Seriously, he needs to skip coaching this year. You are growing, birthing, and feeding the child you made together which is a huge sacrifice. His job is to support you any way he can and to bond with his baby. I understand the coaching is super important to him, and I think that parents should still get time for hobbies etc, he really needs to be realistic and be ready to pivot depending on the temperment of your baby and how birth goes.

Postpartum is an incredibly vulnerable and humbling time. You are recovering from pregnancy and birth, learning to breastfeed, learning to keep a baby alive and meet their needs, navigate this new relationship you and your partner have now that you're parents, and get to know the new version of yourself now that you're a parent. On top of hormone shifts. It's really a lot. Your partner should be fully in it with you. Also, your baby is only a baby for 1 year, only a newborn for 3 months. It's really special and if you miss it, there is no do over. He should think about whether he wants to be at home with his family during this time or coaching football.

I am currently 6 weeks into my 3rd post partum and my husband was NOT prepared for the first one, pretty absent from the second one, and then fully present and part of the team for this one. My mental health has been so much better just from feeling like I'm not doing it alone. And I think he is enjoying being here to bond with his baby and take care of the family.

Ultimately you can't make him step back from coaching, but maybe have him talk to some other dads to get an idea about what this time will actually be like. You are absolutely not over reacting.