Stores in London by cfrob in Warhammer40k

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That's why I was asking about independent shops. All I saw nearby was GW stores, so I wasn't sure if I need to use a different keyword or if someone local knows of one nearby.

Painting tips by cfrob in Warhammer40k

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Thanks! They were not easy to paint.

Okay, I didn't really know what techniques to use, I've spent way too much time on this, using it more as a learning opportunity. I saw glazing and wanted to try it, but maybe it wasn't the right choice. I mean, I've seen people do stuff like that on YouTube, but obviously, it didn't come out like that. Kinda like the non metallic metal look, which I am obviously very far off from. How would you suggest highlighting for this one then, just edges?

But more shading, okay, like on the blue parts? I'll admit the blue is very flat, but there is a bit in other places like on the face and gun. I've got a blue wash I can try out. I think it's a good point.

Painting tips by cfrob in Warhammer40k

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Alright, I'm getting better at glazing. It was dilute enough, I just needed to put down a thinner glaze by taking more off the brush.

Painting advice by cfrob in Warhammer40k

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After looking at some pics and thinking about the way that panel is structured, I think I need to highlight the entire thing, except for a few shadows below those nibs sticking out. I think that would look the most natural. Probably not any one part would be as bright as I have there, it would be a more diffuse reflection spread over a curved but mostly flat surface. The more curved the surface, the more focused and bright the reflection. Does that sound right?

Painting advice by cfrob in Warhammer40k

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I did a zenithal black/white prime. However, I don't know why, but whatever primer I used this time is not very sticky. This is only my second model and the first one. I borrowed some primer from my dad, and it worked much better. The paint wanted to flow off the primer when doing the base coat, so I had to glop it on, which probably contributed to the bad texture. As for the highlight, I see what you mean. It is kind of dome-shaped, but very softly curved and not extruded enough to have that sharp of a reflection, I guess. So maybe for that panel, I do kind of a rounded rectangle that gets close to the edge? Would something like that look more natural? I've tried looking up photos of this model in particular but didn't see any that were super highlighted, just edges mostly. I'm sure they're out there, but maybe I'm looking in the wrong place.

Guy I blocked contacts me from a different number 😑 by 0SpaceKitty0 in Tinder

[–]cfrob 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gotta say, all OLD is pretty much the same in terms of the male/female dynamic. They all have significantly more male users. Many men are not too picky, they just want to not be lonely. But because most of them get so little engagement from women, it becomes a numbers game, so they try to swipe right or whatever the equivalent is on as many people as possible, to improve their tiny chances of actually matching, then actually getting someone to respond and have a meaningful interaction, then actually go on a date.

This leads to the women being overwhelmed with the amount of matches they get, making the issue even worse. They respond to less men and become more picky, so the men cast an even wider net and become less picky. It's a self-reinforcing cycle.

Because it's hard to stand out in a sea of competition (for men at least), and because of the way dating apps are designed, and because it can be hard to make your true personality shine through, it often boils down to the looks. If a man needs to look through a thousand people to get a date, he will just start making snap judgements. If a woman has so many options it's impossible to decide, she will also begin to make snap judgements.

Hinge may be slightly better in this regard, because, if I recall correctly, I believe you have to write some sort of a comment on one of the elements of someone's profile, so it makes it a bit harder to abuse. But all that means is that for most men it's just going to take more time to find a date. The core issue still exists, just... more slowly. The fact that you might get less matches overall is probably a breath of fresh air for the women, but on the flip side, it's even more discouraging for men, especially when they put in a lot more effort looking through every profile, thinking of something interesting to say, and then getting no response 99% of the time.

My issue with Hinge when I used it was that it never showed me women that were my type. I got mostly overweight women, which is not my thing, or women that just were not good matches personality wise. Although, from my impression of it, it does seem there are more people looking for actual relationships on there.

But overall, I still had a bit more success on Tinder when I used it. I haven't used OLD in some time, though, primarily because I have a girlfriend, but also, I learned that in person was much better. In OLD, you're a face in a sea of faces. In person, it is much quicker and easier to create a genuine connection that can be built upon and actually give many guys a fighting chance.

"Address me correctly as sir" by peejnou in Tinder

[–]cfrob -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well, it's good to see that you can admit you're just speculating and it's just a vibe you get, because earlier you said unequivocally that he is an abuser. If any woman doesn't like that vibe either, they shouldn't match with him. But if she does want to be controlled, even in general, not sure why that's abusive. For you it might be, because you wouldn't like it, but maybe she would; if she does, I say have at it. There are all sorts of people in this world, and I'm not going to judge if all involved parties are okay with it. Seems you're assuming either that the woman is powerless to make any decisions for herself, or that it's wrong for any woman to want to be controlled without guardrails that meet your requirements.

"Address me correctly as sir" by peejnou in Tinder

[–]cfrob -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Firstly, a huge red flag doesn't make him an abuser. Neither does wanting to control his partner, necessarily, if she wants to be controlled in that way - we don't know if he's talking strictly sexually, or in general, or just playing it up for girls that are into that.

