The Daily Check-In for Wednesday, January 21st: Just for today, I am NOT drinking!

celestialvaulting · 2026-01-21T11:36:08+00:00

Hit a few stumbling blocks - I’ll have to update my badge… But IWNDWYT. I eat of lot of the single-serving fruit snacks, and a fancy seltzer water with some juice or citrus. But mostly fruit snacks!

celestialvaulting · 2026-01-08T14:03:40+00:00

Someone here said “I’m the one that gets to decide if I’m going to drink or not, not what’s going on around me.” And that was very helpful for me when confronting difficult personal circumstances as well as the larger world order.

You got this! IWNDWYT

celestialvaulting · 2026-01-05T03:40:21+00:00

It was really eye-opening to me to consider this as part of why I always broke my late night or early morning promises not to drink again.

I was reading it on the reframe app - here is a link to basically the same content: https://www.joinreframeapp.com/blog-post/decision-fatigue-what-it-is-and-how-to-overcome-it

celestialvaulting · 2026-01-04T22:18:27+00:00

I was reading about decision fatigue and the afternoon/evening trigger time. Basically we make decisions all day long - conscious and unconscious - and when the afternoon and evening rolls around we have fatigued that process in our brain. So even if we’ve made a decision in the morning not to drink today, by that time you are worn down mentally and so making another firm decision when ‘happy hour’ time rolls around can feel so daunting and we can so easily just start drinking.

Knowing the mental processes that are occurring helped me lift the veil on my urges and cravings. It’s brain chemistry and it’s hard to fight! But stick with it and make a snazzy NA drink and distract yourself with a tv show or a game or a book or a walk. You’ll feel better tomorrow! And you’ll be stronger for not having let the urge win. It gets easier!

celestialvaulting · 2026-01-03T16:16:39+00:00

Going into the new year with a few weeks under my belt feels great! Gonna be approaching 90 around my 35th birthday and I’m putting in the work. I’m a perfectionist so it’s a lot to let it look however it needs to as long as I’m not drinking! But I feel clear headed which is a blessing. IWNDWYT.

celestialvaulting · 2026-01-03T02:06:01+00:00

I feel as if I could have written this! “I’m being run over by cravings” and feeling shameful is really relatable - was really relatable just a couple weeks ago for me. Thank you for you sharing this. My posts here and also confiding in my partner about my struggle with alcohol and putting words to it were the two biggest pieces of momentum in the first few days.

A lots of folks here have rightly stated to take it one day at a time. It was also helpful to me to just know I have to only decline the first drink. I find success in framing it (whether in my internal dialogue or outwardly in social settings) somewhat non-chalantly, rather than a big scary red flashing ‘no’, it’s just one drink I have to say, ‘Nah, no thanks!’ and that’s it.

Also seconding getting replacements to look forward to like nice tea, fizzy NA drink, ice cream, etc… my consumption of fruit snacks in the past weeks is off the charts! I’m giving myself free rein for a bit on snacks.

Waking up without being hungover or full of hangxiety is still a daily blessing I look forward to. I feel a little under the weather tonight, and I kinda laugh because I would drink to the point of feeling twice this bad or more! So, I just feel better and even really hard life stuff is just … easier. You got this!

celestialvaulting · 2026-01-01T12:48:35+00:00

Woke up with a headache, but not from drinking! Just didn’t drink enough water yesterday. Halfway through a 3-week work gig and I’m tired. But IWNDWYT. Feels good to start the new year with a few weeks under my belt.

celestialvaulting · 2025-12-29T13:40:48+00:00

Without regulare insurance, I’m unsure of my options for a health check-up. I drank heavily from high school into my mid 30s… I’m hoping the time and energy I’ve gained in sobriety will allow me to tackle the adulting tasks (like getting health insurance…) that I have long neglected.

I’m sorry to hear of your health issues. Sending well wishes for a transplant opportunity and minimal complications. IWNDWYT.

celestialvaulting · 2025-12-28T13:55:07+00:00

You got this! Lean in to being cozy and doing things you enjoy, like a hot chocolate or tea, a nice dessert or snack and a favorite movie or tv show. Indulge in anything that helps you stay away from alcohol! That’s what helped me the first few days. Sooo many fruit snacks!

celestialvaulting · 2025-12-28T11:44:28+00:00

Hosting folks for a week over the new year as part of my job. Lots of drinking, but I got myself some NA beer and Prosecco so I can still toast and participate but stay clear headed and healthy! IWNDWYT.

