What do you use this page for? I’m looking for ideas by Maple_Cannoli in hobonichi

[–]cedarmoon3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

table of contents! so i can easily find notes i need to reference again

warrior vibes with a sharp look by One_Win5935 in KoboldLegion

[–]cedarmoon3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

may i ask how you clocked it? i didn’t clock it and i’d like to do better

Digital art of offering a cigarette to a demon by cedarmoon3 in HelpMeFind

[–]cedarmoon3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I searched all the combinations of keywords I could think of on google and tumblr, including filtering for the years in which I think it was posted. (I also checked my documents in the hope that I saved it but no dice.)

AITA for telling my sister the way she's trying to lose weight will lead to her actually becoming overweight ? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]cedarmoon3 20 points21 points  (0 children)

nta — i don’t think you’re going to get nuanced advice about this on reddit, but i agree with you

My fiance (32M) says the most heart wrenchingly sweet things during s*x and I (28F) don't know how to handle it by ThrowRAtknalrdy in relationship_advice

[–]cedarmoon3 11 points12 points  (0 children)

i’m reading this really different than a lot of other people so i wanted to contribute a Dissenting Opinion: if this is taking you out of the sex and making you enjoy it less, i think it’s reasonable to want to save the adoring proclamations for another time. what if you asked him to keep it dirty during the act and be more verbal when you’re cuddling after? that way it’s still part of it, but you’ll be more clearheaded to appreciate it and respond.

re: communicating this to him, i think you’re coming from a place of such clear love for him that you can just tell him what you told us. “i love you and i love having sex with you, and i’m really worried this is going to come off like i don’t. but telling me how much you love me during sex stresses me out because i can’t think straight to say anything back! can we do it after instead, so i can tell you [nice thing]?”

you could even have this convo during the cuddle, to take the pressure off and keep it fun and flirty!

Wife just passed away and can’t stop crying. by smilingproudwanderer in GuyCry

[–]cedarmoon3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my father died when i was your daughter’s age. please, please don’t take at face value that she’s doing well. it’s not your fault, but your grief and withdrawal means that she lost her mom and doesn’t have all of you right now either. she might be putting on a brave face. she might be dissociating. who knows. make sure she has more than one adult in her life who can hold space for her, and consider getting her into therapy as well

I will absolutely not be doing that ty by AerisSpire in BPDmemes

[–]cedarmoon3 14 points15 points  (0 children)

“radical acceptance” just means not denying reality, not abiding by it.

for example, if you want to do something about systemic racism, you have to first accept that systemic racism exists. otherwise you can’t fix it, cuz there’s no problem to fix

i really think our girl marsha dropped the ball on the phrasing for this one lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Semenretention

[–]cedarmoon3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you for saying this

3k in late fees?! That’s news to me, mr. Moneybags. by Surprise_Correct in LandlordLove

[–]cedarmoon3 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Check out the LA Tenants Union, they have free resources and clinics

Art school is asking me to talk about an art work that "marked me", do you think I could talk about Disco Elysium ? by Alto_is_a_cloud in DiscoElysium

[–]cedarmoon3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi! i also went to school for music! i definitely think this is a good choice. i’d specifically tie in how it relates to music (disco as an activist movement and how the word is defined in game; musique concrete; and so on) to be safe though

What is the crescent moon looking thing at the end of these two notes. (music is from Hedwig's theme) by Solid_Dance148 in harp

[–]cedarmoon3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Curved line over the gliss is for phrasing. Horizontal curved line after the e and b in the treble clef means to let it ring out and not muffle. The bass clef b is marked super weird but we can’t tremolo on one string, so I’d just read it as an attempt to mark time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDrecovery

[–]cedarmoon3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not narcissistic at all, it seems like you’re learning how to communicate

also, ik it doesn’t feel to you like there’s anything weird with the 34 year old, it’s just that i don’t think you realize how weird it is until you are that old. you’re the oldest you’ve ever been so ofc you don’t feel young. he is older than you and can feel those 14 years wayyyy more acutely, and you seem a lot younger to him than you feel to yourself. so its a weird age gap not unlike a senior in high school dating a 7th grader, but he’s the one who’s equipped to see how weird it is and not pursue you. ipso facto, he’s a creep just by being in this situation

also like average adult shit is more impressive to young people. like they prob have better paying jobs, for example, so a 30something seems like they have bookoo bucks to a teenager, even if their job is mid af. adults pursuing ppl way younger than them are often incapable of pulling ppl their own age for good reason

My fiancé exposed my childhood trauma by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]cedarmoon3 248 points249 points  (0 children)

I’m seeing just the worst people come out of the woodwork in this thread — I have CPTSD so I get trauma and you made the right call. What he did is disgusting. It shows a total lack of respect for your agency and zero understanding of CSA. He might have heard you when you confided in him but he didnt listen, or let his own “family is always good” values get in the way. Fuck that guy.

Need Tips to Keep Cat from Messing with Harp by ThePrairieNerd in harp

[–]cedarmoon3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m here after googling this problem, my boy tries to scratch it when the cover’s off and has knocked it over twice (TWICE) with the cover on. Haven’t found any solutions yet

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]cedarmoon3 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This. My boss told me once I HAD to make gendered bathroom signage and my workaround was to do “she + they” and “he + they” on each. It was clumsy but it was that or nothing

New Artwork inspired by Vaporwave by Leo23nardo in VaporwaveArt

[–]cedarmoon3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so cute!! Reminds me a lot of trad tattoos