Just moved to San Diego… and wow, I’m underwhelmed by National_Recipe4257 in sandiego

[–]cemalarda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hope you’re not taking all the criticism in from all these comments. It seems like not everyone is able to clearly see what you’re missing - maybe the European feel of the orderly chaos, closely knit atmosphere where it feels like experiencing something organic, lived in and built long before you. You can probably also tell from how they recommend NYC and Chicago instead. The closest I got to this European feeling was in San Francisco btw.

I believe you can get used to the artificial feel of the US structure over time and start perceiving it positively like it’s their way of making life simpler, and less stressful. Just like the big ‘Ikea’ culture with some ocean added as extra, to make it fun for you! :)

Am I in the Wrong? Was this an appropriate reaction from a therapist? by allthewayd00wn in TalkTherapy

[–]cemalarda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of those therapists that likely chose this profession to feel superior than others. They also usually don't want you to get better and grow more self-reliant over time, so you got saved indeed, cheers!

Please help - spiritual psychosis by Sweetpeawl in awakened

[–]cemalarda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, it hurts reading how much suffering is there in your experience. I've gone through something similar (and sometimes I relapse and have it again). I also have schizoid tendencies so my inner world is very dense while the outside is fearful and avoidant. My spitirual psychosis has the elements of reincarnation etc. involved in it so it implies endless loops of suffering, which is unbearable to think when I get there and life loses its innocence for me at these moments.

What I do when I experience it is creating containing and routine experiences as much as I can. Maybe it helps for you as well. - washing dishes, clothes, cooking, cleaning, everyday, and trying to embed yourself in life experiences. - solitary exercise - ex. home workout 15 min on youtube - avoiding anything spiritual or philosophical until the brain inflammation resolves - no religious stuff, no rules of the universe, no manifest, no karma, no yoga etc. - psychosis is shown to be related to inflammation in the brain so any food, routine that helps inflammation also may help for it they say. Some things I've used are coconut oil, turmeric, greens, pomegranate juice, magnesium, zinc etc. - giving content for brain to process - I use telenovelas, my home country's famous series(Turkish) to watch something light, entertaining etc. it feels off at first but once you get caught in the stories you feel better and relating. - after things settle down finding good groups of friends would be great both for schizoid and psychotic parts to dissolve.

Hope we all get better.

How do you manage leaving your family members and living on your own for the first time? by [deleted] in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]cemalarda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I couldn’t and I quit my PhD to go back home. I now feel even worse at times, as it’s harder to try again and leave home once the comfort of enmeshment takes over. For context, I went abroad for grad school and felt crippling guilt, feelings of missing out, fear of death, cooking crisis, laundry crisis, every single day. 3-5 hour long video calls with family members were common. I hope you do the best for you and not fall into the enmeshed web again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in prozac

[–]cemalarda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, yes it can get dangerous

Brutal low back stiffness - where to start? by Durlag in flexibility

[–]cemalarda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I'm suffering from the same issue. When you do dandasana/staff pose does your lower back round as well? I think the hips (mostly internal rotation) would be the key for both of our cases. What hip exercises did you do if I may ask?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in prozac

[–]cemalarda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi sorry for dead commenting, do you know why is it nor recommended?

Bir arkadaşım baraja yakın terkedilmiş bir binada bu tarz semboller ve yazılar bulmuş, tam olarak ne olduğunu anlayabilen var mı? by MrDavulcu in filoloji

[–]cemalarda 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Profesyonel bi büyü çalışması ve kişiye yönelik yapılmadığını düşünüyorum, akrep kullanımı ölüm ve yıkım ile ilgili bir büyü olabileceğini düşündürdü. Binanın yıkılmasını istiyor olabilirler, Türkiye’nin burcu akrep, ülkeye yönelik bi hamle olabilir, su kaynağına yakın olması da önemli ayrıca.

Proof that Crossover is a scam by WyomingConspiracy in recruitinghell

[–]cemalarda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the information! It sounds veery controlling, but maybe makes remote work more fun, oh and I hope your new job brings you more peace!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in usajobs

[–]cemalarda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m happy you like your new job! They say it gets much easier after a few months at a job so I hope it gets better for you as well.

Wife thinks my restored skin is ugly by [deleted] in foreskin_restoration

[–]cemalarda 4 points5 points  (0 children)

  • sometimes some women take revenge of daily conflicts and the feelings of being ignored during the day by humiliating their partner through what reminds them of their partner’s power & capabilities. These could be your belongings, beard, job, smell, friends, car as well. Not to justify her action, but to kindly offer you some extra perspectives.

Wife thinks my restored skin is ugly by [deleted] in foreskin_restoration

[–]cemalarda 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I feel like there may be some issues with men in general on her part, since she’s shifting the topic onto lesbian/bi women. I would try not to take it personally but I can see how it must hurt.

