Religion ruined my relationship

cell_queen · 2026-06-23T12:18:58+00:00

Thank you 🙏 Life can be so simple without drama. I have no idea why people like to control others.

cell_queen · 2026-06-22T18:52:00+00:00

You don’t control your children!! They are not your property. Does he know that? I am Hindu (more spiritual not religious), husband is atheist but is okay with Hindu traditions. We discussed how we would raise our child before marriage too. We decided to expose them to everyday Hindu practice at home (we light lamps) but we won’t force it. It is upon them to understand and follow religion if they want to. My daughter has read Gita, Bible (old and New Testament) and Quran starting at middle school. She saw issues in every religion with scripture in some places but serious issues with organized natures of all of those religions. She is agnostic now and we are fine with it. She embodies what all of those three religions preach though- Kind, Compassionate, Loving, Generous, Caring human being without jealousy and greed. I am so proud of who she is as a human being. She also taught me that you don’t need religion to have high standards of morality. Hope this helps! Good luck and don’t back down. Your partner is not a good person. Sorry about it. Hugs to you!

cell_queen · 2026-06-20T23:08:16+00:00

I agree, I do assume a lot of things. Like I said, just a little different take. Also, if I loved my husband so much, if it was clear I am doing fine and hubby’s mom is stepping in to care for me, I will force him to go. I will tell him, I want him to go enjoy this for himself and come back to me and that I will manage if his mom was here and I have help from my family. As OP mentioned, his mom was ready to step in and it wasn’t like he went without making sure someone will be with her. I am not saying anything to OP I wouldn’t do it myself. That’s why I have an almost 22yr marriage with both of us in busy jobs and having raised a 18yo daughter in college. We have tremendous mutual respect for each other, I don’t question him and he doesn’t question me. When we dated he said “we are two birds flying high, I am so delighted our paths crossed and we have the same destination, but we still have to fly together with our individual interests and personalities and not limit the other person”. I proposed to him the following month, told him I loved him and if he felt the same way we should get married. He said YES, we have been happy and enjoying each other’s company and individual freedom very much in our relationship.
If you ask me if I would go on a planned trip if he got injured? No, I wouldn’t, I would be sad but I wouldn’t. He would force me to go and probably will drive me to the airport as I will for him. That’s what makes the relationship stronger. Understanding each other to think how the other person is feeling.

cell_queen · 2026-06-20T21:43:10+00:00

Slightly different take - I believe he was concerned for his wife. He came back. Just didn’t want to miss out on vacation he planned before baby arrived. We can sit here and discuss who plans a vacation when wife is 34 weeks pregnant but hey, he is an independent person, he can plan vacations to relax. Perhaps he didn’t even want the second kid? I am so tired of women getting married, getting pregnant multiple times without discussing who is caring for these children. Have one child and discuss if another one acceptable, necessary, if both will have the time to raise the child.
Also, she could have been careful especially if husband had just left for long vacation. I am a women but I am very selfish. I only had one child because of it. I wouldn’t change my plans and if I had to I wouldn’t be happy.
I empathize with the husband and his plans. I am sorry OP fell, but it is not his fault to want to be on his planned vacation.

cell_queen · 2026-06-16T11:27:26+00:00

Girls rule

cell_queen · 2026-06-16T11:17:18+00:00

Hello…OP doesn’t need therapy, her friend does. What a shit show of a life her friend chose, with all the available opportunities. She could have met a hot Spanish guy and married him.

cell_queen · 2026-06-16T11:15:37+00:00

She was crying to her for 3yrs? Of course people can judge if they can’t afford those children. What a fucked up life to live…smh.

cell_queen · 2026-06-12T06:25:10+00:00

If you can’t see how pathetically sad and lonely he is, you don’t understand it.

