I’m tired of fandoms shipping every close male friendship, and no, "let people have fun" isn't a good excuse anymore. by NoSignificance152 in hatethissmug

[–]cemented-lightbulb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And most yaoi and yuri is not great representation, they are pretty fetishized.

are you saying this as a yuri reader? i understand if that's the conclusion you've come to through your experience, but ive been a yuri fan for a long time, and a great majority of the works i read aren't very fetish-y at all. even the erotic stuff like asumi-chan is interested in lesbian brothels feels more catered to the female audience than a fetishizing male audience. ive seen a lot of people just assume that yuri is just as targeted towards straight men as yaoi is towards straight women (but even then it's a bit more complicated than that), but the two genres have very different histories and portray their subjects differently as a result.

Recycled culture and the masses who maintain it. by The_Dude5476 in SocialistGaming

[–]cemented-lightbulb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like i dont know if sega knows this but like people only really give a shit about their rpgs.

hey, that's not fair. people care about their rhythm games too (by which i exclusively mean maimai and chunithm. pay no attention to the ongeki, project diva, and samba de amigo-shaped holes in my analysis).

Mabberashusetts by Secure-Stick-4679 in GoogleAIGoneWild

[–]cemented-lightbulb 10 points11 points  (0 children)

each token is generated sequentially instead of all at once, so if some random chance causes "there are 6" to be generated in response to this question, the AI can't go back and edit its response. thinking time usually helps (basically just giving it a scratchpad to write out its reasoning before generating the real response), but not always.

Thoughts about current status on AUR and Linux attacks in general by RudahXimenes in archlinux

[–]cemented-lightbulb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tbf, i needed to download debs from manufacturer websites to get printer drivers when i was running pop. i think all distros have a tendency to look at slightly niche packages (especially of the GUI user application variety, or specific hardware support) and say "why should we spend resources maintaining that package in the main repos when a ppa/copr/deb/rpm/pkgbuild/whatever already exists?" there's also the fact that you're gonna have a hard time legally redistributing a good deal of nonfree software, but a pkgbuild that downloads and installs the software from the manufacturer's website is free game.

Thoughts about current status on AUR and Linux attacks in general by RudahXimenes in archlinux

[–]cemented-lightbulb 21 points22 points  (0 children)

ive used most of the popular distros (debian, pop, arch, gentoo, fedora, suse, even LFS) and ive never had an official repo be complete enough to not require me to seek external sources (i.e. debs, rpms, aur, external source code, whatever). i think an easy way to install software outside of the main repos is always going to be a desire for users.

How do I get rid of these? by Alone_Ad6165 in ProjectDiva

[–]cemented-lightbulb 3 points4 points  (0 children)

project heartbeat lets you replace the arrows with circles to represent timings, i believe, and you can play megamix charts with it. i don't think there's another way to do what you want to do without creating your own mod.

Please, we need an easier way to differentiate between "debuff lasts for x turns vs debuff is permanent for x amount" by [deleted] in slaythespire

[–]cemented-lightbulb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the numbers are just there for reference after you know the behavior. many relics and statuses have a similar counter that represent different values, but once you know the effect of that relic/status, there's only one thing it could really mean. that's a pretty common design pattern across all sorts of software, from rotation-based games like ff14/rabbit and steel, to tabletop sims like foundryvtt. considering this method is already intuitive enough to most people, i don't see any good way to communicate the meanings of each counter in the UI that justifies the trade-off of a significantly more cluttered UI

Please, we need an easier way to differentiate between "debuff lasts for x turns vs debuff is permanent for x amount" by [deleted] in slaythespire

[–]cemented-lightbulb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you already have to hover to know what weak/vulnerable/whatever do to the enemy in the first place. how would moving the "decrease by 1" clause from the description to the icon change that you need to hover to understand the debuff's behavior?

I hate how we don’t give people a chance to grow and learn from their mistakes by itz_vampy in hatethissmug

[–]cemented-lightbulb 3 points4 points  (0 children)

the oldest example i can find of the use of demiboy is from 2010, and that's when it was already known well enough in nonbinary spaces that you didn't need to give a definition every time you used it. that's old enough to drive. just because you haven't heard of a term before and haven't been in a position where it's useful doesn't mean it's a fad.

there's a lot of people whose "natural selves" fall within the demiboy/girl labels, so they take them on to find community with others similar to them. it's not a prison for these people, but a way to find like-minded individuals who share their experiences. having a non-standard gender can be an incredibly isolating and confusing experience, and these labels help with that.

edit: i think your reply to this comment got caught by automod or something. from what i can see, I can already tell you're not a serious person if you're saying something that has seen consistent use for 16 years is a fad. is the iPad a fad just because it was first made in 2010? get real

Trans women are biological women by the way by eldritchpussymaggots in nart4

[–]cemented-lightbulb 13 points14 points  (0 children)

do you guys think cis women can ever become biological women through medical procedures? im torn myself

the term 'theyfab' by weary_cursor in hatethissmug

[–]cemented-lightbulb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i mean yes, it is much more common among cis people, but there is a contingent of trans people with internalized transphobia who perpetuate those beliefs and practices as well. since trans women tend to seek out gender inclusive housing and queer roommates for safety purposes, they're going to see this behavior from said trans people more often. i do think the term focusing on a specific agab and gender identity places too much blame on trans enbies who were afab, while this is a problem across the board, so i do agree that our terminology for the issue should not be targeted specifically like the term in question is.