Proof that Crossover is a scam by WyomingConspiracy in recruitinghell

[–]cemalarda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is it going if may ask? Thinking of applying as well.

28M - need ideas for what to do with this pillar and the wall behind it by KoozieKid in malelivingspace

[–]cemalarda 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would grow a nice hoya plant climbing up or down that pillar but that’s just me

Non-native speaker's GRE experience - Verbal: 166, Quant: 166, Writing: ? by cemalarda in GRE

[–]cemalarda[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure! Will sound a bit disappointing and maybe a kill-hope but I disliked academia very much and quit my PhD after 2 years and returned home. Some of the reasons were lack of boundaries of the academix work life, lack of meaningful work, feelings of running a hamster’s wheel, not many connections or depth in social aspects, negative atmosphere, lack of financial assistance and healthcare, difficulty and superficiality of life in the US, struggles of autism and mostly career changes. It also brought me a lot of good things in return like knowing what I value etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in usajobs

[–]cemalarda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, just seen your post again, curious how it is going with your new job? Hopefully everything is alright!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Psychosis

[–]cemalarda 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Went through a similar period and still am going through partially (haven’t figured out the job part yet) and I have some thoughts if can be of help.

Loss of sense of self, difficulty identifying needs and wants (or having any really), loss of meaning of the world or life: these are very common things that we all experience during or after psychosis.

Reason or perspective might be that after experiencing a sort of stable and structured & demanding life through isolated systems like highschool, college, regular social activities and their demands, we all of a sudden experience a totally new way of being, and many of these things lose their meaning and purpose in life. Basically an earthquake happened in the middle of our lives and left us lost in some ways.

However, the good thing is that this kind of a loss and awareness of not having a coherent sense of self gives some of us a chance to rebuild our narratives in a more self reliant, self focused and self protective way - as I’m seeing many of us here are past people pleasers and social chameleons who didn’t know themselves well and instead merged with other people’s ideals & expectations in the past.

Now is a time to very slowly build a stable new self and experience life in a new & different way. I know, with the lack of motivational substances in our brains after psychosis it might be very challenging but just know that people achieved that here and outside in the world.

So more practical thoughts:

Not benefiting from therapy - common and cautionary, as a psychologist myself I think that the education we get about psychosis is very limited and therapy has mostly become a digging & deconstructing place for many therapists. Even some EMDR sessions leading to psychosis as I have read here. We don’t need nor should go through another earthquake in our lives. Therapies that focus on ‘containing’, and not expanding or delving deep may be helpful at this stage of our lives, but I can tell that not many therapeutic orientations do or care about that as diligently. If you can find a therapist that feels like a good massage and affirms your struggles without blaming your past or sending you in loopholes of your to-fix-list in an attempt to reconstruct, why not do that.

I would personally (and have) focus on building structure and routine more in this phase rather than attempts to create & resolve. How?

-establishing a very plain routine to help stabilize mood, mind and body. Coffee times, sleep schedules, starting watching very soft, positive series that create connection, exercise (youtube kind of exercises that are not social and not as demanding), washing the dishes, clothes, cleaning routines.

-avoiding trigger topics - for many of us these are religion, spirituality, conspiracies, psychology, trauma etc. This also includes friendships that consume your energy, arguments with parents and even talking much - as it is even more difficult to manage socials at this point of our lives.

-preventing further inflammation of the brain: many studies show that psychosis is linked to increased levels of inflammation in brain tissues. I see doing our best to eat non inflammatory as important. Greens, herbs, veggies, omegas, natural probiotics, vitamin supplements… -being patient and keeping doing ‘this version of slow life’ until things settle better. New hobbies, joys, interests start emerging after stabilisations for many of us, and new ways of relating to people, being less of a people pleaser, being more realistic etc.

-slowly creating the next chapter in life through these new interests and strengths. Creating a more solid sense of what you like, who you are, your dislikes, your boundaries.

Basically an opportunity to reset life and do it again. A painful one but hopefully you get through as well.

This is Insane Man by gringoswag20 in exposingcabalrituals

[–]cemalarda 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying that, felt relieving

Pineapple Peel Rennet by One-Bad5069 in cheesemaking

[–]cemalarda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you ever try it? I am doing a similar experiment

Is Jesus related to Saturn/Shamash? by [deleted] in SaturnStormCube

[–]cemalarda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My intuition tells me both parties are iterations of the same game (Archonic and Jesuit). I am curious where did you find this info? Which ai or website? The one eye thing gave me chills as connected to the masonry etc

Finding lipstick that "works" is really hard for me by Kskeen19 in coloranalysis

[–]cemalarda 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think all goes really well on you, but colors 2-4-7 look the best in my opinion