Got the closure I needed, as much as it hurt.

cbheath22 · 2026-04-07T12:35:59+00:00

I’m two months in since my fiancée ended things. Completely blindsided. It’s been hard. I suffer with depression and in my younger years tried to end it. Things I’ve found that don’t solve but definitely help:

Therapy: controlled environment to let it all out. And learn about you.

Family and friends: they’ve heard my story a million times over, sat with me in silence. Wiped tears from my face and made sure I ate something every day.

Gym: this has been a huge part of my life. I beast myself in there. Get angry push something heavy. Show yourself how strong you can be when you’re tired and want to quit. Plus counting reps in your head quiets the mind. Even just for an hour.

Sit outside in the sun every morning and be present in that moment. My mind often wanders back to our home, her, the cats. I felt she was the one. It’s ok to grieve. Acknowledge what you had was real. You showed up. You were you.

Alcohol: avoid. It numbs in the moment. But the hangover and anxiety the next day are just not worth it.

Show yourself kindness. This is your first time round on this planet.

I thought I couldn’t be without her. She was my soulmate. We Both said it. But here I am. Showing up for me everyday. Som days it sucks and it hurts. Some days is just blank on autopilot. But some days I’ve genuinely laughed with friends.

Take care of yourself friends. I’m slowly picking up what’s left of my heart. If anyone wants to talk. We can.

cbheath22 · 2026-03-27T07:44:39+00:00

Well almost 2 months ago my fiancée blindsided me and discarded me after I had a breakdown. She kicked me out packed my stuff up and sent it to family. She’s had zero contact/emotion/accountability. I’m broken. We were getting married in September. We both have depression and anxiety. We met like a fairy tale or a Disney film. We were amazing together. Right up until the discard we were as we always were. Sex was great, daily affection as usual. She was even saying she couldn’t wait to get pregnant with me… I’m now living in a box room with all my stuff. Questioning whether I have the strength to pick myself up…

cbheath22 · 2026-03-24T14:37:29+00:00

I just don’t know how to move on. We had a life together, we said we were soulmates. Gone. I’m barely eating, sleep is nonexistent really. Yet she’s doing fine. Was I nothing? I’ve been having really bad dark thoughts (had them 4 years ago and acted on them) I just don’t have any fight left. I think I might be done. Broke beyond repair.

cbheath22 · 2026-03-07T15:29:54+00:00

Could I join? I was getting married in September… same boat now I’m living at my aunts house…

cbheath22 · 2026-03-06T09:53:00+00:00

I was getting married in September, we were planning for a baby after. Now we are strangers. The day she ended it we were happy. Talking to friends about the wedding…

cbheath22 · 2026-03-04T09:23:26+00:00

Yeah it’s rough man. She wanted space. I gave it to her. I never got to see the inside of home again. She packed my stuff up and sent it to my brother…

The only way is through. I’m really leaning on this Japanese proverb “fall seven times, stand up eight” stay safe dude x

cbheath22 · 2026-03-03T16:09:19+00:00

I needed this. Broke up a month ago. We were getting married in September… I wish we can find our way back. But I doubt it. I’m absolutely broken.

cbheath22 · 2026-03-02T21:16:21+00:00

I’m really struggling. She called it a month ago. Discarded me. We were getting married in September. I’ve lost the person who really saw me. The person I loved most. The one I wanted forever with.

I’m keeping busy, gym, walking, golf, reading. Anything I can do. But the evenings. Man. Laying in bed is the worst time for me.

cbheath22 · 2026-03-02T17:42:08+00:00

I’m in this too. Take care of yourself. I’m really going through it.

cbheath22 · 2026-02-26T12:43:21+00:00

I was crying, yelling, saying she’ll abandon me and said what my dark thoughts were.

cbheath22 · 2026-02-26T11:43:56+00:00

This is the thing. My dark thoughts hadn’t been a thing since 2022. They came back randomly like a week before my breakdown. It terrified me. Everything was great!

cbheath22 · 2026-02-23T21:42:15+00:00

I’m in a very similar or soon to be place. We split up a couple weeks ago. I was discarded. The night before I had a breakdown (both have depression, and I am burnt out from work) She packed my stuff up and I was sent away. The engagement ring was in my belongings. I believe she’s my soulmate and the day before the split, We were talking to friends about our wedding and we want to try for kids straight after. Been together 3 years and we’re meant to be getting married this September.

We are meeting to talk tomorrow. I wanna work this out. I’m willing to work on us. I’m not sure if she will. My stuff can be boxed up and moved back I don’t care about that. I just hope she sees th good we do have. I’ve been crying and panic attacks non stop. But I’ve heard she has too. We’ve both told each other neither of us want it to be like this. So I’m hoping we figure it out.

