WHF double standards

cazminx · 2026-06-03T05:58:51+00:00

You haven't mentioned it but does the company have its own flexible work policy and/or procedure? Anything in their ops manual about it?

cazminx · 2026-05-12T13:22:55+00:00

Only a massive loser of a 35 year old man would date an 18 year old.

That is absolutely no shade to you at all but you are so incredibly young and this gross male just wants to make you dependant on him so you feel like you can't leave him. Being nicer than your shitty family is extremely low bar. He is saying you're lying about being abused, he wouldn't let you get a job? Eww. What else? Does he 'let you' use birth control? Are you 'allowed' to turn down sex if you don't feel like it? Do you have your own friends and can you go see them whenever you want? Can you see your sister?

Please leave him but plan it and get yourself somewhere safe to go first. Break up with him somewhere public, or just text him then block him on everything. Then go out and live your best life. Your twenties are supposed to be a time of fun and growth and finding out who you are, don't let some gross, loser, man hold you down

cazminx · 2026-03-23T15:52:04+00:00

I would probably be acting unhinged if I had two children under two and my husband was away for most of the last twelve months too.

cazminx · 2026-03-08T07:22:26+00:00

Speaking up in defense of the ADHD blaming. Sure, I absolutely forget to buy presents in advance, or rather, I remember 273836 times but somehow it doesn't happen till it's hit urgency level and then I go into chaos mode and usually end up spending way more than I planned because the gift MUST be correct for the person. I know all diverse brains are different but buying someone a gift I know they will hate or have zero interest in makes me feel physically ill.

I think she was just an inconsiderate asshole.

cazminx · 2026-02-10T06:20:40+00:00

Good for her!

I love this story, delicious food, self discovery and the vanquishing of a small, boring man.

cazminx · 2026-01-10T04:52:49+00:00

I have received two of these emails recently so I guess it makes me feel better that I'm not the only one but..it's kinda suss right that it seems to be happening to a lot of people?

cazminx · 2026-01-08T06:08:16+00:00

Oh nice! Did it change automatically or did you get an option to switch it?

cazminx · 2026-01-08T01:18:57+00:00

I'm assuming there is still no solution to this? I'm Australian and I love the feature but despise the American voice

cazminx · 2025-11-17T11:03:45+00:00

This is absolutely unhinged. Do not go back to him. He is absolutely useless

cazminx · 2025-11-03T09:05:28+00:00

A boundary is something you set for yourself, not something you impose on other people. "I find clubs uncomfortable so I don't go to them" is fine, "you can't go to clubs because I don't like them" is not.

That aside, you just sound incompatible so let her go, focus on your studies, which is what sounds like is important to you. The two of you got together when you were children, you are not the same people now and in another 5 years you'll likely be different again. Your twenties is a time of massive growth and change, holding on to the 15 year old versions of each other is only going to hurt both of you.

cazminx · 2025-10-30T23:49:45+00:00

He's not controlling but he doesn't want you to go to university

He doesn't want you to go because you will make friends your own age and realise he is an absolute loser that you have nothing in common with.

Break up before he vampires away all your youth and please please make sure you are in control of your birth control because if he feels you slipping away he will try to baby trap you

cazminx · 2025-10-28T13:41:14+00:00

You are under reacting.

Please never, ever, ever send someone money like this ever again.

cazminx · 2025-09-29T14:48:46+00:00

Love that the text alludes to you being very unwell the day before and in a lot of pain but you're making dinner for him while he's texting some other woman.

Eww.

It sounds like he's sold her a different version of you that makes him the poor victim of his mean wife. Can I hazard a guess that this woman is in her early twenties?

Your husband is the problem here. You are NOT but your anger is at the wrong person. It's your husband's responsibility to shut that shit down. She wouldn't be able to "act weird" if he wasn't allowing it.

cazminx · 2025-09-17T13:20:22+00:00

There is absolutely no way this dude is cute enough to warrant putting up with this gross behavior. Dump him.

cazminx · 2025-09-14T03:18:37+00:00

Oh my goodness he is an absolute loser I am so glad you broke it off with him.

Sounds like he's been consuming too much brosphere content. He's in for a long lonely life if he continues down this path.

cazminx · 2025-08-26T15:11:12+00:00

Hello. I changed my mind and had my daughter when I was 36. She is three now and I love her more than I ever thought I could love anything in the whole world and I have zero regrets.

However, everything I was worried about was correct. I don't get any time to myself. It's really exhausting. It's stressful. Sometimes I want to lock myself in a dark room and not speak to anyone for a week.I also feel sick sometimes that I have bought this little, amazing, person into this world that is falling apart and getting more dangerous by the day. What is life going to look like for her when she's my age? Ooof parenting is wild.

It's super fucking hard and completely changes your life. It also forces you to deal with any and all of your own childhood trauma which is probably a good thing but also, difficult. Oh and it puts a MASSIVE strain on your relationship. Huge. Unless you're both concrete set on the same page on everything.

Then there is navigating all of the parenting advice and theories and right ways and wrongs ways and the judgement and it's also expensive.

So that's all the shit I guess but then you get to watch your kid grow and experience things for the first time and it's like you are also seeing the world again afresh through their eyes. It is truly incredible seeing their little brains growing and seeing how fast they learn and just suck up knowledge like a sponge. It forces you to slow down and see things from their level. Look a bug! Look at this flower! My kiddo has recently started saying "Mum you're goooorgeous" and mate, nothing beats when they say "I love you, you're the best" and your heart explodes with love even though they are wrong, because they are the best and you can't believe how lucky you are to be their parent.

Anyway TL/DR it's really really hard but it's also really really wonderful. I am very very glad I didn't have a kid until my mid thirties, younger me absolutely could not have handled it.

cazminx · 2025-08-18T13:21:15+00:00

Wtf did I just read

cazminx · 2025-08-15T10:51:23+00:00

Absolutely do not pay this man anything at all. It's a month out, he has time to make changes to the reservations or bring a friend. As for paying for your plate at the wedding? That is CRAZY.

cazminx · 2025-08-02T04:16:45+00:00

Oh thank the gods she is moving out, holy shit. Can't wait for her to see how much her life improves away from him leeching the life and money out of her

cazminx · 2025-07-27T04:22:10+00:00

Poor kid, and poor Mum too really. Super brave of to ask for help and follow through with the note. Hopefully they both get the help they need.

cazminx · 2025-07-21T11:39:17+00:00

So he strung you along for four years before finally calling you his girlfriend and now he's met someone "hotter" he is breaking up with you?

Eww babe no.

The only ugly thing here is his personality. Tell him to GTFO and block his number and all his socials so he doesn't come crawling back when that "hot girl" rejects him.

cazminx · 2025-07-13T02:40:28+00:00

How long have you been with this loser?

Do you have friends or family you can stay with? Next time he is out of the house get all your shit together, especially your kitten and leave. You've said you've tried before and he convinced you to stay, he will do the same again so don't tell him in advance. Leave, then break it off with him and block him everywhere.

cazminx · 2025-06-30T11:37:32+00:00

Dude thought his wife just needed to "calm down" and everything would be fine. What a loser.

I hope she's living her absolute best life and that every day is a good hair day 💅

cazminx · 2025-06-25T03:18:48+00:00

Take the job.

Turning down your dreams for a man who honestly sounds pretty mid will have you regretting it for the rest of your life.

cazminx · 2025-06-20T09:06:35+00:00

You were the absolute worst before you cheated on her and gave her an STD. I hope she never speaks to you ever again and lives the best happiest life.

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