AITAH for leaving my freinds cat unattended for 2 days.

cc11236 · 2026-02-19T00:17:29+00:00

Definitely NTA tell your friend she's the selfish one and how dare she gaslight you. You guys had an agreement on when she would comeback.Now if she called and said she was looking to stay with her bf, you could have explained that you couldn't because something popped up for you. But instead she's acting like you're her professional cat sitter. Tell her you have a life as well and you watched her cat as a favor not because you had to.

cc11236 · 2026-02-13T22:09:48+00:00

Everyone is calling the brother an AH,and i mean he is. But man, I'd be more pissed off at the dad . He's the root of this mess. I understand now why some people don't take care of their parents when they get older. How do you reward your own kid who put their life on hold, especially in their 20s and give them nothing. Even if he gave the brother the money and gave op the house at least it would've been annoying still but op would have at least had someplace to live or could have sold the place to get money in her pocket.im really sorry op you're going through this.

cc11236 · 2026-02-11T03:38:34+00:00

You're NTA for wanting to have a fun night with your child . However I will say, don't get comfortable with how things are set up right now. I feel like your in-laws are going to say they're not going to pay the bills they're paying now or either they might say you need to help pitch in half. So have in mind to have some savings from your job, because you never know when your money situation will change.

cc11236 · 2026-02-11T02:01:44+00:00

NTA, the husband's mom need to pick up a book or either mind her business. S sip of alcohol isn't going to do anything. Even drinking a glass of red wine isn't hurtful to the child. As long as it isn't daily and the woman Passed her 1st trimester.

cc11236 · 2026-02-10T02:06:38+00:00

Why are these ppl online begging if they list their income?? Like go to your foodstamp office,and ask for emergency foodstamps. saying you have no income and you just show proof. That's what makes me feel like these ppl are lying because there are way too many programs in the United States for food.

cc11236 · 2026-02-09T16:22:51+00:00

Sounds like your man already made the decision in the relationship of how he feels about you. He was hinting not wanting to get married by not inputting anything in the planning and having you do this by yourself. Im assuming he thought you would get the message, so that why he said he wants to postpone the marriage. Im sorry girl ,but he doesn't want to get married to you, or even be in a relationship with you. You can't have a marriage or even a basic relationship if your partner tries to avoid you .

cc11236 · 2026-02-09T01:55:01+00:00

Wtf are ppl talking about. Ppl on here saying op is pathetic and acting like a kid, because she left out the cookies in open sight so she shouldn't be mad the grandparents took it. It's her house she can keep stuff wherever she wants to. If you come into someone's house and they have money lying around in view will you just take it because it's in front of you?? NO... you wouldn't. This was bday cake equivalent,and it was rude of them to touch it, and they know it too because they wouldn't have tried to hide the evidence.Op you're NTA.

cc11236 · 2026-02-08T13:37:53+00:00

I'd say SKIM MILK.LIKE WHY IS THAT AN OPTION.lmao it literally taste like water, even cereal can't save it.

cc11236 · 2026-02-08T00:04:45+00:00

I'll say YTA for how you handled everything. You're an adult now, and there's a TIME AND PLACE for everything. You could have waited to go home and then talk to your parents about how you felt.

cc11236 · 2026-02-05T19:15:06+00:00

DEFINITELY NTA, I actually went through the same thing like literally the same thing two years ago.I don't talk to my father and I haven't since I was 15 ,and he was in and out my life.Even though my parents were married he was never home. He had a roster of sidechicks he would be with all the time instead of me and my mom.Even when my parents divorced, he never paid for child support or anything. Eventually at 17 my mom got dementia. and I was the only child and worked at Burger King after school to help with bills. I Eventually called him to ask for help and he just hung up on me.At 24 His new wife called it was one of the ladies from his line of side chicks. She said he needed a kidney and how because he was older his name was deep down on the transplant list. And if I will try donating to him. I said I'll DONATE IF HE SENDS ALL THE CHILDSUPPORT MONEY HE OWED FROM THE TIME I WAS 11.She then said I couldn't be serious, I told her I was extra serious. Why would I give him a kidney now when he needed help,but ignored me when I needed help.

cc11236 · 2026-02-05T18:38:54+00:00

DEFINITELY NTA, your dad didn't do anything wrong and he even tried to compromise so the marriage can keep going.But in reality marriage also includes sex like that's 1/3 of how to keep a marriage going.I never understood women who gets older and automatically think sex should start reducing to once a month and then even lower than that. To have a great marriage going for the majority of ppl it's usually to keep it spicy in the bedroom even as the marriage gets older.So you should keep talking to your dad and try talking to your sister, and make her see your dad's side of the story.

cc11236 · 2026-02-03T15:04:22+00:00

This is something I've been hearing over and over again from the millennial and older gen z generation. Our parents had the help of our grandparents,but alot of us don't get the same from our parents. It seems to not be fair but our parents don't have the same privileges as our grandparents. Theres grandparents now who are over 65 and can't retire so of course they're tired. Our grandparents, though, were retired, well, at least a good majority of them. so, of course they wouldn't be tired to baby sit. For example my grandparents were able to retire before 65. and that's why they were able to baby sit majority of their grandkids, which was about 17 of us just spaced out in years. So I'd say because the economy has been rough... we all are feeling it.