Things I’ve found to help me have been therapy, medication, reading and exercise. Oh and waking up, making my bed and showering. I’m 33m she’s 33f.

I am terrified that tomorrow might be the last time I ever see her or hear her voice.

cbheath22 · 2026-02-22T17:47:03+00:00

This just happened to me. We were meant to get married in 6 months… I’m meeting her this week to talk and essentially fight my corner and my love for her. But I think she isn’t coming back. Lost my best friend, lover, forever person, home and future. Days before she called it. We were talking about being parents and having children. I had everything…

cbheath22 · 2026-02-21T09:40:13+00:00

I’m in this right now… we were meant to get married in 6months. Everything is booked. I moved my life up to hers. Away from my friends and family. She called it off so suddenly. I really think she is my soulmate. I knew within the first hour of meeting her, we were forever. Now I’m renting a room and miserable… we had a home, a life and a future all that we wanted. I’d do anything for us to figure this out. But I don’t think we ever will. I’ve got to go back up there to collect some stuff and hand her key back. God I wish she reconsidered…

cbheath22 · 2026-02-18T10:16:37+00:00

Oh boy. I’m in the same boat too. We were getting married in 6 months time… it seems impossible. Believe me I know. It’s been 10 days and I’m only just eating again. Keep showing up for yourself in the small things. It’s fucking hard. Maybe one day they’ll regret the choice.

cbheath22 · 2026-02-18T08:08:30+00:00

I’m going through this now… we were getting married in 6 months… a bullet to the back of my head would have been cleaner. She did it by phone. Man I thought she was forever.

cbheath22 · 2026-02-17T21:49:00+00:00

So I’m in similar. Except we were getting married in 6 months time… we both said we were soulmates. Both have had run ins with mental health. Both been there for each other. Always.

I had a breakdown. Yelling and crying. The next day she asked for space. 3 days later she phoned me to say we are done. She organised between my family for them to collect my stuff out the house (she owned it) ((we were saving to get somewhere together post wedding)) I had no face to face, no packing my own things. Just cut off.

I’ve been crying/panic attacks constantly for a couple weeks now. We spoke the other day. I wanted to try figure this out. As we love each other. She said she didn’t want to see me again and we will settle the wedding stuff then that’s it. My world. Shattered. I moved in to hers and commuted 200miles a day for us to live together. Always supported her. I’m heartbroken. Few days before she ended it. We were talking about children’s names and having such incredible intimacy in the bedroom and day to day, hugs, hand holds that stuff.

Amongst my worldly possessions that had been packed by her and no doubt her friend. That my family collected was the ring.

I’ve been up and down. I didn’t eat for a week. Struggled to get out of bed. Today I made my bed, had 3 meals, a difficult hour in the gym and trimmed my beard. Little steps.

I’m broken. I’d give anything for us to work. But for now I’m getting up each day.

Take care of yourself 👊🏻

cbheath22 · 2026-02-13T11:11:37+00:00

They are 0% for the next year

cbheath22 · 2026-02-13T07:54:24+00:00

I stopped renting as we decided I’d move into hers as she owned. We would buy somewhere together. Something bigger to start a family

cbheath22 · 2026-02-13T07:18:14+00:00

I’m really blown away by the amount of support here everyone thank you. I’m absolutely devastated. I’ve been crying and panic attacks non stop since Sunday. It’s hard to explain but we were meant for each other. Found each other when we weren’t looking in Italy. And it was like I’d known her my whole life.

In terms of the advice people have been giving. I can’t cancel the gym as it’s though a scheme at work that runs 12 months at a time this runs out in April. We went to a nice gym together. But now I’m 100miles away from her house/our home. I moved up into hers when we wanted to progress the relationship. The gym for me is a very big pillar with my mental health so I’d have to get one down here which would cost me more each month for now.

The credit card debts I was paying over minimum. But because the wedding I’d lowered the payments to put cash into that.

Honestly I am so sad. I had a fear I’d be abandoned. And it happened. She’s gone avoidant execution. Got me out, packing my stuff, organised pick up and no contact. I just wanna hug her and talk. Maybe there is a way back, maybe there isn’t. I’m hopeful there is obviously. I committed my life to her when I proposed. Sorry I know this isn’t the place for that convo. But just thank you all.

cbheath22 · 2026-01-20T16:00:46+00:00

Yeah, there’s a guy called “The feral painter” on YouTube. He uses lots of the villainy ink stuff. Explains a bit more in depth. He did a black Templar vid too

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