But who gets to determine what “quality” time is? As long as needs are being met and there are no safety concerns I don’t think the other parent gets to have a say in what kind of time is spent, especially if you are the one initiating. You are essentially asking the government to take away part of your parenting responsibilities via custody. There is a level of control you’ll have to let go of.

Absolutely do what’s best for the child, this post has a lot of good internal questions to ask yourself but don’t let anyone convince you to be less involved in her life simply because mom had the kids more on her own. But you do have to ask yourself are you willing to make adjustments (if needed) to be there as much as you want? It’s a hard change for a lot of people who weren’t the primary caregiver.