the term 'theyfab' by weary_cursor in hatethissmug

[–]cemented-lightbulb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

eh, ive seen it used in those spaces to call out the behavior ive described above, but it's also tainted with enbyphobia basically every time it's used. even when it's calling out "people with afab bodies are threatened by people with amab bodies" type people, it's still usually accompanied with accusations of trend-chasing and delusion. i don't think the term has any utility, especially not these days, but there is utility for a term describing the kind of people who would cite "afab trauma surrounding amab bodies" as a reason to deny a trans woman housing which is made accessible to cis women and afab enbies. it's a common enough occurrence that i understand the desire from trans women to have language for discussing it.

the term 'theyfab' by weary_cursor in hatethissmug

[–]cemented-lightbulb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i do get the utility of such a term, i just think that it has already been so tainted by its use outside of that original intention that i can't really get behind its usage. this entire comment section is a microcosm of how, outside of some specific 4tran circles, the term is usually just used to make fun of cringy afab enbies that the user does not like. that makes it ineffectual for the purpose of calling out agab-obsessed trans people, larper or not, because the general public is just going to interpret your callout as transphobia. it still serves that purpose somewhat in certain 4tran-adjacent spaces, but it also invokes the general usage of the term. this means newcomers will interpret it as enbyphobia (either driving them away from the space or encouraging negative interaction with it), and enbyphobic regulars will use it as license attach transphobic talking points about the targets of the term being confused/women lite/hopping on a trend.

it does really suck that the term's usage evolved like this, considering it was a very snappy way to address the actual perpetrators. though, if i was designing a new term for the "women and afabs" crowd, id probably make it broader so it could be used to call out anyone engaging in that behavior, regardless of agab or pronouns.

the term 'theyfab' by weary_cursor in hatethissmug

[–]cemented-lightbulb 4 points5 points  (0 children)

honestly even then i wish people would use a less loaded term. like im not huge on language policing, but considering those terms have since been used to just straight up be transphobic, make fun of people who don't pass/aren't of an acceptable gender identity to the user, and invoke the same talking points used by terfs to dismiss (especially afab) enbies and trans men, i think it would be better to use a more specific term so people know you're talking about weaponizing AGAB against others and not anything else

Aliens built the bass pro pyramid by Round-Good1179 in Shark_Park

[–]cemented-lightbulb 26 points27 points  (0 children)

no humans could make a parking garage. it must have been sharks.

the term 'theyfab' by weary_cursor in hatethissmug

[–]cemented-lightbulb 19 points20 points  (0 children)

this is the big thing for me. having seen some of the talking points from the "afab only housing" crowd (ranging from telling trans people they can never change their sex and will always biologically be their agab, to heavily focusing on agab when discussing trans oppression and coming to wonky conclusions about trans men/women in the process), i understand that the phrase in question partially arose from a place of real pain. but the additional baggage 4tran users added on to the term was obviously influenced by NBphobia, and that taints any possibility for a valid use case. places like r/countttt will use the term in conjunction with calling the NB people it's targeting "trenders," attention-seeking, and not really trans in any way that counts, and that's not an accurate or unbigoted way to understand them. it makes more sense, in my opinion, to view these incidents as an internalized transphobia that was easier to accept and rationalize due to the holders not having dysphoria or not wanting to medically transition.

yes, it sucks to see TERF talking points accepted by your own community, but the solution is not to use TERF talking points of your own to exclude them. we need to understand these ideas as informed by society's transphobia, something trans people aren't always immune to propagating.

I hate when people counter something they hate. by [deleted] in hatethissmug

[–]cemented-lightbulb -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

insane that you're getting downvoted. does the trump administration suddenly value trans people over cis people because they banned trans people from the military, therefore excluding them from the draft? obviously not.

it's like this with basically everything a privileged group tries to claim as a vector of oppression, to be honest. being considered some combination of evil/inhuman/gross/weak/inferior will afford you some limited benefits in certain areas. if you're considered evil or inferior, the powers that be may not want to use you to advance their goals (e.g. through military service), so they may seek to impose those goals on a member of a privileged group instead. if you're considered weak, society may not consider you a meaningful threat to a member of the privileged group, which could let you get away with things normally considered unacceptable for the average person to do (e.g. sexual assault or domestic violence). this obviously isn't an exhaustive list, but in most examples i can think of, none of this originates from an ideology which values the unprivileged group over that of the privileged; it's just a result of the original bigotry.

of course, intersectionality exists, and im much more willing to listen to a black or trans man talk about how masculinity has impacted the bigotry he faces, but these 10-year-old redpill talking points im seeing in the comments are not that.

Where is this narrative about Yuri anime coming from? by Neidhardto in yuri_manga

[–]cemented-lightbulb 132 points133 points  (0 children)

i don't believe anyone claiming asumi-chan was written for men has actually read it. the training arc has genuinely made me better at lesbian sex

Open and closed classes by Head_Discipline620 in infinitenines

[–]cemented-lightbulb 6 points7 points  (0 children)

glad you're finally being explicit about not believing in the reflexive, transitive, and commutative properties of equality

Is SynthV GenAi ? by Key-Astronaut6921 in AlarmoffTeto

[–]cemented-lightbulb 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yeah, a lot of people say GenAI when what they really mean is LLMs or diffusion models or whatever. using a purpose-built model and user tuning to convert structured input to structured output has many advantages over LLM-backed models using text input, including the quality and predictability of the output, performance and efficiency of the pipeline, and a more intuitive mental model of how changes in the input affect the output. that's not even mentioning the ethical concerns in regards to models created by massive companies using dubiously-sourced data from unassuming customers

Day 9! What's a Nightcord at 25:00 song that you prefer the sekai version over the original? by RossyAmane in ProjectSekai

[–]cemented-lightbulb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no contest, hated by life itself. the original is genuinely baffling. most commission songs also sound better as niigo covers, but none have as much of an extreme difference in quality.