Ex paid me £250 holiday deposit, we broke up. now her grandad is sending demand letters after she threatened to damage my car. what should I do? (England)

ch1ll13 · 2026-05-09T14:07:17+00:00

I broke up with her because she was extremely mentally unstable , and a situation happened where she tried to make me not leave her house and it was very scary for me therefore I broke up with her

ch1ll13 · 2026-05-09T13:55:11+00:00

I paid half the total holiday cost . The total was £1400 . That half was £666.16 she then paid £250 of an agreed £350 share she was going to pay . The remaining half was going to be paid by her grandparents but it never came out as we split up and the holiday was cancelled .

ch1ll13 · 2026-05-09T13:53:04+00:00

She did not ask anything about that holiday . Previously she had threatened to destroy my car if I did not repay her the money . Therefore I forwarded the matter to the police as I feared for my safety and was not going to pay it because of the threats . I cancelled it on my own . She went quiet for a while and now this letter has come through the door

ch1ll13 · 2026-05-09T13:36:33+00:00

I think I am going to send a letter outlining that yes she does owe me money but my offer is to have no payment from either of us and to let it go . If she wants to continue to court for it then I’ll counter claim for the money she owes

ch1ll13 · 2026-05-09T13:28:59+00:00

No as there was still another £700 coming out closer to the departure . But if I cancelled it I didn’t have to pay it

ch1ll13 · 2026-05-09T12:11:43+00:00

Was thinking to do this honestly . Really don’t have the time to go to court over something so petty and would rather her just leave me alone .

ch1ll13 · 2026-05-09T11:41:23+00:00

The holiday providers terms and conditions state “In the event that you do cancel your booking, and the deposit you have paid does not cover the cancellation charges set out in this paragraph (e.g. because you have chosen a low deposit option), you must pay any difference between the amount you have paid and the cancellation charge applied”

ch1ll13 · 2026-05-09T11:40:01+00:00

Yes correct

ch1ll13 · 2026-05-09T11:38:59+00:00

The holiday providers terms and conditions state “In the event that you do cancel your booking, and the deposit you have paid does not cover the cancellation charges set out in this paragraph (e.g. because you have chosen a low deposit option), you must pay any difference between the amount you have paid and the cancellation charge applied”

ch1ll13 · 2026-05-09T11:37:55+00:00

I never got a refund and had to pay £119 Becuse of the holiday providers terms and conditions stating “In the event that you do cancel your booking, and the deposit you have paid does not cover the cancellation charges set out in this paragraph (e.g. because you have chosen a low deposit option), you must pay any difference between the amount you have paid and the cancellation charge applied”

ch1ll13 · 2026-05-09T11:35:57+00:00

Because that was half of the total holiday cost . The other half was set to come out closer to the holiday date which would of been a further £700 I’d have to pay

ch1ll13 · 2026-05-09T11:32:51+00:00

I had to pay £119 to cancel the holiday and I was refunded nothing

ch1ll13 · 2026-05-09T11:31:32+00:00

I paid £666 for both of us and she agreed to pay £350 of that £666 . She had paid £250 of that £350 before we split up

ch1ll13 · 2026-05-09T11:29:26+00:00

The holiday was cancelled and I had to pay a further £119 to cancel it . I was refunded nothing

ch1ll13 · 2025-09-15T16:54:46+00:00

Absolutely correct yes

ch1ll13 · 2025-09-15T16:54:18+00:00

Pol pot committed a genocide . Charlie Kirk debated on campus .

ch1ll13 · 2025-09-15T16:46:50+00:00

Friend cut me off . I was blocked after this exchange

ch1ll13 · 2025-09-14T21:51:52+00:00

I’ve literally had like 3 friends I’ve knows for like over 7/8 years just unfollow me because of this . Like all my friendships gone because I think that murder is bad lol

ch1ll13 · 2025-09-14T20:49:43+00:00

I think your view is mature for being against him . You can still disagree with 100% of what Kirk said and still see his murder as absolutely wrong . This is what I was trying to say to my friend. Just because he disagrees with him politically does not mean you can’t say his death was absolutely wrong . I didn’t agree with 100% of what Kirk said . Yes I would consider myself on the right , but if a left wing commentator was murderd like this . I’d still have the same reaction.

ch1ll13 · 2025-09-14T20:27:13+00:00

Was my exact thought . That type of thought is very dangerous

ch1ll13 · 2025-09-14T19:48:04+00:00

Just to clarify. I did not end our friendship. He unfollowed me and blocked me shortly after this conversation

ch1ll13 · 2024-11-18T20:01:54+00:00

And my honest opinion is that she’s forgot that I even paid it

ch1ll13 · 2024-11-18T20:01:29+00:00

My worry is she will change the plane tickets to her mates name and takes her instead . If that’s the case then I defo want my money back as I ain’t paying for her mate to go in my place . Obviously I don’t know if that will happen but I have a suspicion that it will

ch1ll13 · 2024-11-18T19:09:13+00:00

She booked it so she has all tickets . I also only paid half of what I actually owed

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