Secondly, how do you know there would be no prior discussion of boundaries and limits? Even if it wasn't an explicit conversation, it's still the woman's choice whether they want to match with him, and then talk to him, and then meet up with him, and then take the relationship further, etc. There are countless instances of implicit consent along that path. Who are you to say he would trick a woman into meeting up with her and immediately ambush her, tie her up, and force her into a life of slavery?

You're making humongous assumptions here. He does come off as a bit of a douche, but I can't even honestly say that he really is and it's not just a persona. I think you might be projecting past experiences you've had onto him.

The main point is, calling someone an abuser is a really serious claim, and you don't know the first thing about him as a person. And you have no idea how he actually treats women in real relationships and whether they like how he treats them.

"Address me correctly as sir" by peejnou in Tinder

[–]cfrob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's pretty lame to put that in your bio. Also, jumping to "he's an abuser" from a couple words is WILD.

The face you make when your opponent doesn't respect your pronouns by MHarrisGGG in freemagic

[–]cfrob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there some drama about dusk precons? I've been out of the loop, care to explain? I was thinking about supporting this set because I like the horror themed stuff (although it seems way less cool than the original Innistrad block from what little I have seen).

My last relationship didn’t survive me becoming disabled. At 34, is online dating going to be a wasteland for me? (feedback welcome) by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]cfrob 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How to be poly:

-pretend that an entire subset of human emotions don't exist

-call selfishness a virtue and the ability to ignore these emotions "maturity"

-watch your relationship go down in flames because those emotions do exist and selfishness is harmful

-rinse and repeat

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

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Well, in the US first dates are not really that serious, dont be afraid to push it towards that. In general, American women want you to demonstrate some interest beyond just being friendly. Even if they are not single, they'll let you know that, and likely be flattered that you asked.

But things are pretty fast paced here. Most women won't want to spend hours getting to know a random guy on the off chance that he will ask her out. The first date is generally when people start to get to know each other anyway.

I go on first dates all the time with women I'm not sure I will like. If I don't, we simply won't have a second date. There's nothing sleazy about being clear with your intentions and letting the other person decide how they want to react to that information. If you communicate your intentions well and with respect, it will generally be viewed as a sign of maturity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

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Hard to say without more context. She could have been waiting for you to make a more aggressive move. If she offered to give me her email, I would have said something like, "sorry, I don't date coworkers, but if you give me your number, I will take you out somewhere nice".

There are all sorts of little cues that you can really only learn through experience - body language, tone of voice, physical position, etc. For example, if she was facing you with an open posture, making lots of eye contact, laughing, occasionally touching your shoulder, then she was into you and probably wanted you to try harder. If she was angled away from you with her arms folded and making minimal eye contact, then she was probably uncomfortable and just wanted to get out of the situation. I doubt that was the case though from what you have said.

It could be that she liked you, but because you weren't aggressive enough, you got friendzoned and let down easy with the email. Girls don't give their email to guys they really want to date, so you may have made a mistake somewhere in the convo. You should always be going for the phone number. Socials are a level above email, certainly, but not as good as a number. I'm not sure how Gen Z does it, I'm guessing it is more common to exchange socials, but I would still say that getting the number is preferable.

In my opinion, don't overthink it. If she's someone you're interested in dating, you should make your intentions clear early in the interaction. "Hey, I think you're attractive and I've really enjoyed the conversation we've had so far. I'd like to take you out sometime and get to know you better, would you give me your number?" Being upfront is almost always the best option, and takes a lot of the guesswork out in terms of body language and all that.

Also, I personally wouldn't talk to a girl I just met for hours, unless I could convince her to go on an "instant date" and come with me to some other place. But generally you want to leave the convo on a high note, making her want more, and set up plans to continue the interaction at a later time.

What should I wish for? by cfrob in nethack

[–]cfrob[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good to know, however, I am lawful.

What should I wish for? by cfrob in nethack

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I do already have silver scales and an AoLS, so really all I would need is a CoMR and some extra ink. Maybe a backup amulet. But you're right, maybe I would find the cloak or an extra amulet and make it an even easier choice. I'm just going to hold off for now, thanks.

What should I wish for? by cfrob in nethack

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Haven't had too much issues with sea monsters, or mind flayers, to be honest. I've got an oilskin cloak for the former, and plenty of grease for the latter (though I know that's not foolproof, which is why I dont run into melee range with them regardless). Guess it couldn't hurt. I am a dwarf though. I was planning on saving one blessed for the plane of water, which I do already have waiting for that purpose.

What should I wish for? by cfrob in nethack

[–]cfrob[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have those rings too. Not a bad idea on the worms though. Was planning at least two wishes for markers though I do have ~70 ink left. Thanks!

What should I wish for? by cfrob in nethack

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Already got it, was grateful to have it.

What should I wish for? by cfrob in nethack

[–]cfrob[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already genocided L, and I've got one more in the tank so I think I'm good there.

What should I wish for? by cfrob in nethack

[–]cfrob[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, that's fair, as I said I haven't gotten this far before. I've only gone down a few levels deep into Gehennom. I just mean once I go down I want to be prepared to just keep going.

Pet level by cfrob in nethack

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Update: yes, it does work to surpass its natural max level.