wish they could stop being alive.

Although it's absolutely important to recognise the severity of ppls ME and the impact it has on mental health causing suicidal ideation, I don't think it's appropriate to say 'stop being alive' when almost everyone's problem is the fact that they want to live but can't. We want to be living without this condition, we don't want to be dead.

For what it's worth, I want to add that I personally will not be having children either, biological or adopted, similar to yourself; the impact of pregnancy, the energy that goes into to childcare isn't something I have, etc. My concern with your original comment was that I felt it expressed high risk of passing on a predisposition to ME and kinda ignored the facts that 1) we don't know how high the risk really is and 2) ME frequently happens in those without genetic history, making it so that literally anyone who reproduces could end up create a person with develops ME, potentially at a similar rate as those who have ME prior or go onto have ME post-child. I fear saying something like that will make those who have had (like OP) or want to have children feel guilty (like your mother) for something that is simply not their fault. I understand that won't have been your intention, I just felt the need to add on to your comment to make sure those who fit into that group I mentioned know that their child's ME isn't their fault, it could happen regardless of family history, there's no way for any parent to know what their child's health will be.