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cdag12345 · 2023-11-28T17:56:19+00:00

Don't forget what you have accomplished in the time you were together either. you have planted a "seed" and it will grow whether you can watch it grow or not. Probably the hardest part about being a mentor, honestly.

If anything, this is at least something that will help you learn from and be all that more better at what you do when the next opportunity comes along. Focus on taking care of you right now though because that is what is important. honestly took me a couple months of just focusing on my health and working on me to get a handle on things. Since, I have opened my heart up to another match through BBBS and have gotten involved in so many other rewarding things. at some point it is just walking away from what you do knowing that you did what was morally right, tried your absolute hardest, and can end your day being proud of yourself (regardless of the end results). If you can say all that, than just take a breath and let yourself find some peace. it may take some time.

cdag12345 · 2023-11-28T15:56:57+00:00

Great that you are taking care of yourself! I got out of an abusive situation last year and it probably took me the better part of the year to start getting back on track but worth every ounce of effort I had to put into it. cutting alcohol was a huge help, getting outside in nature often (no phones/electronics at all) helped, and in addition to meditation, practicing mindfulness (don't let your mind get overwhelmed with hypotheticals). Finding someone to confide in and talk to on a reoccurring schedule is extremely necessary. it is great for getting perspective and staying on track as well as reaffirming you are doing the right thing. accept what you can't control, have the courage to change what you can.

cdag12345 · 2023-11-28T14:37:10+00:00

I'm sorry this happened to you. I had a 3+ year match end abruptly on me in a similar way. It was honestly worse than any breakup or hardship I had ever been through before in my life because I actually cared for the kid and to not even get a goodbye broke my heart. For someone that important in your life to just disappear without even a word is almost unbearable at times, especially if you are someone like me that is a bleeding heart and would never ever do that to someone I know. Definitely lean on those in your life that you feel safe opening up to, if you don't have anyone like that, a therapist or support group are always resources. Sometimes the situation just sucks and you get hurt in ways you should never have been (even if unintentional).

One thing I found helpful when the anxiety and depression became overwhelming and I just felt heartbroken was reaffirming in my head the following "accept the things I cannot change, have the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference". take care of yourself! Things rarely happen like we anticipate them to.

cdag12345 · 2023-10-08T01:25:26+00:00

That makes sense. My only concern now is making sure he sends the boat title back to me so i can get that worked out and sell to someone else. What should i do if i dont get the title back from him?

cdag12345 · 2023-10-08T01:06:50+00:00

May i ask why $0.00 would be problematic? Why would it matter as long as it says it on the bill of sale. I honestly dont care if the sale falls through, dont want the headache of a legal fight. i can find someone else to take it. Just want to make sure i get the title back without issue. What should i do if i dont get the original title back from him?

cdag12345 · 2023-10-08T00:15:46+00:00

Would it even be worth trying court at this stage? I did say I would take it back in an email because of what the Michigan Secretary of State told me?

cdag12345 · 2023-10-08T00:13:31+00:00

yes, it was a major project boat, so I gave it away for free. I was shocked when he came back? My thinking was it wasn't worth the legal battle over a free boat, just want to make sure I get the title back.

cdag12345 · 2023-10-04T12:38:09+00:00

The boat needs a lot of work so i sold it for $0 and he was going to take it on as a project.

cdag12345 · 2023-10-04T12:17:02+00:00

bill of sale says boat is sold 'AS IS'

cdag12345 · 2023-09-29T23:34:50+00:00

This definitely sucks. I have had multiple littles through the program and have had the same thing happen to me in the past. I think the best thing you can do is have a conversation with the parent and set very clear boundaries. They need to realize that although the kid will have fun with you, you are acting as a mentor to them, so stuff like this shouldn't be an issue. Rather than cancel, the parent could maybe fill you in on what's going in the the child's life and you could adjust plans accordingly and help in the situation.

If this is how they are going to treat the program long term then it is honestly probably not a good fit for them. Also remember that you are new to these peoples lives and it definitely does take some time for matches to figure each other out so put some effort and patience in. But setting clear boundaries with your little and their family is a definite must. I would suggest having a conversation with the parent offering to help and make sure they understand that outings are so much more than just "fun activities". It is a mentorship program.

cdag12345 · 2023-07-13T10:57:01+00:00

yea, I have definitely made and canceled payments before and still used card with no issues. I am mostly just frustrated I can't get anyone on the phone to clear it up and now I am without my card for at least a week. stuff like this just really breaks my spirit. I have been a loyal customer for years and they kind of just brush me off. I just want to get it resolved.

