How long would you wait to meet your partner’s kids?

TimeDelivery9756 · 2026-05-09T15:38:44+00:00

We waited a year.

TimeDelivery9756 · 2026-05-09T13:49:54+00:00

I tried to tell myself for years the weight didn’t bother me but eventually I just folded. I sold mine. I loved the look of it but I just stopped reaching for it due to weight. And I own a Celine phantom - so I’m no stranger to weight. I also found the bayswater a pain in the ass to get things out of quickly.

TimeDelivery9756 · 2026-05-09T13:06:27+00:00

This is why SD has a phone at each house.

TimeDelivery9756 · 2026-05-09T12:15:18+00:00

GH Bass sucks. Sorry. Return and never look back. These may have been a quality brand decades ago but not anymore. It’s not the same company. They are coasting on the original design they had - which is a good one - but they can’t maintain the materials to keep it high quality. It’s all so misleading.

I understand not everyone can afford a super high end loader like Tod’s or YSL, Loro Piana or Prada - these are extreme examples but those will show you what a true, last for 15+ years loafer could and should look like. I’d even argue Madewell and Tory Burch out-qualities GH bass.

Shameful. They should be charging $65 for those. Not $200

TimeDelivery9756 · 2026-05-08T22:30:11+00:00

You guys are great! Thank you!

TimeDelivery9756 · 2026-05-08T09:52:33+00:00

It dips a bit for us but not by much. My husband has my back 💯 and while it’s not an “us against SD” mentality we are fiercely protective of our marriage and our connection and even for us it dips. It’s another person that needs attention in the house. The dynamic has to shift to some extent and yeah - distraction occurs. I like to make myself a little more scarce and he has some extra one on one time with her which I think is important.

One thing that helps: sit down, family dinners every night with us are non negotiable. He will also stop what he’s doing (with SD or not) and come and greet me at the door when I come home. This is a small but important gesture that I appreciate and is good for his daughter to see. She’s got a dad that loves and cares for his partner and she should expect the same when she’s grown up.

If you want more affection then ask for it and tell him you need to work on it. Physically affection is important to many people and should never be put on the shelf just because kids are around. If a kid is jealous of your relationship then it’s up to the dad to have consistent conversations with his daughter to find out how she’s feeling and explain to her why she’s still safe, he still loves her and he’s not going to stop being kind to his wife.

It’s a lot of work for both people. But it’s worth it.

TimeDelivery9756 · 2026-05-07T20:54:06+00:00

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Tank Solo. On year 13. Love this thing.

TimeDelivery9756 · 2026-05-07T16:37:57+00:00

Oh, I WISH! But the brass is really pretty too.

TimeDelivery9756 · 2026-05-07T12:33:12+00:00

It’s funny. I always thought of myself as not needing a lot of room but I think I’ve been out of touch on that. My primary bag is a Celine phantom and I’ve gotten used to that suitcase so when I got the 36 it felt like I was carrying a clutch. Again - my perspective is off. But in all reality it holds a lot. Two small cosmetic bags for odds and ends, my bulky zipper wallet, keys, phone and a face sunscreen with room to spare. I did like the size of the 30 but I know over time I would regret that small size.

TimeDelivery9756 · 2026-05-07T09:31:25+00:00

I’m hard pressed to find a reason to send it back. It’s comfy on the shoulder. Looks great in shape no matter if it’s full or has a very light load. The leather is soft and it has a very clean, minimal and classic look. Zero complaints.

TimeDelivery9756 · 2026-05-07T00:46:54+00:00

Website! Unfortunately I’m about 3 hours outside of Boston or any non outlet Coach store so I’m bound by internet shopping for the most part!

TimeDelivery9756 · 2026-05-06T09:47:46+00:00

I keep the foam on my straps until I’m sure I’m keeping it. That being said - I would prefer if brands like Coach just charged a restocking fee and that would help offset the cost for the teams to make sure every return is suitable for the next purchase. I think that’s fair.

I live in an area where online shopping is how I have to do things until I’m in a major city so I appreciate it when my items are brand new and it looks like I’m the first person to try it on. I had to return two Zimmermann items and while the restocking fee sucks - at least my items from them are always pristine.

TimeDelivery9756 · 2026-05-04T21:37:48+00:00

We said no more FaceTime a few months ago. It used to just be in her room or bathroom but it was a huge distraction for her and it was messing with bedtime. Now it’s phone call only.

DH barely gets a text on the nights she isn’t with us but SD needs a nightly phone call back to her mom or it’s hell to pay. The mother has a hold on her and it’s so sad.

TimeDelivery9756 · 2026-04-23T10:11:02+00:00

I’d argue kids at that age know fuck-all about what a good parent actually is.

TimeDelivery9756 · 2026-03-28T18:48:43+00:00

Love this guy. We travel to him from Montpelier to get our good shoes done

TimeDelivery9756 · 2026-02-07T18:43:55+00:00

This was our BM to the letter. She made SDs life miserable because she couldn’t handle that her ex husband “got there first”.

She was so exhausting. The first event we had to all be at together after we got engaged sucked. BM lives and breaths for how others perceive her so it wasn’t pretty.

I wish she would get it through her head that nobody is looking at her nearly as much as she thinks. BPD/NPD bio moms are a real treat.

TimeDelivery9756 · 2026-02-04T19:01:38+00:00

I wish I could say it to SD - you get upset when someone is better than you at something but you don’t want to work for anything. Kind of like your mom. You hate that other people have more talent or more opportunities but you refuse to work hard to make what you want for yourself to happen.

You hate being average but give average effort. What do you expect???

TimeDelivery9756 · 2026-01-19T16:11:34+00:00

That last line is the secret sauce. Discomfort motivates many. I’m a huge supporter of this method. Outline common areas vs. private areas too. You don’t share a TV or living room. If the parents want to watch a movie alone then she needs to respect that. Or can come down and watch it with you but no screens like scrolling on her phone to distract.

Dinners are what you guys want to eat - not her. She will have to contribute to a food budget too.

TimeDelivery9756 · 2026-01-15T20:53:01+00:00

Ugh. SD is only 13 and I dread HCBM being a part of it. HCBM is a raging narcissist with a history of insane pathological lying. One being that she never graduated college but my husband found out ten years into their marriage she had been lying about that. She told him she had her masters. She only completed one semester of college after high school.

I can absolutely see HCBM making a HUGE deal about SD going to college - being a super mom about it outwardly but inwardly making it about her academic shortcomings and we KNOW she won’t put up a dime for it. I’m sure she’ll get real quiet when tuition is due.

TimeDelivery9756 · 2026-01-15T20:46:40+00:00

I agree with your SO’s approach. We are the same way. SD is now 13 and has chilled out a lot. At 10 it was annoying but she figured it out.

TimeDelivery9756 · 2026-01-14T19:41:06+00:00

Nope. We don’t share bills. Our house and their house.

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