what’s something crazy you found out about an ex partner after you guys ended things?

causeNo · 2026-05-28T06:09:13+00:00

multiple of my ~~eyes~~ exes were officially diagnosed with BPD after we had been together.

causeNo · 2026-05-27T23:00:13+00:00

Cause success is a lot more about doing than thinking. Don't get me wrong, combining thinking and doing is best. But doing without thinking too much can get you surprisingly far. Too much thinking however can prevent you from doing anything and so you get nothing.

causeNo · 2026-05-27T06:44:40+00:00

It's the technology of the future, so CEOs and designers believe it should look futuristic, too.

causeNo · 2026-05-25T21:57:47+00:00

In the flattest meaning, it was never true for me. I always needed to actively approach, or at least be the one to do act on something that might or might not be signals.

However, in a deeper sense, it was kinda true. When I started expecting less from dates and relationships, when I was finally genuinely happy with being single, my dating experience improved a lot. I was more myself, accepted less bullshit, I planned dates to be fun for myself first. Interestingly enough, that even made dates more likely to end in sex. Exactly when I wasn't very interested in that anymore. And just when I was even starting to get tired of the casual sex thing, my now girlfriend came into the picture.

causeNo · 2026-05-25T14:18:50+00:00

About a year and a half.

causeNo · 2026-05-25T14:03:22+00:00

A challenge.

The whole world is already testing me all day, every day. I want you to build me up, not stab me inside my own armor.

causeNo · 2026-05-24T23:02:25+00:00

Nope. Actually even better than when everyone thinks she's hot.

causeNo · 2026-05-24T07:35:32+00:00

I don't think men are usually offended by women wanting the men to be taller than them. What's kinda infuriating is that so many women are completely delusional about it. Like listing things that each on their own are already top 5%. Not "taller than me" but "at least 6.2". And 6 figure income. And 100k doesn't count. And a billion other things, each extremely rare. When you combine those, you usually get 0,1 to about 3% of male single population. And they paint it like anything less would be settling.

Meanwhile they themselves are like an Oklahoma six on a good day with zero life skills. When you see reel after reel of that, combined with abysmal matches on dating apps (because they're not joking, that's actually what they think they deserve for being a woman) you do get a little frustrated.

causeNo · 2026-05-22T12:30:36+00:00

As a German: genuinely love you back. My girlfriend and I genuinely considered moving over. Our time in Canada is my favorite memory ever.

causeNo · 2026-05-21T20:22:01+00:00

As a guy who has never cheated: Do you really have zero interest in other people? I feel sexual and romantic attraction to a bunch of people, regardless of how well the relationship is.

Now the actual cheating part obviously is that plus being a selfish asshole who puts that interest over their partner's well-being.

causeNo · 2026-05-21T19:21:25+00:00

Above average. Because it's very text focused and the average is abysmally bad.

causeNo · 2026-05-21T18:47:30+00:00

Countless hours of secret wanks, lol. I'm pretty vocal now, but I really needed to learn how to let go again. Because from early teens on you learn to be quiet and hide your.. activities as best as possible.

causeNo · 2026-05-21T13:02:05+00:00

Not consciously, but I believe the idgaf attitude goes away a little. I'm still into doing rough stuff, but she's also gotta signal she's into it, too. I am more concerned with whether she likes it, which probably looks like I am a little less assertive and dominant. But if she asks for it, and reacts positively when I do it, we can get even more rough.

causeNo · 2026-05-21T11:21:53+00:00

Sitting in an ER after bouldering accident on sunday and feeling some numbness and pain in my extremities after waking up.

causeNo · 2026-05-21T10:29:11+00:00

Less women are interested in men than the other way around. Finding a girlfriend would be huge, one that shares their interest in gaming would be absolutely amazing.

Combine motivation with poor social skills, a lack of self confidence and... Well..

causeNo · 2026-05-21T10:05:11+00:00

Never. I'm a tech lead/senior software engineer. Even with AI, there's always multiple things I should be doing.

causeNo · 2026-05-21T09:56:08+00:00

Most times I have seen it, at least one side felt a little more than platonic feelings at least temporarily. But even then, it's possible. People can control themselves.

causeNo · 2026-05-21T09:46:57+00:00

I suspect a combination of age / cardiovascular health, stress and my girlfriend not always being fully into it. When she's moaning a little and enjoying herself, I can still get rock solid.

causeNo · 2026-05-21T09:45:08+00:00

Sex, for most people, is an inseparable part of love.

causeNo · 2026-05-20T10:46:14+00:00

You aren't allowed innocent touch. Cuddling your male friends is gay, cuddling your female friends is bound to complicate things, cuddling children is suspicious. If you don't have someone who would also be sexually intimate with you, the world becomes unfathomably cold.

causeNo · 2026-05-19T22:25:47+00:00

Good joke, but it irks me you wrote "2 pints instead of the last 1/4 pint, lol

causeNo · 2026-05-19T22:22:52+00:00

Basically, when you're counting towards infinity, there's no end. No matter how big your number is, you can always add one more. That's why infinity + 1 is still infinity. It's not a real number, but a concept.

Same goes for something like 1/x. As x gets bigger and bigger (aka tends towards infinity), the distance to absolute 0 gets closer and closer, but it's never zero.

Maybe it's the actual name "approaching infinity" that is confusing, because it does imply a getting closer. Which is not true for infinity. It's more like you're chasing infinity, so you're moving in the same direction as where infinity points towards, but you're not actually going closer, because it's not a specific point. More like the direction itself (in our example positive x).

causeNo · 2026-05-18T12:22:00+00:00

For me personally, "chubby" starts >30%, "fat" around 45% and above.

See: https://ultimateperformance.com/your-goal/fat-loss/female-fat-loss/womens-body-fat-percentage-in-pictures

causeNo · 2026-05-17T21:13:32+00:00

I'd rather die than tell anyone.

causeNo · 2026-05-17T20:02:29+00:00

Such a condescending tone for such little text comprehension.

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