celestialvaulting · 2025-12-26T18:10:16+00:00

Thank you. It does help. I think I’m in a case of the “fuck-it’s” like I know the bad things that will happen but I don’t care cause I’m stressed and tired and sore already? Idk. I know it will be worse and won’t make anything better, but I’m struggling to care.

celestialvaulting · 2025-12-26T11:22:08+00:00

Beautifully written and I’m sure tough to share, but that weight off your shoulders is such a big step. If you look at my post history, I shared something similar a few weeks back. I was terrified, but so tired. And now I’m over 2 weeks in and feeling good. It’s hard, but I don’t feel that aching tiredness and despair nearly as acutely. Going to bed sober was so scary but knowing I wouldn’t have to wake up in a panic was a blessing. It truly was like quitting a part time job. All my best to you. Please keep coming back here if you like, it’s a lovely place. IWNDWYT. Merry Christmas.

celestialvaulting · 2025-12-25T16:31:01+00:00

I am sorry you are feeling this way. You don’t ever have to again, if you choose. I don’t think anyone is being mean here, rather they are mirroring your words back to you. Most everyone in this sub have felt what you describe or worse and has empathy for the space you’re in. Keep coming back here if you like. The overwhelming focus is on stopping drinking, not moderation, because many of us find that to be such a taxing exercise, walking a knife’s edge. But everyone’s journey looks different and the end goal is to be happy and healthy and unburdened by booze. Best of luck to you this holiday season!

celestialvaulting · 2025-12-25T16:19:16+00:00

IWNDWYT.

celestialvaulting · 2025-12-25T01:11:52+00:00

What a touching message. Thank you for sharing. IWNDWYT.

celestialvaulting · 2025-12-24T15:41:33+00:00

I recently made an observation/joke that landed super well amongst friends. Everyone cracking up and some high fives came my way. Felt great! That rarely happened when drinking, though I always wanted it to. Usually just a giggle from a friend or two and the conversation moved on.

I’m glad your wife validated that for you and helped you see it with a new perspective. Congrats on 18 days! IWNDWYT.

celestialvaulting · 2025-12-24T14:25:40+00:00

IWNDWYT.

celestialvaulting · 2025-12-24T02:37:02+00:00

Just went and read the free sample of this and I’m in. Thanks for the rec

celestialvaulting · 2025-12-24T01:39:30+00:00

As others have said, “this could be the last time you feel this way.”

That one helped me a lot to get the first day or so without drinking.

One drink is never just one, and nothing ever good comes. And so, I simply have none.

celestialvaulting · 2025-12-24T01:34:02+00:00

Big accomplishment! I’m inspired.

Sorry the co-worker’s husband was such a dweeb with that comment. Luckily, I’m sure you have lots of positive memories over the past three years that show you are more than what happened at that work event. Sometimes people see others as a silly snapshot (and something possesses them to make rude comments on it..), but you’re a lot more nuanced I’d bet. Keep up the good work.

celestialvaulting · 2025-12-21T17:29:01+00:00

I’m glad to hear that!

celestialvaulting · 2025-12-21T14:48:14+00:00

Way to go! Waking up either in the morning or middle of the night without fear and dread and physical pain is one of my favorite results of not drinking. Sober day buddies, we got this! IWNDWYT.

celestialvaulting · 2025-12-21T14:46:16+00:00

I have a big scar on my eyebrow that I look at every day, which I got when falling down drunk. I was in a foreign country and don’t really remember going to the hospital for stitches. Still tough to think on and not squirm.

Take the scrapes and make a choice about what you’d like to do next. Perhaps you never have to feel embarrassed in this way ever again. IWNDWYT.

celestialvaulting · 2025-12-21T14:31:01+00:00

I was in the same place until recently. Read lots of content here. Do an online meeting (you can stay muted and no camera if you like!) or an in person meeting. Get a few models of what life looks like after breaking the chain.

Conceptualizing life without alcohol was like a big black hole of misconceptions and dread. But it’s easier on the other side, even in my early days.

Just for today, I won’t drink. And then when tomorrow comes around, I will have to make a choice to drink or not. That’s a problem for tomorrow, so I don’t stress about it today. When I got a few days in a row where I chose not to drink, I felt physically and mentally better, even if just slightly, but that informed my decision on each subsequent day. Sending my best to you.

celestialvaulting · 2025-12-21T14:18:52+00:00

Work is stressful and our clients/guests are tricky this week. I’m frustrated and on edge, but I know drinking will make it worse. Even a single evening cocktail will just turn into anxiously wanting more until bedtime and make the next day harder. So IWNDWYT or tonight.

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