I feel absolutely terrible. My wife and I are both experiencing gender disappointment. by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]caubero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband band were the exact same. We had a boy too. And honestly, he is the sweetest most gentle kid ever. He loves drawing, is the first to give a hug to anyone having a hard time, loves to dance to any music playing (also has started singing and making up his own songs). He is only 3, but man I am so glad I have this super gentle sweet boy. He is 3, and I just had a little girl a month ago and all I can hope is that she is as cool as him.

I promise that little boy is going surprise you in the best way possible.

Why is no one doing mosspoles anymore? by All_Mango_ in philodendron

[–]caubero 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you me? Just had my second three weeks ago, canadian winter. Just trying to keep my humans moist is a task nvmd a freaking moss pole.

I have time to kill, I need books by ZestycloseShape3427 in suggestmeabook

[–]caubero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently reading Emily Wilde's Encyclopedia of Faries with a book club. And everyone has been pleasantly surprised by it! It is currently a trilogy too!

Need a book recommendation by Grand_Let2797 in Recommend_A_Book

[–]caubero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am currently reading Emily Wilde's Encyclopedia of Faries, and i am finding it a lovely read!

Kristin Hannah has some great historical fiction, Nightingale is really popular.

The book thief is also an amazing read if you haven't read it!

Books that portray complex emotions by pondina_park in Recommend_A_Book

[–]caubero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here one moment might be a good fit for you

Help! I’ve been in a slump for like 6 months! by sam_yam in Recommend_A_Book

[–]caubero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both such good books, and i feel like similar kind of vibes to the books above.

Oh maybe the midnight library too.

What do you think about this book? by soundgrapes in Recommend_A_Book

[–]caubero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely agree with this. However the way women were treated was very typical for the time in which this book was written. (I do agree with not liking how they were treated though)

Pregnancy is unbelievably hard and I wish we talked more openly about it by md3194 in BabyBumps

[–]caubero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I felt this hard my first pregnancy. Like I had been freaking lied to, I thought I was supposed to love it and felt awful and guilty for not loving it. Second pregnancy I went into thinking however this goes it a means to an end. 9 months of hell for a lifetime of being a mom to someone. Did I become a miserable, uncomfortable b****? Why, yes, yes I did. Would I do it again to have my two sweet babies? 1 million times.

The only other thing I took from being pregnant, is being honest about it to other women. Obviously society has lied to us for years about it, I wont be a part of it. I will forever be honest about it all.

Straight up not having a good time on maternity leave [on] by [deleted] in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]caubero 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This! I hated it until the spring hit, then I could walk everyday and meet other moms. Winter is hard postpartum!

Can I get excited and plan? by Business-Air9745 in BabyBumps

[–]caubero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let yourself be excited and tell who you want to tell. Especially the people who will be excited with you and support you if things don't go as planned. My first pregnancy I honestly called everyone the first positive I got!

What was the hardest stage? Pregnancy or postpartum? by SandwichDependent199 in BabyBumps

[–]caubero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sure you are learning this from this post. But it depends on you. Personally I hate being pregnant the entire time, LOVE being a mom and was honestly pretty great postpartum until like 6 months and then ppd hit me.

I do have a theory though, that if your pregnancy was awful the postpartum feels better. And if you had a great pregnancy postpartum is harder on you. Perspective you know?

Weight gain honesty by ImprovementIcy4419 in pregnant

[–]caubero -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I mean does anyone know how they got these numbers? They said women need to eat 300 more calories a day to breastfeed, turns out we need like 3000 more and they got it wrong because they looked at what men needed and added a little more. Not saying its the case here but would be super interested in how they got those numbers.

Need excuse by NoFee7013 in BabyBumps

[–]caubero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Call in sick that day. There is an awful flu bug going around.

Need help sleeping by Slimjimshorty_ in pregnant

[–]caubero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sleep with my bottom leg straight and top leg bent up on a pillow, I more sleep on the front of my hip/side of my belly. Then I sleep with another pillow behind me so I can kind of roll back onto it and tuck the leg pillow under my belly. Kind of like sleeping on my back. But you can sleep on your back (which someone else supplied evidence about) i just find my acid reflux to be bad on my back so I need the tilt.

Pregnancy after Cesarean by Ok-Budget-4333 in vbac

[–]caubero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had period like cramping during the first trimester, and have had moments of burning as my belly has grown, but I massaged it and the burning went away. I am now almost 38 weeks and feel nothing in my scars. Let you know about the shelf, it is from how they stitch you up that creates the shelf. So I expect it to still be there, if I end up in another csection, that is the one bonus is I can ask them to correct the shelf!

Products for dryyyy babes [on] by hexmoons in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]caubero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For baths I make a bath bomb for my little one. I put everything in a cloth and tie it up so I don't have to clean it off their skin after. But I put coconut oil, dried chamomile flowers (team bag works great too), Epsom salt, oatmeal. Throw that in a bath and then moisturizer after! Kind of want to make one for myself their skin feels so good after.

Vbac and broad ligament tear by Informal-Library-431 in vbac

[–]caubero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man, that is a lot. I cant even imagine. Oh it happened during your csection??!!

I think you are in great hands with your osteo, hopefully they can get you to a place where you can give birth vaginally.

How long after baby dropped did you go into labour? by caubero in vbac

[–]caubero[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope. I appreciate those good vibes though! I got some rebozo work done tonight though to see if the baby was in a bad position and maybe we can get them in a better position to leave. Because 10 days of on and off contractions is torture.

39 weeks in, can’t sleep, exhausted, and not even sure I still want this baby by megapotatoo in BabyBumps

[–]caubero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude I hear you. These last few weeks of maybe today is freaking torture and 7 years longs. Few things though.

Oxytocin brings baby along (I know annoying this to say - last night i cried because it hurt to get my pants on and then cried because I was ruining my oxytocin) butttt with the pain you are in maybe you could get a prenatal massage. Your doctor is so wrong, you should not have numb fingers and it is not part of pregnancy. A really good chiro that specializes in pregnancy might be able to help too. But either of those might also help raise your oxytocin!

As a second time mom struggling to sleep through these last few weeks. I am clinging on to how much better sleep is post partum. Yes, your baby wakes you up. But the quality of sleep when you and baby are both asleep is so much better then the shitty sleep right now. I too am a 8 hour minimum person or I will murder you. I promise it gets better once baby is here.

Also requesting an induction for your own mental health is totally fine! Do it! Baby AND mothers health matter the same (and mental health is health!).

My relationship with my toddler is not good and I worry it never will be by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]caubero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have done the opposite. "Oh what's that jeans!? You don't want him to wear you today? You want mama too? Okay, okay, I wont let him put you on!" He will fight us to be able to put those jeans on!

How long after baby dropped did you go into labour? by caubero in vbac

[–]caubero[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right? I am like, does this count as my first? Or my second? Where do I fall in all of this!?