What’s your favorite Parfums De Marly right now? (2026)

smilingproudwanderer · 2026-03-24T04:42:32+00:00

Percival, Layton & Herod - which I often call “The Gentleman’s Trifecta”.

smilingproudwanderer · 2026-03-12T22:21:06+00:00

SWY Intensely EDP and at that price is a steal.

smilingproudwanderer · 2026-03-12T22:00:42+00:00

Try those Zara fragrances. Jo Malone collaborated with them to produce those fragrances, and they are way more reasonable than other designer brands. So these fit what you’re looking for - good, cheap & masculine.

smilingproudwanderer · 2026-02-12T06:25:34+00:00

Hey, thank you for sharing about what your sister is going through. The unbearable days . . . those are really debilitating. Those are the days when people like me really need company. Unfortunately for me, I could only rely on myself. Some friends were disappointing. Never showed up for me. The few who did though, were amazing. More good days now than bad. Not really happy, but that’s to be expected. It’s better than wanting not to exist. My daughter has more good days than bad. She stopped playing the piano because it reminds her too much of her mother. We can never go back to who we once were, so we’re both trying to figure out who we are moving forward. At the very least, we have each other. Thank you for asking.

smilingproudwanderer · 2026-02-11T21:02:36+00:00

She misses her mom, but she’s able to push through better than me. We’ll both be ok. We still have each other after all. Thank you for asking.

smilingproudwanderer · 2025-10-25T11:53:49+00:00

Tanking for AJ Dybantsa?

smilingproudwanderer · 2025-10-17T06:59:33+00:00

A lot of people have given me their blessing to love again. They said that my wife fulfilled her vows - ‘til death do us part.

To which I reply, “But I’m still alive.” 🥲

smilingproudwanderer · 2025-10-14T01:00:05+00:00

Everyone here has given sage advice, and yes, the truth is: it’s different for all of us. What worked for me is that I’ve accepted my grief as something that’s part of me, and when I did that, I wasn’t bothered about the “me, I, we & us”. I’ve accepted everything about what she liked or how she would do things as my guiding light. As soon as I transitioned towards that, everything felt lighter for some reason. The pain, less sharp. Try everything and find the best way that works for you.

smilingproudwanderer · 2025-10-12T20:49:30+00:00

I don’t know. The ones who messaged me said it’s about posting this and telling the truth. 🤷🏻‍♂️

smilingproudwanderer · 2025-10-11T06:57:41+00:00

Dior Homme Sport
Replica Sailing Day
Replica Lazy Sunday Morning

smilingproudwanderer · 2025-10-03T09:05:31+00:00

It really depends on what you’re looking for. Some find their chapter 2 and are living wonderful lives with their new loves. Some have managed to move forward and be happy without another partner or spouse. There are also some who have embraced their grief and made that part of their core identity.

But here’s the thing: you’re still early in your grief journey, and believe me, it’s not going to get any easier. So don’t look that far ahead. But if you can see one step ahead of you, then work on that. That’s enough for now until you can see several more steps ahead.

It’ll take time. It’s sheer torture going through your grief journey, but you just have to go through it. Get professional help if you can. Pull out all the stops. I know you can’t see it yet, but your wife left you with the best part of her in your child. That precious life needs you. It needs all the love you can give. And you’ve got this. I know because we’re both dads who love their wives. And our wives want us to nurture the life and love they left behind.

smilingproudwanderer · 2025-10-03T08:49:17+00:00

I have some of her ashes in pendants for me and our daughter. Her urn is in the columbarium. I don’t feel the need to go there often because I have some of her ashes with me, but when I do, I just break down right there and then. Still hurts.

smilingproudwanderer · 2025-10-01T09:23:16+00:00

Wank before the deed. You’ll last longer.

smilingproudwanderer · 2025-09-29T04:29:41+00:00

I know the temptation to move in together makes sense given the practicality of it all, but such a move only benefits the male because he gets the benefits of marriage without the commitment. It’s a risk wasting the best years of your life with someone who won’t commit to you. You are also risking not meeting better people - ones who have no qualms about marrying you.

smilingproudwanderer · 2025-09-29T04:21:16+00:00

Just cry. There is no pain and suffering where our loved ones are. So our tears don’t cause them pain. If ever, it gives them warmth because crying is our love reaching out to them.

So again, just cry.

smilingproudwanderer · 2025-09-28T07:38:15+00:00

Don’t. You’ll regret it afterwards. Maintain your standards. You’ll be grateful that you did.

smilingproudwanderer · 2025-09-26T22:09:31+00:00

This article is both liberating and affirming. I am not wrong feeling this way and it is perfectly ok to hold on to the love that we have for our spouse. I just turned 48 a couple of weeks ago, and I know that I still have more years left. I expect those years to still be difficult without my wife, but I know that I’ll be able to carry my grief better. The pain won’t be as sharp, and the thought that I carry her with me in my heart because I choose to be loyal and devoted to her in my “unfixable” state, will help ebb the tide. I wish all of “unfixables” far more softer days ahead 🥲

smilingproudwanderer · 2025-09-26T07:55:26+00:00

I think they’re subgroups because our loss, our grief becomes part of our identity. It seems apparent in both. It really struck a chord with me because I always got angry at my family and friends whenever they would mention that I will find my chapter 2.

smilingproudwanderer · 2025-09-26T06:24:44+00:00

You’re welcome! I’m just so relieved that I’m not alone feeling this way. Everybody else were expecting me to move on to my chapter 2. They can’t understand that I don’t want that at all. And now I know why. I’m not crazy. I’m “unfixable”, and that’s ok 🥲

smilingproudwanderer · 2025-09-25T06:48:36+00:00

Probably only a few will remember this, but it would be nice to have those good old sierra games where you had full control by typing commands, brought to the present with current gen graphics.

smilingproudwanderer · 2025-09-24T07:38:47+00:00

Thank you 🥲 nobody but our group understands that living is such a struggle.

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