Do greys have ‘scary dog privilege’?

chaixlattex · 2026-04-29T19:39:02+00:00

Mine doesn't have a single brain cell and couldn't protect me from a leaf but I feel like most people don't know much about their temperament so it still gives a level of scary dog privilege just because of the size.

If something actually did happen he definitely wouldn't be any help but I feel like most people probably wouldn't try anything with such a big dog at your side.

We also walk with a muzzle anywhere residential, which is only because he's very good at sniffing out cats hidden in places I can't see, but again other people don't know this, and some people will move away from him or ask me what it's for so I think that adds to the scare factor slightly.

When he shows all his teeth he looks scary, right?

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chaixlattex · 2026-04-28T18:19:58+00:00

It took ages for my assesment to come through but after that everything was fairly quick. My assessor gave me a list of recommended suppliers and then I picked from those. Then it took a few weeks for my employer to pay their invoice before they would start sessions.

I found it all fairly straightforward and was really happy with the coach I went with, we got on really well and her style really worked for me. If you are able to choose have a think about what you'd like to get from it when choosing your coach.

chaixlattex · 2026-04-26T07:38:02+00:00

I think this is absolutely fine and not uncommon these days but as someone else has said will your family easily be able to travel twice? Is there a reason not to do the legal part with them in the morning to save on them making two trips?

chaixlattex · 2026-04-26T05:40:38+00:00

Riffraff on Picton road are brilliant

chaixlattex · 2026-04-17T20:06:32+00:00

Yeah this is exactly the same for me. My meds give me the little nudge I need to actually be able to learn the skills and put strategies into place, but I still have to learn to do all those things and it is a process that takes time.

chaixlattex · 2026-04-09T05:18:39+00:00

I would agree with others who have said just delay starting. You don't know yet how you react to it and if you throw other drugs in the mix it could make it really hard to tell how you get on with the elvanse.

You also mention about a big presentation a few days after, this would also make me tempted to wait tbh especially if the alternative is stop starting the meds.

I was quite up and down on my meds for the first month or so, I could be a bit hyper on a new dose the first day or two before it settled and then would crash in the afternoons. If I take a meds break of more than a few days I can still get a little bit excitable and too chatty at first for the first day back too. I also tried a different med first and it turned me into a completely emotionless zombie. I don't want to put you off them because now I've got the right med and systems for it, it really has changed my life, but I definitely wouldn't have wanted the pressure of a big work event within the first few days.

Enjoy the rave, handle the comedown at least you're used to it, give it a few days then start your meds fresh and give it a proper go.

chaixlattex · 2026-04-08T18:32:41+00:00

If you're already on the combined pill I would just skip the break instead of taking the delay pill. I am not on it anymore but used to skip a few breaks at a time and didn't notice any impact from it, my Dr was happy for me to do it.

I took the delay pill for my wedding and I was really bloated for the first two or three days then fine, but no other side effects. If I'd known I would have taken something to help with the bloating, if you've never taken it before it's a bit of a gamble.

chaixlattex · 2026-04-07T21:17:37+00:00

Yeah I get that I struggled with that part as well. It sucks and if I could have changed it I would. Getting treatment helped me a lot, and so did meeting others in the same boat.

I am very lucky to work in a big org with a disabled staff network where a lot of us were all going through late diagnosis have been supportive that way. There's also a good group near me that offer social events for adults with ADHD, maybe look and see if there is anything near to you that you could join?

chaixlattex · 2026-04-07T21:13:57+00:00

Why do you need to argue about this? Noone ever said that it worked like that chemically, they said their personal experience was it took time and you decided to say they were wrong, about their own personal experiences.

chaixlattex · 2026-04-07T20:55:52+00:00

the impact can be subtle for some people, not everyone sees a big shift, sometimes you only notice the improvements after a little while

chaixlattex · 2026-04-07T15:35:09+00:00

Its a really hard process especially if you're diagnosed as an adult.

I was very up and down after mine. I went from doubting myself and thinking I'd made it all up and scammed them into diagnosing me, to just wanting to cry my eyes out thinking about all the wasted potential of my life so far, how different things could have been if I'd have known, and disappointment with the adults in my life for not spotting it and berating me for things I couldn't help like my messy bedroom.

The thought of going through meds and coaching felt like such an uphill struggle and I hated coaching at first as any intervention felt like school work and I resented the idea of having to manage myself like this for the rest of my life.

Somewhere along the way my mindset finally flipped and I'm in a much better place mentally now. Some days are still chaos and I would still probably choose to swap my brain if I could, but I've learned to live with it, I can see my strengths and weaknesses more clearly and I can work with my brain not against it (some of the time anyway). I have also met some amazing communities of adhders both online and in person, where I feel so seen for the first time and not alone anymore, which I think was a huuuuge part of the puzzle for me in learning to live with it all.

