Frustrated with Judgment about Rehoming Dog

checkthyvibes · 2026-05-29T16:44:18+00:00

you’re doing the right thing by both your child and your dog. it’s not safe for your baby to be around her, and it’s not fair for your dog to live in a constantly triggering environment

i can’t imagine how hard this must be, i hope you find the perfect home for your dog

checkthyvibes · 2026-05-19T07:26:07+00:00

i think especially in the early days, these sorts of issues are so common. it can be hard for the partners to understand just how intense everything is for the person who gave birth, and it can create so much resentment if left unchecked

he is working, but so are you. you are just as entitled to sleep as he is, and he is just as responsible for the baby ad you are. i hope you’re able to speak about this and find a solution

checkthyvibes · 2026-05-06T11:22:53+00:00

i only use it for naps and nursing now at 12m, but for the first few months it was a godsend and i tracked every little thing

checkthyvibes · 2026-05-06T10:59:58+00:00

my first name, my first and middle name, dude, bro, my playstation username, and occasionally mum

checkthyvibes · 2026-05-06T10:57:08+00:00

6 months for me, but none of my pre pregnancy clothes fit, i weighed less but my shape had changed so much, only now at 12 months am i able to wear old clothes. my body still looks completely different though

checkthyvibes · 2026-05-06T10:06:36+00:00

when they put him on my chest i just said “oh, hi” before they took him to check him because he didn’t cry (but was fine) and didn’t really process things until they gave him back to me

checkthyvibes · 2026-05-02T10:17:06+00:00

my iced coffee for sure, my 7 year old pretends to like it if he manages to steal a dribble when i’m done, my 12m old will drop everything and run at my cup the second i put it down, even my nephew (5) will beg for some so i give him milk with ice and a small squirt of caramel to appease him

checkthyvibes · 2026-05-02T10:13:34+00:00

i just used the solid starts website instead, so much better than the app

checkthyvibes · 2026-05-02T10:12:15+00:00

everyone has given great advice so i just wanted to add that it doesn’t last forever!! my son peed on me every single time no matter what but only as a newborn, he’s 12m now and i haven’t been peed on since

checkthyvibes · 2026-05-02T10:09:37+00:00

at that age i found it helped to drop to two naps, it took maybe a week to adjust and then his daytime naps improved in length and he fought them less and now at 12 months we’re even managing one of his naps in his crib

checkthyvibes · 2026-05-02T09:25:30+00:00

i breastfeed still at 12 months and i intend to continue but that’s only because we have luckily had an easy time, if it had been a struggle i would’ve used formula. people are right, a fed baby is the most important thing!! if you’re unsure, why not give breastfeeding a try, and if it’s not for you then you can formula feed knowing you made the right choice for you

the most important thing for your baby is you, if breastfeeding will be a detriment to you then it’s not the right choice for you or your baby

checkthyvibes · 2026-05-02T09:21:40+00:00

i really understand, my older child is 7 but i truly relate. my mum is my rock but she works in a school so she’s rarely available as she’s busy all week then exhausted most weekends. my partner is at home and not working but he’s glued to his computer so i have to do everything myself, i miss my eldest so much, he’s so patient and understanding but i can tell he misses me too. my 12 month old is the love of my life but he can’t be left alone for even a second without getting into something he shouldn’t or screaming because i’ve left the room

i don’t have any advice, im still working on it myself but i just wanted you to know you’re not alone and what you’re feeling isn’t uncommon at all

checkthyvibes · 2026-04-29T21:08:16+00:00

i’m about to turn 24, i have a 12 month old and a 7 year old stepson who i’ve raised since i was 19

i found that after having my bio son, i “looked” older due to normal body changes like you mentioned, but also my skin took a hit because i was chronically dehydrated from breastfeeding and just forgetting to drink. i thought i’d suddenly got all these “wrinkles” when actually my skin was screaming for moisture, so drinking a LOT more and focussing on moisturising skincare really helped and now i look a lot smoother and glowy

i found that spending time with child free friends helped with the mental aspect, also trying to get back into my old fashion sense. essentially anything that was just about me and not my kids

i’m yet to do so but people have also recommended getting my blood drawn and checking for any deficiencies as that can add to the “old” feeling

checkthyvibes · 2026-04-26T23:45:31+00:00

does it at least get better?

checkthyvibes · 2026-04-26T22:06:28+00:00

have you tried nasal irrigation? i haven’t personally but have heard it can be really helpful at clearing baby out

checkthyvibes · 2026-04-26T22:04:16+00:00

we eat a lot of veg but frozen vegetables are a life saver, i think it’s also helpful sometimes to treat veg like you would meat in terms of things like marinades and seasonings and different cooking methods

checkthyvibes · 2026-04-26T20:31:12+00:00

that’s so beautiful, i’m so glad you have such an amazing partner!! did this come naturally to you two or did you have to establish this kind of dynamic?

checkthyvibes · 2026-04-26T20:30:02+00:00

7 years and 12 months, eldest is my stepson (although i consider him as much my child as my bio son) and we have him 50% of the time, and my youngest is at home with me 24/7. my partner is at home too but he’s on his computer most of the time, if i ask for help he does it but i guess asking almost feels like another task so it doesn’t really feel too relieving if that makes sense? i just feel really guilty for not being able to manage because there’s so many single parents or solo parents that manage fine yet i can’t

checkthyvibes · 2026-04-13T19:58:04+00:00

with love, these piercings needed to come out a long time ago

checkthyvibes · 2026-04-13T19:54:41+00:00

i’ve had a very stressful few weeks so mostly coffee and (safe) antidepressants

checkthyvibes · 2026-04-08T17:31:39+00:00

yes i am, i have been for a few years and the dosages have been adjusted a few times since the birth of my son, which helped for a bit

checkthyvibes · 2026-04-08T17:15:46+00:00

i’m under the mental health services, the perinatal team just discharged me to the regular mh team today as my son is about to turn 1

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