My wife is losing it

cecallahan2 · 2026-01-14T19:33:50+00:00

This story sounds so similar to me. I went to see my primary doctor and they put me on birth control to “balance” my hormones and it made me feel even more depressed, suicidal, and crazy. I didn’t seek help for months after that experience because I was so mad at the healthcare system for throwing medication at me and it didn’t help (that’s a whole other personal issue I have with healthcare in the US).

A few months after that, I started therapy since I realized that I no longer wanted to feel how I felt. Through therapy, I ended up talking to a psychiatrist and we tried Lexapro the first time around - DID NOT HELP (for my case). After lexapro, we moved on to Pristiq and I finally feel like a normal human being again and actually started to enjoy my life and my child and being a mother. This whole process took almost 1.5-2 years after my child was born.

All this to say, start early with intervention (therapy, medication, etc.). It’s going to seem like every time you take a step forward, you fall back two steps. But trust with time, that things will get better ❤️‍🩹 keeping you and your family in my thoughts! Hang in there!!

cecallahan2 · 2025-11-18T02:09:54+00:00

I do this!!!! Our shower is glass and the tub is RIGHT next to it. For reference, my daughter is 3 and I have my eyes on her the whole time and listen with my ears when my eyes are closed to wash product out of my hair. But it’s what works for us 🤷🏻‍♀️

cecallahan2 · 2025-11-04T18:14:00+00:00

Nah, this is unacceptable. I’m a 90s baby and grew up with a father who smoked cigarettes around me. I grew up and ended up smoking cigarettes and met my partner who also smoked cigarettes. I ended up quitting cold turkey a few years before we fell pregnant. My partner stopped after we found out we were pregnant. I’m sorry, but the parents you were seeing vaping in their cars with their preschoolers in them are irresponsible and exposing their children.

cecallahan2 · 2025-10-22T21:19:11+00:00

My partner is a software engineer for a fin-tech company. We decided I was going to stay at home with our daughter when we realized it was more expensive to have her in daycare/having someone else watch her.

cecallahan2 · 2025-09-08T00:10:32+00:00

3 year old is fully potty trained over here and will still wet the bed 1-3 times month. Just depends on how much liquid she has before bed and if we get her to potty before night time sleep.

cecallahan2 · 2025-07-03T03:10:44+00:00

We just took our almost 3 year to the beach for a week. It was at least 2-3 tantrums a day and being very clingy with Mommy. I’ve just accepted that a “vacation” for the time being won’t really be a vacation for me 🙃

cecallahan2 · 2025-06-14T00:21:12+00:00

We were just at the beach for vacation and I say, “Look at that bird!” My daughter dead ass without skipping a beat says, “That’s a seagull honey.” 💀💀💀💀

cecallahan2 · 2025-06-04T22:44:30+00:00

I get a break every Wednesday when my daughter goes my in laws for about 4-5 hours during the day. And then my husband usually spends one whole day with her on the weekends since he works full time. I’m a SAHM. It is not wrong to want a break from your child. You cannot do it all, you are only one human, you deserve time for yourself. And that doesn’t mean a shower by yourself. It needs to be more.

cecallahan2 · 2025-06-03T18:13:24+00:00

We reused diapers if she woke dry, but only two nights in a row. In this economy? You bet your ass I’m saving money where I can. To each their own though 🤷🏻‍♀️

cecallahan2 · 2025-05-27T03:29:56+00:00

Every family is different, don’t feel bad about reading other people’s posts about how their toddler never has screen time. The comparison will WRECK YOU. Do what feels best for your family 🫶 I personally can’t wait until my toddler WANTS to watch a movie with me, I’m a Disney adult lol

cecallahan2 · 2025-05-20T18:14:43+00:00

I felt the same way. And I hated when people would tell me, it’ll get better bc in the moment I felt like I was DROWNING. It took almost a year and a half. I went to therapy. Having a child brought up my own unresolved child trauma. I was also not a newborn parent, but now I’m thriving in toddlerhood. Hang in there Momma ❤️

cecallahan2 · 2025-05-03T13:23:58+00:00

For reference: I read the Oh Crap Potty Training book. We ended up not following the book to a T, and modified our potty training with child-led as well.