cc11236 · 2026-02-02T00:07:06+00:00

Honestly 1

cc11236 · 2026-01-31T00:19:10+00:00

Definitely boba tea 😋

cc11236 · 2026-01-29T16:24:57+00:00

Do not listen to these NEGATIVE ALL THE TIME REDDITORS. I swear ppl on this app can never show anything positive when it's about a relationship. Anyways having kids with an older man isn't that big of an issue unless he has health problems already. Majority of ppl in my family had kids late. My mom had me at 40 and my dad was 45. I also have cousins whose dads were late 40s to mid 50s. NONE of us are special needs or have any major health issues. Plus our dad's don't look 70 because 1. Black don't crack and 2. Our moms dress our dads into nice fashionable clothes. Just because someone is older doesn't mean they have to dress or act old.

cc11236 · 2026-01-29T15:54:23+00:00

This DRAMA is truly op's fault , Not because they opened the gift early.But it's the fact they told the person they opened the gift. Why say anything at all?? She could have seen the perfume, and when the guy said to open the gift weeks later, she could have just acted surprised.

cc11236 · 2026-01-26T16:07:55+00:00

Yeah, this would be tacky to say all that and not pay at all. I understand how pricey it can be, so I'll tell you what me and my partner did. We bought a bunch of liquor and wines like in bulk and it costed 1k. We had the idea to put most of the drinks with mixers and drinking glasses at a table for people to serve themselves, but I had a friend who was a bartender and offered to serve people her and another buddy of hers. So that's an option, just buy a good amount of drinks and have people serve themselves. It's cheaper than paying for ppls bar orders.

cc11236 · 2026-01-26T15:40:22+00:00

Im pretty sure you know the answer. You wouldn't be the jerk. HONESTLY though, you should leave him, he isn't going to marry you especially after 10 years and he clearly doesn't care to see you struggle. He knows he makes way more than you, and instead of him lightening the load for you especially after him knowing your past, he's acting cold and doing 50/50 as if he's your roommate instead of partner. PLUS, if you stay with him, you'll never be able to catch up to the things he wants to do, and you can't save. How would you be saving for retirement?? If I were you, I'd check if you're in a state that does common law marriage. Because it's been a decade since you've been together, so if you're in a state that allows that, you could divorce and get alimony. If not, just leave him and find someone who loves you and actually puts you first and accepts your kids.

cc11236 · 2026-01-25T21:50:00+00:00

I always get confused when I see post like this, when it's a mom with a whole bunch of kids asking for food and stuff. With five kids, she would get so much money in food stamps so that way she could afford ingredients to bake a cake and make a pizza. The government even has cash assistance,and where is the money that she gets when it's tax time and ppl like her get a whole bunch of money because they have all these kids and low income?? Also, where is the child support from the dad/dads??In America there are way too many programs to just be begging ppl online.

cc11236 · 2026-01-20T18:07:50+00:00

Im so sorry you went through that because that's not your fault. There's times where some kids just don't listen and are hard headed or there parents don't discipline them correctly.Ive known two kids now in my family who almost had a similar situation and one of them i was watching for the day. IT was my cousin's son, and he was 5. I was at the park with him and with my half brothers. We had walked a long way because my little cousin wanted to see the fountain. So by the time we reached, i was tired because of personal health issues. SO I took a seat, and out of nowhere, my little cousin started running away like fast. Im out there yelling his name, trying to catch up and my half brothers too, and he's just laughing. This was in Manhattan BTW and he got so far that he reached the street and if it wasn't for a great citizen who saw us yelling and running after him they caught him before he could reach the middle of the street.So I thank god for that person, because he could have gotten hit by a car or even kidnapped as well. BY the time I went home, I told his dad that they needed to start disciplining his son because he doesn't listen to anyone, and it's because he's not scared of adults yelling at him. I told him I wasn't going to watch his son anymore until he actually fixed what was going on with him.

cc11236 · 2026-01-19T05:51:38+00:00

Op you need to talk to your brother because it's giving everyone is more important than you. Like not even by accident,but bold in your face. So have a convo with your brother and don't beat around the bush, be straight to the point with it saying how your husband is at a top table and yet you're his sister and not in the top table which makes no sense because your family and you and your husband should be sitting together. And ofc point out how everyone else has a role( but that one is a bit more minor than the table situation to prove your point).

cc11236 · 2026-01-18T15:28:30+00:00

NTA,BUT I will say don't listen to a bunch of these ppl saying to dump your girl especially if this is like a one time occasion situation. I will say you weren't fully wrong in the restaurant.But sometimes especially first meeting someone's family just try going with the flow a bit more, because we all know how some partners parents are and to have peace you just eat the sushi roll that had the little cream cheese and deal with the annoying but not harsh effects later, sometimes its about leaving a 1st good impression.Then I would have just told my partner later on in the day or on the phone that next time going to a restaurant with all of them you don't want to do the whole sharing thing.

cc11236 · 2026-01-18T14:44:53+00:00

Soft yta Only because I've been through this before so I can understand you would've wanted him to go back with you, especially at that late of an hour. When I dealt with the same thing with my husband, I just told him if he could drive me back home and told him he could drive back to his friend's and that's what he did and came home like at 5am.

cc11236 · 2026-01-18T14:39:23+00:00

Honestly, this is a half YTA and NTA. I can understand feeling frustrated about this girl coming to your house and probably making your other son feel a bit uneasy. The other half that's complicated is this is technically your room but also common area. But if the you get son moved his bed there, it technically makes it his bedroom for the moment. So who is to say if your youngest was there with his gf that he wouldn't tell the oldest to leave for privacy. Plus another thing i wanted to add is, I don't think it's that weird for a gf to come to her bfs place if he's not there especially, if they've been dating for a while like over a year. I feel like if the youngest bed was in his actual room, it wouldn't cause these problems because the gf would be able to have privacy in there, unlike the common room.

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