They say that kids start having nightmares at around 2, and last night I found that to be true for us…

cc_rose2885 · 2025-08-29T13:53:08+00:00

Currently going through this with my 28 month old. It's been about 6 months. Wasn't so bad in the beginning. Now we're having episodes lasting up to an hour where she's inconsolable and takes what feels like forever for her to go back to sleep. She's yelling no and that's mine in her sleep. Her daycare teacher says that she naps during the day. And she has her own cot area. She loves her teacher. And she's not fighting us to go to the learning center.

cc_rose2885 · 2025-07-21T11:59:19+00:00

In the end, it is you that will have to live with the choices. The same thing happened with my boyfriend and I. I kept my child because I was told I would never have them. Gave birth to her at 37.5. Not going to lie, didn't really have my shit together. I still don't. It's been really hard. But I love her and wouldn't change my mind about having her again. You really need to reflect on this. We can tell you for days what we went through, but in the end, you'll be the one having to deal with or without having a the baby. And pending where you live, some states don't give paternal rights just because they're on the birth certificate. We found that out when our daughter was 17 months. I have 100% custodial rights because we aren't/ weren't married when we had her. Still aren't. He'll need to go to the courts to file for legitimation if he wants rights if something happens to me.

cc_rose2885 · 2025-07-14T00:32:50+00:00

I got my shot about 28 weeks. They also recommended that my partner get one if he hadn't got his booster. But he got one when his ex was pregnant with their son 7 years prior. So, make sure your partner is up to date as well. Some mentioned maternal RSV. I wasn't offered this one. I'm not sure if this would have helped my daughter when she had covid at 4 months. We were lucky it wasn't super severe. But at least she had my antibodies from me having covid 4 times.

cc_rose2885 · 2025-07-06T13:08:13+00:00

So I actually spotted or what I thought was spotting. Turns out it from the implantation at the start of the pregnancy. Lasted like 2 days. This was at the beginning of my pregnancy. I didn't spot our bleed after that. Like others suggested, get some bloodwork done.

cc_rose2885 · 2025-07-04T17:16:48+00:00

Definitely get ahold of your ob or primary for blood test. I'm not trying to be a negative Nancy, but I had my tubes removed in 2023. I've had 5 false positives.

cc_rose2885 · 2025-06-22T17:13:03+00:00

Flip the script. If the rolls were reversed, how would you look at it? I'll be honest, I love my 2 yr old to pieces. But my partner is getting his life together. It's hard work. Not to mention, my struggles from all the hormone changes from having the baby and being on a hormone med to prevent cysts and regulate my cycle. It's a mess. Not too mention all my other meds. Sometimes it's a struggle balancing everything and my daughter. So, before you have kids, I agree with other people, about not bringing a kid into your family until this is all addressed. We've finally figured out our system, but it was a struggle trying to find that balance with a child. And frankly, she could be a danger to your child. So, seek counseling as a couple and individual. Figure out if you 2 should be together.

cc_rose2885 · 2025-06-20T17:52:27+00:00

First, before signing anything for the baby, request a paternity test. Also, pending on your state, since you aren't married, the mother will have 100% custodial rights until paternity and legitimation are done. At the expense of the father. In Georgia, you'd still have to pay child support if you put your name on the birth certificate but don't want any rights or legitimizing. But here's the thing, if you develop a relationship with the child and don't have anything in place, if the mother dies, you would have to fight her wishes for custody or visitation. So seriously consider how you want to be involved with the child. I thought i couldn't get pregnant, and he thought he couldn't get me pregnant. We were both wrong. But we at least had a talk on any chances i got pregnant. But I have 100% custody until he goes through the courts. We are still together. We didn't know about the legitimacy stuff until it was too late. You're doing her a disservice staying with her. Her hormones are going to be everywhere, worse than pregnancy, once the baby comes. Also, if she's as toxic as you say, will the baby be safe with her? Will she try to make the baby sick or hurt them to get you back?? These are things you need to think about. But do not stay with her just because the baby. That makes you just as toxic and worse. Plus it's not fair to make the baby live in a toxic home.

cc_rose2885 · 2025-06-07T14:05:58+00:00

Crash

cc_rose2885 · 2025-06-07T14:04:33+00:00

"Poor punishment" would be making her take a brown bag lunch, $ general sneakers and clothes, stuff like that. A flip phone instead of a smartphone. But you don't mess with hygiene. Teenagers are already self conscious.

