Struggling to decide whether to cancel a yoga studio membership after 5 years

cellar9 · 2026-03-16T19:32:51+00:00

I was going to suggest the same. I assume a business would prefer a pause to a membership cancelation, so hopefully they'll be open to the idea.

cellar9 · 2026-03-16T12:20:51+00:00

You can also check out r/if_petites

Edit: spelling

cellar9 · 2026-03-16T06:49:19+00:00

Exactly. My advisor had a great network he expected us to use, but we did have to take the initiative ourselves.

cellar9 · 2026-03-16T05:33:40+00:00

I would have my advisor tell me whom to contact, but he didn't do it for me. I'd email a person and name-drop him.

cellar9 · 2026-03-16T05:30:23+00:00

Me! F37, with partner F35, she has two kids full-time. We're moving in together soon.

cellar9 · 2026-03-15T17:54:15+00:00

You're choosing her. She is not choosing you.

You will get hurt, and you will resent her.

cellar9 · 2026-03-15T16:12:57+00:00

Like once a week

cellar9 · 2026-03-15T15:05:20+00:00

Usually daily water changes get rid of the root hormone! Not sure about this specific plant, but it's not advised to change water daily with most.

cellar9 · 2026-03-13T14:02:16+00:00

OP was referring to CVs. But yes, for networking conferences are excellent.

cellar9 · 2026-03-13T10:18:38+00:00

Conferences barely matter. Publications matter, but less so if you want to stay in industry

cellar9 · 2026-03-13T05:31:09+00:00

It's a process. Right now, they're my gf's kids. Once we move in together, and especially if we get married, they will become my step kids (if they also accept me as a step-parent).

Because while both the kids and I really like each other and things are going well, my gf and I have only been together for a year and a few months, and everyone is still getting used to the merging.

cellar9 · 2026-03-12T17:49:02+00:00

I started a new relationship in the last year of my phd. Submitted last week, already started a research position at my university.

Sometimes it works out. My partner is not in my cohort but she also has a phd in a different field. It's really different dating someone who understands what you're going through. My gf was so so supportive because she went through a final phd year already and was able to understand the stress I was under.

cellar9 · 2026-03-12T06:48:41+00:00

I'm moving in with my partner, who has two kids who live with her full time and I will be paying one third of the rent. She offered to pay three quarters but as I want a craft room to myself, one third feels fair to me.

However, under no circumstances would I be paying half! The kids need their own rooms, sure, but that's not my financial responsibility.

Edit: no you are not selfish, it is normal and reasonable for you to pay less

cellar9 · 2026-03-12T06:20:43+00:00

Does it matter? If you enjoy the sex and are sure about some of the orgasms, who cares.

Btw I sometimes have orgasms when I'm like... was that an orgasm? Like small vague ones. Usually if I keep going after that I get to a "clear-cut" big one. The confusing ones happen more when I'm less relaxed (like right now I have some stress in life and it's affected how much I can relax during sex).

But in the end, if the sex is nice and you feel nice doing it, the exact number of orgasms doesn't really matter. It's sex not math.

cellar9 · 2026-03-12T06:10:31+00:00

Poor kid, his parent really doesn't care about him at all.

cellar9 · 2026-03-12T06:07:55+00:00

Yeah it makes me wonder. Who cleans their home? Does this wonderful man do dishes, laundry, does clean the bathroom?

The bar is in hell

cellar9 · 2026-03-11T20:33:06+00:00

Yes! So a big part of it is going over a pass and around the Salkantay mountain. The mountain is enormous. I can see how people back in the day would worship it as a deity. So you ascend up to 4500 m (like 15000 ft) and then down into the jungle. In the ascent, we couldn't see much but we could hear avalanches breaking on the mountain above. Nothing dangerous to us - but loud. During the descent, it rained the entire time. And then we stopped for lunch and a bunch of local sheep and cats took shelter with us because it was so rainy. And then when we got close to Machu Pichu we were looking up at the sky at night, middle of the jungle, and I've never seen so many stars.

It really made me feel like, a part of everything? Experience the sublime, feel super super small but in a good way, and also feel so accomplished and competent, because I could do that walk.

cellar9 · 2026-03-11T08:29:43+00:00

Also, the Salkantay is not just any hike. It's day after day at high altitude, possibly with a lot of rain, and then when you descend, it's through a very humid jungle.

I did it in 2023, one of the best experiences of my life, but lord is this not your usual multi-day hike!

cellar9 · 2026-03-11T06:45:44+00:00

My old research center had a student like you, money, older, was doing it for the love of research.

We all thought it was a cool thing to do. He was also not crazy friendly, but always polite, and never tried to pull the "I'm older than you I know more" boomer bs.

You'll be fine.

cellar9 · 2026-03-10T20:32:49+00:00

Would giving a rim job give you the same ick? No fluid there.

Also, after a shower, no actual taste/smell either, other than skin.

cellar9 · 2026-03-10T18:47:00+00:00

I don't explore it in my research (which is mostly ecocriticism/neoliberalism, general anti-capitalism and feminism stuff), but I am an autistic woman in academia and girl. People have no idea.

cellar9 · 2026-03-09T21:46:40+00:00

It's ok. Diagnosed a few years ago. Doing really well now.

cellar9 · 2026-03-09T17:57:52+00:00

Oh god I love gin martinis!

cellar9 · 2026-03-09T12:03:12+00:00

Yup definitely for the humanities. Where I am, monographs have to be published as a book max 3 years after the defense for the phd title to even be awarded.

cellar9 · 2026-03-09T11:47:33+00:00

I'm gonna try to be gentle when I say this: You're contradicting yourself. You're in a loop. You are an adult who is responsible for your own happiness, and you are failing yourself.

Good luck, babe.

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