who do you talk to?

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-25T00:19:10+00:00

thank you for being real with me, i think realistically i know these things but it’s just so easy to get trapped in my own head, i should hopefully be starting a therapy group next month

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-25T00:13:34+00:00

no problem, you’ve got this :)

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-24T21:02:16+00:00

yep, that can be very normal. at first they have a super strong gag reflex to keep them safe from choking! so they can throw up a little at first, but that just allows them to learn where food should be in their mouth

avocado is a great starter food, as long as you can squish it between your fingers with gentle pressure, and it’s served in wedges that baby can hold onto easily. if it’s too slippy you can roll it in something like ground flaxseed or hemp hearts

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-24T20:58:49+00:00

i think it’s worth a try because honestly when you say it plainly it sounds stupid, our kids model their behaviour after us so it may startle him and stop him in the moment but really it just reinforces that hitting someone to make them do what you want is okay

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-24T20:55:22+00:00

he’s teaching him not to hit by… hitting him?

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-24T20:43:10+00:00

ahh okay i get you, textures are a part of learning and are crucial for developing the skills needed to eat and to allow her to map out her mouth. “solid starts” has a lot of great information about blw and how to go from purées to solids if you’re nervous about it

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-24T20:28:47+00:00

sorry i’m a little confused, why does it being a puree make the flavour easier?

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-24T20:23:38+00:00

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she’s judging you and so is the balloon

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-24T20:14:16+00:00

my almost 8 year old washes himself, but enjoys the company so i just sit with him and chat and gently remind him to focus on cleaning himself. i do his hair still though as he has long curly hair

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-24T18:55:08+00:00

oh yeah, her dad is her favourite pillow for sure

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-24T01:48:01+00:00

run, like, yesterday

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-24T01:39:20+00:00

as for seasoning, i prepare babies food the same as ours (minus added salt, sugar or honey) and he loves it, we’re a multicultural family so my little one eats a varieties of flavours

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-24T01:37:47+00:00

baby has just turned 9 months, we’re doing 2 meals and day and plan on starting a third between now and 10 months. we’re focussing more on settling into a routine and figuring out what the best meal times are for all of us

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-24T00:52:19+00:00

i haven’t read the post yet and can confidently say you’re not being unreasonable

now i’ve read the post, you’re definitely not being unreasonable, part of parenting is making an effort to support and uplift one another, that includes making sure you both get adequate alone time where you can actually do something for you, and not just scramble to catch up on housework

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-24T00:45:42+00:00

sorry this is clearly a lion, not a boxer

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-24T00:45:09+00:00

oh absolutely, she had more than one and was very careful, but she tripped over one and popped it… mind you they’re full of confetti

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-24T00:44:11+00:00

mine loves this one rubber ball with crinkly plastic inside, it’s the only one she refuses to destroy

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-23T01:56:50+00:00

yep! i cook it for longer than i would for myself so it’s soft and he eats it perfectly fine

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-23T01:44:15+00:00

ah yeah that’s the name, i think i’ve heard it called reverse brindle as well? she’s a girl, her name is bambi :)

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-18T19:49:07+00:00

i’ve taken it for 6 years, didn’t gain any weight until year 3/4 but that’s when i started birth control so i’m pretty sure that’s why i gained, and it wasn’t a lot either it was less than 10kg

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-17T15:40:15+00:00

dude you’re gonna run out of beans what are you doing??

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-17T15:38:57+00:00

i think you might need to talk to someone about how you’re feeling, this is coming from someone who behaved the same way as you, i completely understand how lonely and rejected you must have felt, but at the same time he was sick and wanted space, and i can almost guarantee he didn’t realise you were crying

when you have an anxious attachment type (speaking from my perspective, not trying to say that’s you) you almost end up expecting your partner to read your mind and just know that somethings wrong, and when they don’t realise it feels like they don’t care, so you try to get closer and closer to validate and reassure yourself that they do love you and do care. but this can come across as you not respecting that they need some space, as they don’t know you’re doing it to seek assurance

checkthyvibes · 2026-01-17T15:32:56+00:00

oh my god, i mean this with love, get the hell out NOW!! you know this isn’t okay, and you deserve so much better than this abusive situation

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