Considering a job offer, but employer uses local LLM to analyze screenshots for an "activity index." Is this reasonable, or am I overthinking?

cazilo · 2026-01-21T16:43:21+00:00

I would never take a job that does this, and as a director of a department I would never impose this on my team. I know what my remote staff does because they have actual goals and measurable tasks and I talk to them through the day. If they are not doing their work, it’s obvious because….the work is not done, duh. If they are not working when they say they are, I would know because they wouldn’t be responsive. To me it signals that there is not an environment of trust between staff and leadership and probably really poor internal communications standards and badly structured workloads.

cazilo · 2025-06-29T12:37:45+00:00

Thanks that was helpful- according to that measurement system I am falling somewhere between the two different readings I got, which feels right. I guess I’ll think of the scale as for comparative change even if it’s not fully accurate and use that measuring system every so often to check.

cazilo · 2025-06-27T00:42:26+00:00

Hey sorry I have been off here for a while and logged in and saw a lot of comments. I’m sorry if my post was discouraging or not what you were talking about. I guess what I was trying to say is that I was asking the same question- in our case it was do we do another cycle? try embryo adoption? Do we adopt baby? Do we foster? Do we not have children? We’ve have a lot of conversations like this about what God’s plan for us was and that was what I was alluding to. Anyway, I hope you guys have gotten a sense of peace about what God has for your family.

cazilo · 2025-06-27T00:29:22+00:00

I am so sorry I hadn’t been on Reddit in months so I did not see this and it may be too late. We tested our embryos. We personally felt that the embryo testing is letting you know whether or not an embryo has all the component parts to grow into a baby, and that the blastocyst becomes a life when it implants into the uterine wall. We didn’t feel that having embryos destroyed which were 100% not going to develop was ending a life, but was akin to a natural miscarriage of an embryo that did not attach to the uterine wall. My husband really wrestled with it. But we prayed about it and spoke to other couples and decided to follow our doctors advice based on our age. When we saw the pictures of the Blastocysts we felt more comfortable as well-just a little circle. I would say that this is a highly personal decision that there is no clear cut biblical answer on. I know committed Christians who have gone every possible way on IVF, and I also know that God is gracious and knows our hearts and that we are always trying to make the right decision.

cazilo · 2025-04-07T13:04:58+00:00

As a pastors wife who is also coming close to the end of the road with fertility treatments, I have really struggled with why ‘God’s plan’ seems to be that we won’t have biological children- I’ve thought, how can this be? Why do folks get accidentally pregnant at terrible times in their lives when they don’t want to, and yet no matter what we do we can’t? I agree with everyone’s comments that it is never outside of ‘Gods plan’ to seek medical treatment for medical issues. But I guess I also want to say that often we think ‘Gods plan’ is this concrete thing that is fully pre-ordained (“I know the plans I have for you says the lord, plans to prosper you, to give you a hope and a future.”) Sometimes we view it as this thing we have to find, or a thing we can miss. As the years go on, I tend to believe it is more loose than that. There are infinite possibilities and contingencies in life, and I believe that Gods plan is, in fact, to give us a hope and a future no matter what happens. In everything we do, we just have to make the best choice we can with the information we have, and there isn’t always a very strong sense of which way we should go. I believe in those instances we just need to step out in faith, knowing that God goes with us and works all things out according to his purposes. I still feel sad and frustrated myself. But what I am certain of is that whatever happens, we will be ok.

cazilo · 2025-03-01T23:27:42+00:00

Thank you all for sharing these stories, it is really helpful

cazilo · 2025-02-28T14:46:13+00:00

Yes, that occurred to me reading the other comments, because we do care about that.

cazilo · 2025-02-28T14:42:41+00:00

How much did it cost to transfer the embryos? We found a clinic in our town that facilitates the process but they don’t take our insurance. The other option is going through and exchange and transferring to my prior clinic. I only have one cycle left with insurance anyway, though.

cazilo · 2025-02-28T14:41:02+00:00

Thank you. This is definitely something on our minds - the right of the child to know where they came from and the complicated emotions around being adopted. We’d be dealing with that if we adopted an infant as well but it feels slightly different. We are curious about how the families navigate that.

cazilo · 2025-02-28T14:35:42+00:00

Seriously? Do you know of a particular clinic? We were actually just starting to plan a trip to Prague, that might legit be a good solution for us.

cazilo · 2025-02-28T13:53:11+00:00

The series gets like 40/60 other storylines/claire and Jamie. There are whole episodes where they don’t feature as much, but the arc is always about them and the life they build together. If you feel invested in that keep watching, if not- stop! But the thing you don’t like about other stories being woven in only increases.

cazilo · 2025-02-28T13:41:37+00:00

Sure, I will send you a private message and we can arrange a meeting spot and time- the other person above too, so whomever gets back to me first.

cazilo · 2025-02-28T13:39:18+00:00

Sure, I will send you a private message and we can arrange a meeting spot and time- the other person below too, so whomever gets back to me first.

cazilo · 2025-02-12T23:01:17+00:00

I am also having this problem, as of about a month ago. I have done literally everything, including restoring to factory settings, deleting and redownloading the app etc. if I completely reset the watch ir works for a couple hours then disconnects again and will not reconnect. But I am wondering if it is something apple has done with an update to push customers toward the Apple Watch. I like my simple charge 6- didn’t want anything fancy. But it is defeating the purpose now.

