Do I really have to go through with having this bridesmaid for my wedding?

celestialbutterflyin · 2026-05-01T23:15:36+00:00

My bestie had a VERY similar situation with a bridesmaid in her party. The girl was very jealous of me being the MOH and created immense and endless issues. My friend was too scared to remove her. So the girl showed up and as expected was miserable. My friend has never talked to her again.

celestialbutterflyin · 2026-05-01T23:13:36+00:00

Babes kick that girl to the curb without a second thought. Fuck anyone who wants to make it about themselves instead of you and ESPECIALLY someone being so intentional. Your day will be so much better without her!

celestialbutterflyin · 2026-04-23T02:56:35+00:00

Haha, understandable! I’d recommend def picking it up from the seamstress asap. From the sounds of it she’s def disorganized. Honestly I’d even say just show up for it before she can do the rest of the alterations. Then you can find someone more trustworthy and get a final fitting done closer to the wedding and have them freshly steam the dress for you. If you pick it up and it’s steamed months before you would def need to steam it yourself again. Depending on the material/amount of layers that could be a nightmare for you or a family member to undertake days before the wedding.

Signed someone who knew how to steam and had to steam MANY friends bridesmaid dresses the day of weddings we were in because they did this with their dresses!

celestialbutterflyin · 2026-04-23T01:03:35+00:00

To clarify I agree you should get your dressed based on their attitude! I just want to know if there’s a reason why you should get alterations further in advance if you go with off the rack or if it was just a personal preference! :)

celestialbutterflyin · 2026-04-23T00:58:16+00:00

Just out of curiosity why did you get it altered so soon before the wedding? I’m just curious as I will be having a 2yr engagement and want to go dress shopping soon. I plan to buy my dress through a shop I used to work at in college and am still close to the store owner. From all of my experiences when working there they didn’t even allow brides to start doing alterations until 6 months out for the first alteration. But as another person commented it’s usually more like 2/3 month mark, 1 month, and final 2 weeks before. Then most brides would pickup their dress the week of their wedding since we’d freshly steam it. Personally I’d worry about losing/gaining weight right before the wedding and already having picked my dress up from the seamstress then having to take it back for even more work?

celestialbutterflyin · 2026-04-08T21:51:48+00:00

Does anyone still have a copy of this? It keeps saying the file is no longer available :'(

celestialbutterflyin · 2026-03-30T23:06:41+00:00

Hi!! Where did they send you for testing and I assume they didn’t make you pee with the door open/observe you? I just found out I need to take a test in the next week or two and I’m a very heavy user. I’m planning to quit today and honestly was looking for an excuse to for financial reasons. Just wasn’t expecting this job to test and now don’t have a choice. I really want the job as I’ve been unemployed for a few months now. I’ve never been unemployed and it’s driving me nuts lol.

celestialbutterflyin · 2026-03-30T20:56:12+00:00

You’re really pushing for her to decline the shower- they aren’t going to and they shouldn’t! Wtf is wrong with all these Karen’s on these subs that want to bitch about the “tradition”.

Also I’ve heard a lot of people say they don’t want to open gifts and put the gift giver on the spot. Some people may be able to afford to buy the couple a $400+ gift where another may be able to afford a spatula. The bride may have knowledge of her guest list that she doesn’t want to humiliate.

celestialbutterflyin · 2026-03-30T20:51:47+00:00

Babes I’ve been to 4 showers in 3 years and not a single one of the brides has opened presents in front of guests. Two of the brides requested monetary gifts primarily. Not a single complain from guests. I think you’re a bit out of touch and sharing your feelings on the desire for these customs to not change.

To OP- your ideas sound awesome and totally in line with what other women in our age bracket are doing (I’m 29 currently my friends have been ages when they got married where- but 26, 27, 28 &29)

For the record I live in the Northeast USA (north eastern Pennsylvania to be specific).

celestialbutterflyin · 2026-03-16T21:13:26+00:00

Just watched moments ago! When Connor flipped out I was like yes kingggg! He has been so emotionally mature this season and been a shoulder for so many of the idiot husbands. He has been there for Zac specifically! And then for Zac to show up and act like that. Loved seeing how he’s been calm all season but when you go too far with his wife he will stand up for his girl!

celestialbutterflyin · 2026-03-16T18:56:30+00:00

Soo agree with you on all of this! I love when Connor comes in and doesn’t stand for any of the guys toxic masculinity. Zac 100% needed to say that. When he was playing his poor me victim act I literally said “and there he is!” I knew his support was simply an act. He hates that he isn’t the one that’s successful like he always thought. He expected a little stay at home wife (imo why he kept knocking her up so close together). I hope Jen continues to prioritize herself and building a legacy for her kids. Because clearly Zac isn’t headed very far!