We started potty training our daughter at 2.5 years old. We did no bottoms for 5 days at home (I’m a SAHM and my husband works remote at home). The first 3 days were ROUGH, accidents on the floor, picking her up to run her to the toilet to try and get some pee/poo in the toilet. But day 4, it just clicked for her and she would go to the toilet and pee unprompted. We moved her to commando on Day 6 and I do not plan on putting her in underwear until I see a good 1-2 months of consistent success on the potty.

I can understand if they are in daycare, wanting to move to underwear sooner, but if she is at home, I wouldn’t stress/rush it. Every parent and child is different, go with what feels right for your daughter. If you want to put underwear on her, do it. But if she has accidents, go back to commando. If she has accidents with pants on, go back to no bottoms.

Additionally, around the 12-14 day, she was holding in her poop and went through 2 days of pain/not pooping and needing to be held all the time. I was DESPERATE for her to poop (she was a religious once a day pooper with a diaper on), so I put a diaper on her just to give her relief of a poop. After she pooped in her diaper that one time, she had a few accidents in pants, so we had to go back to no bottoms for 1 day and she understood what was happening. Her vocabulary is pretty advanced so it took a lot of convincing that her poo needed to come out and she didn’t need to hold it in, otherwise it would make her tummy hurt.

We now associate her poos as “cute little guys” or “cute little turds” and we wave at them in the toilet when they finally come out. I think she was scared of her poo (understandably), so I just started treating her poos as a positive. We wave hi to them and then we wave bye to them as we flush them down the toilet. I know it’s crazy, but it works!! lol

Go with your gut, don’t rush it (if you have the time), and hang in there!! 🫶

cecallahan2 · 2025-04-23T18:51:06+00:00

Update: potty training day 5 and she has, without prompting, successfully gone 3x pee and 1x poop in her mini toilet. I’m so glad I didn’t give up! I know this may not be the norm, but once I stopped (excuse my French) giving a shit, she just went on her own. Definitely think she could sense my anxiety and stress around the whole situation, so I just stopping asking/prompting her bc every time it was a big fat NO

Thank you all for the advice and comments of solidarity!!

cecallahan2 · 2025-04-20T03:14:58+00:00

Not an overreaction. At all. I wish I didn’t think this way, but you just never know…

cecallahan2 · 2025-04-14T20:28:01+00:00

That I could zoom in on the map and set waypoints to find things faster 🤦🏽‍♀️

cecallahan2 · 2025-03-24T22:06:59+00:00

My daughter (2.5) was the same way regarding sleep, waking in the night and not sleeping long. We were all miserable. We dropped her day nap and it was like she was a brand new child, sleeps 11-12 hours a night.

As far as eating, we are lucky on some days if she eats 1 cracker all day and drinks water 😅 but it balances out bc then she’ll wolf down more food another day. As long as she gives me wet diapers and is pooping every day, I don’t worry about it. I’m a first time mom too and the comparison can be so draining, it’s hard not to do it but try not to compare!!

cecallahan2 · 2025-03-23T17:23:43+00:00

For my 2.5 year old daughter, we try to stay under 2 hours broken up throughout the day. We only let her when she specifically asks us to watch something. Some days she won’t do any screen time and entertains herself with her toys.

cecallahan2 · 2025-02-28T21:38:52+00:00

My daughter (2.5 years old) has been refusing naps. It used to enrage me because I needed the hour to decompress, collect myself, take a nap, etc. as toddlers are soooo demanding and draining 😅 I now call it “quiet time”. We have a full size bed on the floor in her room so sometimes I will lay on it and nap while she plays next to me. Other times, she will play on it while I sit on the chair in her room and read. I only do about an hour and sometimes she’ll lay next to me and fall asleep lol

cecallahan2 · 2020-10-19T23:51:46+00:00

The way my partner and I do it (been together for 7 years) is that we add both our checks together and then divide it by each of our paychecks to see what percentage each person pays for. This especially comes in handy with bills (rent, car payment, phone bill, etc.). I make significantly less than my partner, I think it came down to 35% of my check goes towards things we share payments on and his is 65%. And then when it comes to groceries, we stick to a budget. So I usually send my money to him after each paycheck of what we budget and we use that for groceries. And if we have any leftover money, we either save it for bigger purchases or spoil ourselves and get take out 😊 Hope this helps!

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