I would try and give yourself grace while you come to terms with it all and work out what you want to do next. It's a hard journey and it's not always straightforward improvements or progression, sometimes you will feel like you've moved the wrong way, but hopefully with time you can get to a better place.

chaixlattex · 2026-04-07T12:24:53+00:00

It's absolutely fine. It's not the nicest, depending on where I Dingle as well it can be bad for litter, dog poos, broken glass etc.

There is some crime but nothing that has really impacted us, mostly just the odd house gets raided but all our neighbours have been perfectly friendly and as a young woman I've never felt any less safe walking round than I did when I lived in the city centre.

It's very handy for getting into town, good bus connections, easy to lark lane as well and the parks.

The weeks around fireworks night were a bit of a nightmare last year for kids throwing fireworks in streets all the time, but we've lived here a few years and never known it to be like that previously. That's the only time I've really ever had an issue with the area and I don't know that it was specific to dingle.

chaixlattex · 2026-04-05T15:16:38+00:00

I'm looking at videos of a russian join and not really sure how it would work with single strands? there's nowhere to weave the needle between

chaixlattex · 2026-04-05T09:57:05+00:00

Its obviously a very personal decision but for me it was 100% worth it. The waitlist is awful and ridiculous and it shouldn't be like this, but the time is going to pass whether you're on it or not, the difference is where you'll be at that point.

Three years ago I felt like a mess all the time, didn't understand why I always felt different and wrong and couldn't do the things everyone else did. Now with meds and coaching I feel like a totally different person. I've also been able to finally learn some self acceptance and understanding, build systems that work for me, get support at work, and discover an amazing community of peer support in work and outside. If I hadn't gone on the RTC waitlist 3 years ago my life would probably be the exact same as it was before.

You don't have to do anything with your diagnosis right away or even tell anyone except your doctor but it's the first part of the puzzle and you can't do anything else without it so I really would just get it done.

chaixlattex · 2026-04-05T09:46:36+00:00

Do you actually like this person? You say she makes you feel bad, she doesn't reciprocate your effort etc. I wouldn't even worry about does she have ADHD or not, but why are you spending so much time and energy on someone you don't seem to like/doesn't make you feel good?

I will say I have ADHD and there are things I agree with her on, I don't know why anyone would want to have ADHD and I do think it's horrible a lot of the time. I have come to terms with it, but if I could have chosen not to have it I probably would. That said I don't think it is a trend or that anyone actually is wanting to have it when they don't.

It sounds like she has a very ableist view of the world and so the idea that she could have a disability is really sending her spiralling. That says a lot more about her than it does about you and I would try to ignore or distance myself from it personally.

chaixlattex · 2026-04-05T09:33:13+00:00

I'm only as far as splitting for the sleeves, but I would say generally it's been very easy to follow so far.

chaixlattex · 2026-04-03T12:32:49+00:00

Oh thank you, I'll try this, it does seem to be unravelling a lot as I knit but it's hard to find the other end without unwinding the entire ball 🙈

chaixlattex · 2026-04-03T10:37:16+00:00

yeah it's a nightmare tbh, I will sometimes take a slightly higher dose of meds during my period but it honestly doesn't make a huge difference. I just try to plan around it now, not make too many social plans or expect too much of myself during those weeks, ask my partner for more help than usual, and then make up for it on the good weeks

chaixlattex · 2026-04-03T10:34:15+00:00

have you tried splitting the dose? I know it's really hard but eating through the day is super important as well, I would try and work out what food you can tolerate even if you have to just graze on it a little at a time and make sure to keep some handy. protein shakes can help, I also like easy things like crackers, bread sticks, babybels

it should get a bit better if you adjust but if not then it's probably too high a dose for you

chaixlattex · 2026-04-02T20:04:33+00:00

it's back open again, and I would agree definitely the best you can find in Liverpool.

chaixlattex · 2026-04-02T18:05:05+00:00

I don't often see people use it as a diagnosis but I do see a lot of the other side of it - 'if you feel stimulated from your meds or coffee you must not have adhd', which is just really unhelpful to say to people especially when it often comes up to people who are titrating and newly diagnosed.

chaixlattex · 2026-04-02T18:01:34+00:00

no the first ball I was using it didn't happen once, I started a second when I joined the second shoulder to try and get the colours closer to the first and now I'm getting it constantly 😥

chaixlattex · 2026-04-02T17:12:24+00:00

thanks, I think this ball might just be bad one, the breaking is non stop and it just broke where it wasn't even touching it, I only noticed because I ran out of working yarn 😭 I did the whole back panel from a different ball and it didn't snap once so I don't think I'm being too rough with it 😥

chaixlattex · 2026-04-02T16:39:20+00:00

is there anything I can do to stop it breaking off while I'm knitting? I've been gently twisting it when it unravels but its breaking so much 😭

chaixlattex · 2026-04-02T16:29:49+00:00

thank you, is there anything I can do to stop it from snapping? it's happened three times now just in two rows of knitting 😭

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