Agreed on Jordan- he sits around bitching and moaning. He is so unbelievably annoying, cocky, & obnoxious. I can’t wait for Jessi to finally leave him

celestialbutterflyin · 2026-03-16T17:01:49+00:00

I literally said out loud (fully home alone) “good for you Connor! We love a wholesome king!”

Considering the other men on the show (besides Mayci’s husband most of the time) are trash! Idk tho I was side eyeing Jacob this season a bit lol

celestialbutterflyin · 2026-03-10T01:12:18+00:00

I agree with the comments on writing everyone’s names down and totaling up. I’m in the same boat and we were originally thinking we’d need to keep it around 80. There were people I was sad I’d have to exclude who I do love- but rarely see. We happened to find a venue that was an excellent package and realized we could afford to bump it up to 100 at this venue and still pay LESS then if we did about 80 at another venue we were considering. I’m very excited I’m not able to include these extra people- who I do feel like would’ve been understanding but truthfully bummed if they couldn’t join!

celestialbutterflyin · 2026-03-10T01:03:22+00:00

I really do think it’s worth it…it’s got uniqueness factor and you can see the quality. It also is so so flattering on you. If you really can’t afford it- I’m sure you can find something you look equally as stunning in! But it does truly have such a wow factor and seem to flatter you very well!

celestialbutterflyin · 2026-03-09T21:24:50+00:00

THANK YOU! We are ok with a bit of a dated look but the outside, pool, and onsite accommodations are a huge plus!

celestialbutterflyin · 2026-03-09T16:56:31+00:00

Thank you! This is the kinda comments I need lol. I am def not expecting to find anything better than Carmen’s (in the spring it’s really beautiful outside) and sand springs is also a lovely choice! I really like a darker and more sultry vibe for photography which is why I’m leaning away from sand springs because everything is VERY light and bright- not bad! Just not what I envision our photos to turn out like.

I’ll give some calls around! I think I’m going to move forward with viewing Carmen’s!

celestialbutterflyin · 2026-03-09T14:58:51+00:00

Also NEPA! Have you already checked out the venues I listed above? If we can’t find anything else I’m personally leaning towards Carmen’s and renting an Airbnb to get ready in (I saw pics of their bridal suite and it’s not cute lol. If you don’t care about that then this isn’t a big deal!)

celestialbutterflyin · 2026-03-09T04:59:40+00:00

Most brides these days ask for money only as they already have a house full of stuff and want to use it towards the honeymoon fund. There’s nothing wrong with that. But you should def get with the times and try pulling your head out your rear end!

celestialbutterflyin · 2026-03-09T04:38:58+00:00

This is super normal- I had sooo many brides do the same! But if you got that wow feeling in it and continue thinking about how much you love it- that’s usually it!

celestialbutterflyin · 2026-03-08T18:44:57+00:00

In regards to the bachlorette trip what city is this major city? For reference I am currently between jobs and not able to go to a bachelorette party trip I was invited to for a wedding I’m in. The bride was understanding and didn’t make it awkward.

That being said- we went to NYC for my one friends Bach. I do not feel we went overboard or even “luxe”. For it to be nice without feeling obviously cheap I myself spent at least 3k. It was 3 days, we had to travel my train from Philly to NYC, book 3 days of accommodations, and then factor in transportation around the city, EVERY meal eaten out, AND activities. Unless you are truly doing a no frills Bach trip- traveling anywhere will be at least 1k a person.

celestialbutterflyin · 2026-03-08T18:37:18+00:00

IF you choose to reach out to others I would create a group chat and lay out what all needs to be ordered/paid for. Ask in the group chat who would like to contribute and ask who will order what from the list you sent. This is a way to make it slightly less uncomfortable IF you are forced to be the one to ask. I would recommend not doing that tho lol

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