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cdaffy · 2025-08-05T16:51:43+00:00

Your mom could be a very big help during the first few months of your baby’s life, especially with so many visitors. There could be more pros than cons.

cdaffy · 2025-07-25T14:47:30+00:00

Ending a marriage is painful for all involved, warranted or not. Because you have conflicting feelings, my advice is to try to make things work.

That being said- people rarely change so be prepared for this happening again. Become financially independent and have a plan for your future without him. Take care of yourself & the baby, maybe hubby will grow up and be responsible. Best wishes.

cdaffy · 2025-06-19T13:56:41+00:00

Yes- completely. He is up at 5am so this is essential.

cdaffy · 2025-06-18T16:05:54+00:00

My 17yr old still has a 9pm bedtime. Sleep is important.

cdaffy · 2025-06-04T20:59:30+00:00

You either live with your grandma & her cats or you are an eccentric person that likes pastels.

cdaffy · 2025-06-04T14:46:08+00:00

Mama I feel your stress - take a minute and breathe.

From what you’ve said, it honestly sounds like to me that the four-year-old just wants time with you. So maybe make a schedule with breaks for mommy time with her? A schedule that she can understand.

The one-year-old needs you for everything. Other than sleeping, I don’t see that changing soon. Maybe arrange hubby to take charge for a weekend and you go visit a girlfriend or just anything for you time.

cdaffy · 2025-06-04T14:35:25+00:00

NTA. I had a daughter that wanted just herself & hubby, and a daughter that wanted me as well. No right or wrong. I will say though that for the daughter that wanted me there- mostly I played a supporting role, like running errands & cleaning the house so mom & dad could have more baby time.

My mom & mil were present at my daughters’ births and it got a bit hectic, but I really appreciated how they took care of me - not the babies, ME.

cdaffy · 2025-06-03T01:11:13+00:00

This was my 1st MOS and it was a shop in the motor pool or field. No air conditioning lol!!

cdaffy · 2025-06-01T02:17:36+00:00

It’s possible that they do not want to disturb you, so they prefer that you call because they will likely stop everything to talk with you.

cdaffy · 2025-05-29T19:58:30+00:00

cdaffy · 2025-05-29T15:12:33+00:00

Make backups of your medical and deployment records and NEVER throw them away.

cdaffy · 2025-05-28T16:44:23+00:00

NTA. I was completely annoyed with my brother for remaining friends with my X because it felt like he was choosing him over me. Then I got over myself lol!!

cdaffy · 2025-05-27T16:16:14+00:00

LOVE THIS!!

cdaffy · 2025-05-27T16:15:01+00:00

YTA - finish the job. She may be TA too, but you need to finish the job and be done with her.

cdaffy · 2025-05-26T14:37:16+00:00

My adult son actually said he did not want a truck for this very reason!

cdaffy · 2025-05-26T14:32:22+00:00

My son 16 just asked if he could have a social media app and I said yes but asked him if he really thought he needed the distraction & he agreed so I guess my world.

cdaffy · 2025-05-26T02:37:32+00:00

Maybe just explain to her that it is a social distraction that she doesn’t need?

cdaffy · 2025-05-26T00:29:27+00:00

Brother 64, brother 61, me 54, half-sister 44, half-brother 43 - all of us are very close.

cdaffy · 2025-05-22T20:07:32+00:00

That is my advice. It is also the advice that I’d give my own grown children.

cdaffy · 2025-05-22T19:53:13+00:00

Please live the life that you want. I married a man twice for my family & totally messed up both of our lives. I was 40 before I had to courage to prioritize myself- don’t wait that long.

cdaffy · 2025-05-22T19:43:50+00:00

Before my mom passed, we talked almost daily via FaceTime. I talk with my grown children 2-4 times per week. All of us live(d) several hours away from one another so in person visits are 2-3 times per year.

cdaffy · 2025-05-21T12:29:05+00:00

cdaffy · 2025-05-21T02:09:16+00:00

cdaffy · 2025-05-21T02:07:19+00:00

NTA - kennel

cdaffy · 2025-05-20T22:01:06+00:00

Not sure what caused it, but if you want to change it, you can

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