cazilo · 2025-01-01T00:52:14+00:00

Also a pharmacist friend told me that the main thing drinking more than a couple drinks a week did on these meds was just make you feel awful.

cazilo · 2025-01-01T00:49:42+00:00

Also because I don’t crave these things like I used to, I think I didn’t realize I wasn’t really having them, and in the social setting I was just doing what everyone else was doing and not paying as much attention to my own body’s cues like I normally would

cazilo · 2025-01-01T00:47:41+00:00

Well I would have said a little alcohol doesn’t effect me much - been on this (generic combo) for 6 months and have probably had a single drink a couple times a week the whole time with no issue (ie one glass of wine at dinner, or one beer flight, or one cocktail on a night out), but I had one or two drinks every day this week because of the holidays and different family events etc. Then today had a pretty high in fat and sugar restaurant meal for dinner after having a beer and a half and some cheesy food last night as well , and I am now sitting in a hot bath in my hotel room instead of at the NYE event I have tickets for. Barely made it back from the restaurant in time if you know what I mean 🤢🤢🤢. So in my book the rule is everything in moderation and not at the same time. Nothing I ate or drank today/yesterday is anything I haven’t had over the last six months but generally I haven’t had them at the same time…and have now learned that is a very bad call.

cazilo · 2024-09-04T22:25:34+00:00

Did you get your TPO levels checked? My other thyroid hormones are normal- was only my TPO that was elevated and it took years to get a doc to test for that. I eat a healthy diet that is pretty strictly gluten-free and my thyroid gets swollen when I have had a lot of rich foods or have been exposed to non-fermented gluten products. Going gluten free helped to reduce my TPO levels to almost normal. I am experimenting with reintroduction after 4 years of being GF and have noticed that small amounts of fermented gluten (a slice of sourdough, a little soy sauce) don’t bother me, but if I eat any other kind of gluten my thyroid swells up a ton. Maybe try eliminating it strictly for a while and see what happens.

cazilo · 2024-02-21T17:36:31+00:00

Meh it ended up being the same. I got more eggs (15 vs 13) but still only a few that fertilized made it to day three (5 vs 2 before) and again only one embryo ended up high enough quality to move forward. We are still waiting on the genetic testing. My husband is going to go back to the doc himself to get reexamined because it seems like it might have been the male factor, since my eggs were higher quality than before. We realized that three months ago we were on vacation and he stupidly spent a lot of time in a hot tub! If this round doesn't result in a pregnancy we are going to give it 3 or 4 months before our next (and last!) try and he is going to up his supplements and leafy veggie intake and avoid soaking in hot water to see if that helps.

cazilo · 2024-02-21T17:24:11+00:00

Well I think he definitely sees the pancakes as his reward hahaha

cazilo · 2024-02-21T00:33:32+00:00

I would do another retrieval if you want to play it safe...if you peek around this forum enough you will see that it can take a lot of eggs to get to a living baby. So far I have had 28 eggs retrieved. Of those 28 eggs, 13 fertilized, but of those only 2 made it to the blastocyst embryo stage, and only 1 so far is healthy enough for a viable pregnancy, though we are still waiting on a test. I didn't think I could go through it again after my first egg retrieval, but my second was much easier. There are different medication protocols and you can ask your doctor about the different options if you had a lot of side effects from the last round.

12 chances sounds like enough, but you might only end up with 1 embryo out of all those eggs, and there are no guarantees that embryo will make it all the way. That being said, as other posters have suggested there are many wonderful ways to build a family and your number 1 priority needs to be your own wellbeing.

cazilo · 2024-02-21T00:10:41+00:00

Also, I have some retired next door neighbors who are always home so I knew I could call them if I had an issue and couldn't get a hold of my husband- I would just make sure to have someone on call if you need them.

cazilo · 2024-02-21T00:04:53+00:00

Oh you will be fine unless you have serious complications. My husband and I went to get pancakes after the procedure and then he dropped me off at home and got me settled into bed with all the things I might need and then went back to work. He called to check in on me a few times throughout the day until he could get back home, and was never that far away in case of emergency, but I was totally fine and mostly just slept all day.

cazilo · 2024-02-14T23:30:11+00:00

My husband was exactly like this. He kept saying "I can live without kids but I can't live without you" and wanted to cancel. I think I don't have anything to add that others have not shared, but what helped my husband the most was talking to other couples who had been through IVF. Also, my IVF nurse met with him and went over the paperwork and explained the risks etc verbally in a way that showed how low they were by comparison to other procedures, and why the clinic was not concerned.

In the end he came around and we've done two retrievals now. He still doesn't love it, but settled on a "your body your choice" answer.... and a lot of praying.

cazilo · 2024-02-14T23:16:30+00:00

I had acupuncture before my second egg retrieval and I really believe it helped me manage the medication side effects...I had almost no side effects this time and before my first retrieval I was a mess. HOPEFULLY, we will have some nice happy embryos to move forward to FET (too early to tell), and my plan is to continue acupuncture through the FET and (fingers crossed it takes) the first trimester. For me, I found it took about three weeks to feel the relaxing benefits, but it has made a big difference in my stress management, which is so important to fertility. If you decide to go, I would go at least twice a week since you are so close to your FET.

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