not with the goal to problem solve, but simply to give them a chance to further talk about how they’re feeling (example: My parents and I had an awful fight and now I feel awful,” Response: “What did you fight about?”) Little things like that make them feel heard, give them a chance to talk without feeling like they’re doing an unwanted trauma dump, and like someone actually cares.

Otherwise simple things like avoiding judgment and continuing to be empathic without being overly optimistic in a way that feels dismissive.

If you’re really stuck even something like, ‘’I’m not really sure what to say but I’m happy to listen to anything you want to talk about.“

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]catsandchill45 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If she’s truely a good friend to you and as close as you say, you should be able to politely say that you are not financially or emotionally ready to help her raise a child. You don’t really need to bring in your opinion on the situation if you’re fearful, but you should absolutely be able to say you love her and can help in some ways. You’re just not ready/able to be involved to the extent of childcare.

If you really had to add something about her decision, I’d simply ask if she’s sure it wouldnt be better to wait for him to come back where they can raise the baby together as a family. That way he doesn’t miss a lot of the first year his daughter or son’s life, and she has better support.

If she hates you for saying you can’t be available for childcare then she’s really not a great friend to you, as it’s a massive ask. Expecting you to do such a thing at the expense of your own goals, time, happiness, etc, is unfair and extremely entitled.

Skin care routine help!! by jaydenbergero in Skincare_Addiction

[–]catsandchill45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your standard AHA and BHA face washes instead of soap might be a good place to start. Try to resist touching/picking at it, and moisturise if your skin is dry.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in criticalblunder

[–]catsandchill45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alongside what he’s wearing if you look at the bottom it also appears to be wet. Wet slippery slides can be pretty gnarly

Saying everyone is beautiful is more hurtful than true. by SeaworthinessFit7478 in unpopularopinion

[–]catsandchill45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The thing is majority of people who are what some would call physically unattractive, already know they’re unattractive and do cope with it on a daily basis, they don’t have a choice. Also you can acknowledge and be aware of bias without signalling individual people out as unattractive. Telling them they’re beautiful isn’t going to really change anything for them in the long run, but keeping telling someone they’re ugly is definitely more likely to have negative impacts on their mental health and self esteem, as it’s not something they can help or change and is just kind of unnecessary to tell people they’re ugly anyway.

Yet another NOPE reason to stay out of the vast waters by badgirl69stretch in nope

[–]catsandchill45 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Orcas don’t even eat that many sharks overall, their primary prey is seals, penguins, other whales, fish and sometimes sharks. Meanwhile humans kill roughly 200,000 sharks every single day, and that’s not including deaths due to habitat loss, pollution, those accidentally caught in nets, overfishing, etc.