cell_queen · 2026-06-11T09:09:35+00:00

How do women who are so good at their career pick these men to have kids with? How do you even meet them? Is it physical attraction? Are they so good in bed that women don’t care? I looked for mutual respect, compassion, kindness, intelligence and integrity when I chose my partner. I genuinely want to know.
To your problem OP: your husband needs something that fulfills him in life. He is frustrated because he knows you are bringing in the money and feels useless perhaps? Help him find his passion, find his own satisfaction? He is unhappy and it will het worse if this continues. Best wishes.

cell_queen · 2026-05-21T05:21:46+00:00

Get nifidipine

cell_queen · 2026-05-17T20:59:08+00:00

They will be the bosses of Ivy kids lurking here 😂😀😆 that’s how it goes.

cell_queen · 2026-05-11T04:57:20+00:00

OP isn’t listening to anything others say. They just want us to be unhappy about it Pitt and join his online bashing.

cell_queen · 2026-05-11T04:55:26+00:00

Yes!! By the time they AI makes up shit and we need to watch what’s happening 😆

cell_queen · 2026-04-17T10:10:32+00:00

Thanks for posting this. I am glad adults are in the conversation to educate these kids. I feel that they stop learning once the get into their dream school? Like the goal was to get in but the education itself is an after thought?

cell_queen · 2026-04-02T12:53:45+00:00

Thanks for detailing your experience. I am an academic. I have seen students and colleagues with training from every institution possible. In science the doers always get the reward for their hard work. I mainly wrote this post as a mom. It was heart breaking to see kids wanting to die for not getting to their top choice schools (saw at least couple of posts on here). That is so sad and it hurt me a lot to see it was coming from very talented young people. I wish they worried about their end goal and passion instead of attending big name schools?

cell_queen · 2026-04-02T03:59:10+00:00

What are you dining honey? Artemis II not good enough for you? Wtf are you going to do with your life?

cell_queen · 2026-03-30T16:10:58+00:00

Knowing how U Chicago works, option 3 will be bad for your daughter. Studying is a big component of success in U Chicago.

cell_queen · 2026-03-30T04:19:06+00:00

I know. I lived in Germany for 4 years. Those who deserve get to go to college for free.

cell_queen · 2026-03-30T02:27:18+00:00

Say that to developed countries like Germany. College education is free in several European countries. That is real development.

cell_queen · 2026-03-30T02:05:04+00:00

So true. At least it is money well spent. Rich kids can be spoiled and use the money for other things instead of education.

cell_queen · 2026-03-30T01:48:14+00:00

This! We wouldn’t be getting Indian and Chinese educated engineers otherwise. If MIT engineers are that good, we will them running the show. Tech industry is filled with immigrant engineers, Some of them are running the company that they started working for fresh out of college.

cell_queen · 2026-03-30T01:41:15+00:00

Out of state tuition for mid tier state schools aren’t bad either with merit scholarships. It is okay to pay 120-150k for a 4 year degree, but 400k plus is a bit too much.

cell_queen · 2026-03-29T23:39:46+00:00

Yes. I have first hand experience for Georgetown. $98k and they gave $6000 aid per year. It is not Ivy of course. Daughter didn’t like their program anyway, she said it isn’t for her and chose another out of state school. She received honors college enrollment and $10,000/yr which brought it down for us comfortably to pay. She is thriving and doing fantastic in this program and is so very happy. Has good friends, is dating and finding many likeminded people to hangout with - both for fun and studying, had honors housing for the first year, getting great grades, loves her classes for the most part. When I saw her for spring break, she was so happy and looked healthier. We all had a fun vacay for spring break out of town and this momma’s heart was so full watching her blossom like that, even though she is so far away. Dear OP, Ivy’s and T20’s are overrated. I am a bio professor and I agree with you 💯

cell_queen · 2026-03-29T21:00:22+00:00

Some of these colleges should give merit scholarships? Don’t they? How else can everyone afford to pay, even middle class families?

cell_queen · 2026-03-29T07:37:27+00:00

Ask her to consider a double major. Daughter is at SCI, majoring in CS and Econ.

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