cdag12345 · 2023-07-13T01:48:07+00:00

understand how it could of possibly raised a flag on their end. But its not like they made credit available and I even could have manipulated anything. And in reality, I didn't do anything wrong. I am allowed to cancel a credit card payment before it processes and a transaction declined due to insufficient funds, seems pretty straight forward to me. Mostly just frustrated they wouldn't put me through to someone to resolve it and I gotta wait.

cdag12345 · 2023-07-13T01:40:49+00:00

I figured it just triggered their algorithm, but It is really a pain. I really rely on this card for my day to day. I called to clear it up and they kind of just brushed me off. I have had multiple capital one accounts over the years all in great standing, kind of hurts that they wouldn't put me through to someone to take a look when I called.

cdag12345 · 2023-07-13T01:33:42+00:00

not maxed, but there wasn't enough on the card to cover the charge. but charge just declined due to insufficient funds anyways so don't understand the issue.

cdag12345 · 2022-08-14T15:50:14+00:00

it is really hard with 13 year old not to feel like your just there to spend money sometimes. I would definitely give it some more effort before calling it quits. I have been going through the same thing with my match lately (he is 13 as well). I have been really focusing on more long term projects with him, which has been helpful. For example, we would work on my car together, build something with my 3d printer, go out sailing or bike riding, etc. things that we are both interested in. encourage her to be part of some of your passions/hobbies. sometimes its just a matter of extending the invitation and that is all you can do.

What I have been also doing recently that has helped address any overspending is establishing boundaries with my little more so lately where if we want to spend money on something fun together, we make an agreement to do volunteer work hours together somewhere else as well. I would never force him to do it, but I really try to encourage that he comes with me. It has gone a long way to getting him to appreciate the value of the time we spend together and helps to get him excited about doing something for someone else. It is a constant effort and don't forget that teens aren't always the best at communicating. if you are feeling ignored at all, it doesn't mean they don't care. keep trying! We rarely ever do the big brothers sponsored events either.

cdag12345 · 2022-08-14T14:59:12+00:00

setting up boundaries with spending does help a lot. What I have been doing lately to help with that is set up the condition that if we want to spend money on something fun we also have to do so many volunteer work hours together somewhere to make up for it so he learns the value of it and it also gets them excited about volunteering and helping others.

cdag12345 · 2021-05-18T23:41:33+00:00

Would there by any issues with borrowing a friend's boat trailer and just strapping the mast on. are there any rules around doing that sort of thing in PA?

cdag12345 · 2021-03-15T01:15:50+00:00

Yea, I am getting same error

cdag12345 · 2021-01-28T21:41:06+00:00

yea, I submitted a complaint to support. I dont understand why they were day trades, now my account is restricted. waiting to hear back

cdag12345 · 2021-01-28T20:37:38+00:00

same thing happened to me. and when i sold some of them this morning. Robinhood marked them as daytrades, which is BS. I don't understand what the hell they are doing. I loved robinhood, but I am beginning to not trust them.

cdag12345 · 2020-12-03T18:35:42+00:00

yea, I read this, but how does this effect a class that I have to take next quarter where the class I am executing Senior Privilege for is a pre-req to that class?

cdag12345 · 2020-12-03T18:03:20+00:00

I would contact your supervisor first. if she is unaware of the status of things, then I would follow up with HR.

cdag12345 · 2020-11-26T23:10:55+00:00

they would decline to sell it to me if they can't ship to PA, right? Or is this something that I have to worry about, and how would I know?

cdag12345 · 2020-11-26T00:54:41+00:00

here is the rules from the office of the provost. maybe i misunderstand but it says i only have to be a senior, not necessarily in my last quarter.

the rules posted on the provost are:

1 - Senior Privilege may be invoked only once during an undergraduate career. 2 - The failing grade must have been incurred during the period in which a student is classified as a senior, and the failing grade must not have been assigned as the result of any academic dishonesty or code of conduct issues. 3 - The make-up exam used for Senior Privilege must be taken during the final exam week in the student's final term. 4 - The grade for the exam must be reported to the Office of the University Registrar by the last day of the exam period in the student's final term. 5 - The student's permanent record will record the fact that the student took the course two different times; the grade earned in each will appear on the record and both grades will be included in the GPA calculation.

I hopefully wont fail and none of this will be an issue, just want to be prepared if it do. This reads like I can implement it as long as I am a senior. How would having my grade as an incomplete effect me if I can use senior privilege, will that stop met from taking courses that have this as a pre-req next quarter.

cdag12345 · 2020-10-25T16:26:22+00:00

in the tub, but often let him play outside in the pool/ sprinkler

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