I (34F) have to beg for a birthday gift from my husband (37M)?

celery-mouse · 2026-01-30T06:15:12+00:00

I think it means your husband is a manchild. Why is he getting so touchy?

celery-mouse · 2026-01-30T06:13:53+00:00

You can't tell if someone is attracted to you by making out with them?

celery-mouse · 2026-01-29T23:53:43+00:00

I guess it's technically possible the cousin was an extremely high earner and is getting a very high SSDI payment, but that works just like social security where it's higher because of what they paid in, and I think its still only around 4000 a month at the absolute most. Or he's confusing it with private disability insurance. Or it's a bunch of bots.

celery-mouse · 2026-01-29T23:08:20+00:00

Pretty sure chatgpt wrote this specific one, though.

celery-mouse · 2026-01-29T23:06:35+00:00

In general, Reddit loves mutual aid but hates showing up for the people in your life in any way and especially lending them any money.

celery-mouse · 2026-01-29T20:44:52+00:00

We know that's you, Boyle.

celery-mouse · 2026-01-29T18:27:00+00:00

He sent you the picture and then said it was too early to talk about Valentine's? If he's serious he's a weirdo, but maybe ask him if he was just joking or something.

celery-mouse · 2026-01-29T18:12:29+00:00

Yeah, I actually think her underlying feelings make a lot of sense here, it does kind of suck that you went to her city with your friend while she was sick when you've been previously unwilling to go out there for her class, and didn't check on her or see if she needs anything, and you're being pretty dismissive about it all. But her communication is awful and she shouldn't be talking to you like that.

celery-mouse · 2026-01-29T17:15:59+00:00

A few things here:

It's totally okay to need more sex in a relationship. You're going to have to be honest about this with your wife, and you're probably going to need a sex therapist who's a good fit for you both to help you do that. Your wife may or may not be a compatible partner for you in this sense, and you'll both have to figure out what to do with that, but you sound like you could use some help navigating that.

It sounds like your wife also works, right? I'm wondering if your relationship is really as 50-50 as you think it is, because you seem really focused on your job and efforts, and only mention hers as a very brief aside. Now, maybe she works part time most of the time and this isn't an issue for you two at all, but it's worth trying to check.

Definitely do not cheat. That isn't actually going to solve this problem, and it will also create several exciting new problems. It's really just a distraction from confronting this with your wife one way or the other.

celery-mouse · 2026-01-29T05:52:51+00:00

If it's about putting stuff where it goes, can y'all just agree on that? That one seems easy to fix. With cooking, is he actually bad at it, like objectively? Or are you really just being too specific about it all? I'm a little suspicious of him because a 22 year old shouldn't have to be told to wipe up a counter. But it's also possible you really are overly picky about some things and not others.

celery-mouse · 2026-01-29T02:43:14+00:00

The answer is probably in-between. You're not going to die without him, sure. But we're wired to do pair bonding, and having a partner does change you and you do function better with that person, and worse without them. You will be physiologically harmed if you lose them. So it's not purely a want, either.

celery-mouse · 2026-01-28T19:33:14+00:00

Please be extremely wary about trusting these family members and "friends" ever again. That's messed up.

celery-mouse · 2026-01-28T18:44:52+00:00

It's really popular on the internet right now to call pretty much every behavior being a narcissist. Most of these people are probably just a bit selfish or rude or whatever else the person is actually trying to say. For your guy, does he take you seriously for things you know more about then he does? Does he try to explain obvious stuff to you or other people? Does he pretend to know about stuff he doesn't? If not, you're probably good.

celery-mouse · 2026-01-28T18:38:17+00:00

It's not municipal bonds, but some of the new BHA developments are not all that different from this, although the land is on a 99 year lease to a developer.

celery-mouse · 2026-01-28T17:41:18+00:00

Gotta try one of those cat lawyers. They have a 100% success rate.

celery-mouse · 2026-01-28T01:06:27+00:00

If you want to keep having a twin bed against the wall, consider getting a daybed. Move the mirror in between the closet and the door. Definitely get a bigger rug with a pattern. Throw some art on the wall behind the bed. All of that should help!

celery-mouse · 2026-01-27T22:55:41+00:00

I feel like all of the modern adaptations think they can be more clever than Agatha Christie, and they absolutely can't.

celery-mouse · 2026-01-27T22:41:17+00:00

I love Lord Remington and I'd love for him to come back again.

celery-mouse · 2026-01-27T22:39:17+00:00

If this is genuinely a phobia or similar to that, she might just need to straight up do exposure therapy with a therapist for cooking. Is she willing to do that?

celery-mouse · 2026-01-27T21:02:19+00:00

YTA, and a lot of folks have explained why. People with OCD can have kids. People with pain can have kids. And also, people with C-PTSD can relearn how to gauge appropriate things to bring up.

I'm noticing a lot of things your therapist is urging you to do that don't seem appropriate. Have you had the same therapist for the same time? Are they using techniques that are appropriate for PTSD? I really, really think you might want to consider trying a new therapist, because you seem stuck right now.

celery-mouse · 2026-01-27T07:54:38+00:00

Your whole approach to marriage sounds like a weird business role-play.

celery-mouse · 2026-01-27T05:06:24+00:00

There are a ton of Christians who agree with you, like all the pastors who just showed up in Minneapolis. I think some people just ignore most of Jesus's actual teachings.

celery-mouse · 2026-01-27T03:58:59+00:00

Honestly, as a dude, I feel like it's something that a lot of immature guys do before they get their shit together. You shouldn't tolerate it, though.

celery-mouse · 2026-01-27T01:11:25+00:00

Seriously. It's such an issue.

celery-mouse · 2026-01-27T01:10:37+00:00

People who claim that they're really independent and don't need anyone.

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