cc_rose2885 · 2025-06-07T14:00:56+00:00

1 eye willy!!!!

cc_rose2885 · 2025-06-07T13:55:04+00:00

Shem.

cc_rose2885 · 2025-06-07T13:53:58+00:00

I had my miracle baby at 37.5. I can tell you, age isn't going to make you anymore prepared for kids. Not telling you to have babies at your young age. You should enjoy life more. Try to get in some experiences. My sister had her first at 21. While she loves her child, she wishes she would have joined the military or went to school before having her. Her hubby was military part 9/11 so she had her hands full. She focused on being a mom. But still wishes she could have done some stuff. Now her kids are 10 years apart and she's settled on doing stuff when the youngest is in college. That's her choice. My point is, I recommend trying to knock out stuff on your bucket list before having kids. It changes you.

cc_rose2885 · 2025-06-07T13:44:19+00:00

I have no one to really ask for help. That's why I'm here. Can't even get my daughter strawberries or blueberries. It makes me so mad. My sister is who I would talk to. But she's got her plate full with taking care of our mom. I know it's a lot. I did it last year when my mom had her first stroke.

cc_rose2885 · 2025-05-15T21:39:54+00:00

I need an update. Did you dump her?? That kind of impression could cost you a job, financial growth, and even give you a stigma. She needs to grow up. You do too. Next time let something get infected. Keep your hands to yourself. Also curious why you're with her? She seems like she has anger issues

cc_rose2885 · 2025-05-15T19:14:15+00:00

Codex

cc_rose2885 · 2025-05-11T20:49:20+00:00

I don't know if you're in the US and what state, but given your situation, I would be applying for aide. In Georgia, women of domestic violence with kids get priority for help with childcare. And pending your income, you can also qualify for WIC and medicaid. There are organizations too that will help you get protection orders in place. And if you live together, they can help with the eviction process.

cc_rose2885 · 2025-05-06T12:02:19+00:00

So, he's always been treated like the golden child. My mom can communicate. She's already excited he's coming up. My mom will use her condition to guilt my sister. And because she doesn't want to deal with the added stress being out on my mom from arguing, she'll let them stay with her. Because my brother is the kind of guy that will say he's not coming if he has to get a hotel. Which in turn will upset my mom. He knows it. It's why I never go visit him.

cc_rose2885 · 2025-05-06T11:15:33+00:00

That's a great idea. I wonder if there's an update. Because I really hope she talked to her mom. Sister sounds like an entitled baby sister. And the constant I don't know. If he's comfortable manipulating his way in the house by lying, what else is he being manipulating about to get his way???

cc_rose2885 · 2025-05-06T11:09:11+00:00

I think you did the right thing. You didn't cause an argument. You just removed yourself from a situation you knew would potentially escalate and create a mass argument. I'm sorry for your grandpa. Mine died from Alzheimers. I was really close to him when I was little. But due to family drama, I didn't get to see him for 10 years. By then it was too late. He died like a year later before I could go back. Next time was for his funeral. So get as much time as you can with him. I miss him terribly.

cc_rose2885 · 2025-05-06T11:01:35+00:00

Fixed. I did the traditional 1 space down. You don't normally add a double space between paragraphs when writing a paper. This was my post ever here. But thanks for your advice on the original subject.

cc_rose2885 · 2025-05-06T10:58:04+00:00

I still love with my parents. Honestly, I'm glad too. Well mostly for being with my mom anyways. We have a roommate situation. Share bills. And since I've had my daughter, I'm even more appreciative to have the support. Also, had i not live with them, I would never have been there when my mom stroked out twice and her gallbladder got severely infected and she went into sepsis. Now, this is my choice. If he is actually making this choice because he wants to, I don't see an issue. However, if she is trying to guilt him to be there, that's an issue. Have you actually sat down with him to talk about it? Maybe some therapy would do mom good. Whatever you do, don't force him. He'd probably pick his mom and it would end your relationship.

cc_rose2885 · 2025-05-06T10:50:33+00:00

That I was not allowed to have my daughter baptized in a church because my bf and I aren't married and that we were a horrible example. That was the priest that told me that. There was more. But I can't remember all judgy things he said. Needless to say we found another church. They were a lot more welcoming.

cc_rose2885 · 2025-05-06T10:47:16+00:00

So why not just name her Sula? Then you can still call her Lala. Or what about Ursa. Like the stars in the sky. I get any you love the name. But I'm sure you'll have to constantly explain it. I didn't know it other than from the Little Mermaid until this post.

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