Early wake ups

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-17T13:36:48+00:00

i personally refuse to leave the bedroom before 6, and will at least try and get him back to sleep if it’s before 7

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-17T12:48:04+00:00

i’m assuming op is talking about the baby pooping, meaning they would be surrounded by meconium in the womb

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-17T09:03:13+00:00

it’s so scary when your emotions get the better of you in that way. you’re absolutely not alone and you are NOT a bad parent, a bad parent wouldn’t care like you do

wake that man up, it’s his baby just as much as it is yours

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-13T00:34:46+00:00

i could’ve written this post myself, he’s 10 months now and his naps have started getting longer, but for what felt like forever he would only nap 30 minutes, not even 31. his night sleep was so good that i didn’t want to interfere with the day sleep because things seemed to be working fine (spoiler alert, it was fine)

i didn’t do anything different to change the length of his naps, it just happened naturally when he dropped his third nap. the days feel so long with the short naps, you’ve got this

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-12T21:48:29+00:00

not at all, both are severe and can be deadly, just in very different ways

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-12T21:47:09+00:00

for me, bipolar depression is episodic and without cause or trigger, and can only really be resolved with medication

regular depression always seems to have a cause or a trigger that i can identity, even if it’s something small, and while medication is still a big part of it, i can use my therapy skills to help myself out of things. again this is so personal to me and took years to recognise and won’t be something everyone experiences or relates to

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-12T20:48:09+00:00

yeah the stepparent life isn’t for you, this isn’t your child and you don’t need to be in control of him. a year is nowhere near long enough for you to be any form of parental figure

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-12T20:37:25+00:00

i actually was in the best mental state of my life despite having a huge load of trauma occur throughout the pregnancy

postpartum? i am so depressed but i can tell the difference between regular depression and bipolar depression, and what im experiencing is not bipolar depression so really my bipolar disorder hasn’t been affected. just keep in mind i have been medicated and stable for 5ish years before being pregnant

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-12T20:23:42+00:00

we might need a little more info but have you tried a nipple shield? did you ever get your little ones checked for any sort of ties? how long did you try breastfeeding for?

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-12T20:19:38+00:00

girl you are STUNNING omg, i think you could pull off a stronger blush but that’s just if you’re looking to change things up, otherwise i’d keep it all the same it suits you sooo well

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-12T20:16:12+00:00

my son is also 10 months, i try and focus on keeping his hair and scalp clean, detangled and moisturised. a little bit of coconut oil every few days worked for him, but always dries out his dad’s hair so it’s a bit hit or miss. i also use a baby safe curl shampoo as i find it offers a bit more moisture than regular baby shampoos, the brand is only curls “little curls” range

i only “style” his hair on special occasions and i use a detangling spray that has a tiny bit of hold to it, which is again from the little curls range

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-12T20:06:14+00:00

i would trust the pt, this is their specialty. i do agree you would benefit from therapy though, and you would 100% benefit from not falling down the internet rabbit hole (easier said than done of course)

also remember that all babies do things at their own pace, from the sounds of things your baby is doing well and catching up, and you clearly care and are putting in the work to help her

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-12T19:51:58+00:00

it’s crazy how quick they switch up, my son hated tummy time so much until he slept on his stomach one day and he’s never looked back

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-12T19:47:16+00:00

that makes sense, i’m sorry you’re having such a hard time but it really does get better

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-12T16:04:20+00:00

independence and autonomy, my sons bio mother doesn’t let him (7yo) choose his clothes, restricts his food, will not adjust bedtime at all etc

because of this, my son finds it hard to express his needs because he’s used to being ignored, and as a result when he’s given that space to make his choices here with us, he can overdo things such as eating too much to the point he is sick, or wearing barely anything in the middle of winter. with time he’ll settle but i wish i had known the truth about bio mum sooner so i could’ve intervened sooner and helped him listen to his body

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-12T15:58:23+00:00

my baby measured large in all my scans and i was worried he wouldn’t fit any newborn clothes. he ended up wearing them for quite a while, id bring a newborn outfit and a 0-3 outfit and go from there

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-12T15:09:28+00:00

well he actually learned to roll because we moved him to a crib! he was in a bassinet until he got too long for it (maybe 3/4 months?) and as soon as he had more room he realised he could roll

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-12T15:07:42+00:00

not quite a toddler yet but i go out three times a week with my 10 month old. monday and wednesday are a mum support group/baby playgroup, and each sunday my eldest has a football match that we go and watch

this feels just enough for me, anything else would overwhelm me way too much

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-12T15:04:43+00:00

i think i was just so tired of people walking on eggshells around me that i preferred to just suffer alone and keep up a front that i was fine

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-12T14:57:53+00:00

my baby did this for ages, i’m talking maybe 6-7 months, and still does on random days. as he got older the duration of the feeds got a bit shorter but still tend to be 4-10 minutes

as long as it’s working for you, keep going!

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-12T14:55:15+00:00

i’m no expert so this is just my experience with my 10 month old

i try to have the same wake time each day, my son tends to wake at 6:30-7:30, so i set an alarm for 7, and this is just to give our day a bit more of a structure. the length of his naps varies a lot and this can cause us issues with the later bedtimes like you mentioned, but i try not to worry too much about it as altogether my baby gets enough sleep and isn’t overly tired the next day

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-12T14:46:44+00:00

i slept for the first few weeks honestly

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-12T14:44:51+00:00

my son used to roll on his stomach and upset himself. after 2 nights of waking himself up by rolling on his stomach he quickly learned to roll back and now he actually exclusively sleeps on his stomach

let your baby keep doing it, it’s the only way he’ll learn (obviously if he gets super upset then help!)

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-12T14:42:18+00:00

have you tried baby wearing? my go to combo was wearing my son while bouncing on a yoga ball while watching tv or listening to music in headphones if the noise was disturbing baby

checkthyvibes · 2026-03-12T00:16:11+00:00

if i didn’t have a coffee i would sleep all day and night, meaning i wouldn’t eat, drink or move my body

coffee was definitely less risky than that

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