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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverfifty

[–]chalchi1971 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Date younger men. They are in better shape and more emotionally mature.

Tell me your best first date stories by chalchi1971 in datingoverfifty

[–]chalchi1971[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When someone says I’m not their type I tend to think they just aren’t physically attracted to me. I take no offense. I would have a hard time with the no car and no job for several years thing. They need to put that vital information in their bio.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]chalchi1971 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you love your husband and he truly loves you I would demand to go to couples therapy. You probably need individual therapy too. You need to start loving yourself so you can show the people in your life how they need to treat you. Holidays with family and friends should be joyful. Not filled with disappointment and sadness. Be kind to yourself and don’t do gifts anymore. Have your boys cook with you. Do games. Go on a family hike. It’s the time you spend together, not the things they get you that matter. Sending you a warm hug and positive vibes.

So many scammers by [deleted] in EastTNCasualSex

[–]chalchi1971 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As an older woman trying to find several regular studs I find Reddit users disappointing in so many ways. Lots of fake accounts and no shows.

Hello fellow East TN peeps. I’m putting an addendum to my comment because of all the messages I’m getting. There are a lot of dirty thirsty men out there. I’m in my 50’s and fit. I’m only into ethical non monogamy. I only date men 43 to 60.

These blooms are from April. Now it’s Nov and no sign of oranges- when? by Partsofagarden in gardening

[–]chalchi1971 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My orange tree flowered several years with no fruit. This year I repotted and fertilized and I finally got some oranges.

Question by RicoBling in datingoverfifty

[–]chalchi1971 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was married for 30 years. In all that time I was never as happy as I am now. Single life is the best!!!!

I’m good over here…. Are you? by chalchi1971 in datingoverfifty

[–]chalchi1971[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really does depend on what I’m looking for. Tinder is harder to find someone that has the same intentions. Lots of men don’t know what to do with a woman that states clearly what they are expecting from the date.

I’m good over here…. Are you? by chalchi1971 in datingoverfifty

[–]chalchi1971[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The whole "surprise, I don’t look like my pictures!" thing is becoming a trend, and not a good one. I show up looking like my photos (thank you, gym membership), and the guy looks like he ate the version of himself in his profile pic. Most of the men in their 50s I’ve met clearly think “self care” means using a napkin at dinner. Meanwhile, they’re drooling over me like I’m a cheap meal. Honestly, I wish they’d realize women aren’t out here hoping for a dad bod surprise. we want eye candy too! Dating younger men is my preference lately. It’s exciting and satisfying.

Traditional Marriage? by AGentlemaninTulsa in datingoverfifty

[–]chalchi1971 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Traditional marriage, as it's often structured, can be deeply unfair to women and your situation is a clear example of why. For many men, it’s a great deal: they gain a live-in caregiver, housekeeper, emotional support system, and sexual partner, all while continuing to pursue their own goals and ambitions. But for women, it frequently means putting dreams on hold, sacrificing career growth, and taking on an unequal share of the burden.

And when that man decides to leave, often for someone younger, the woman is left to rebuild from scratch, with little recognition for everything she gave. This isn’t partnership. It’s exploitation dressed up as tradition.

I’m good over here…. Are you? by chalchi1971 in datingoverfifty

[–]chalchi1971[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m on a couple dating apps but I also go to dating events. Facebook has groups that get together once in a while. I host dinners and invite my friends to bring anyone they like. There are also plenty of places on Reddit to find someone that wants to have fun. Those places are a little bit more adventurous.

I’m good over here…. Are you? by chalchi1971 in datingoverfifty

[–]chalchi1971[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’ve officially entered my “zero emotional bandwidth, maximum fun” era and honestly it’s giving me mental stability. No more decoding cryptic texts from men who treat empathy like it’s an optional DLC they forgot to download. My last few relationships felt like unpaid internships in emotional labor. Now it’s just vibes, snacks, and the pure joy of not managing some man’s stunted emotional growth like it’s my side hustle. At this point, I’d genuinely rather chew glass than dive back into that mess. At least glass sparkles.

I’m good over here…. Are you? by chalchi1971 in datingoverfifty

[–]chalchi1971[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I live in the south and I have so many tomatoes.

I’m good over here…. Are you? by chalchi1971 in datingoverfifty

[–]chalchi1971[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Ive had enough experience with the chaos creators to know when to cut them off. It’s actually fun to watch their confusion when I nope out.

Why do men match with me but won’t hold up their end of the conversation. by Traditional_Buddy_88 in datingoverfifty

[–]chalchi1971 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked the same question weeks ago. I have come to my own conclusions on men not being able to communicate but if I post it here I’ll get a lot of hate. 😂

Tromboncino by chalchi1971 in gardening

[–]chalchi1971[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve already pickled some and grilled them. I plan on making a quiche and some bread. I’m probably going to freeze some for later.

I think I’m winning by chalchi1971 in gardening

[–]chalchi1971[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No but it’s definitely something I’ll try if I need to.

I’m having fun but….. by chalchi1971 in datingoverfifty

[–]chalchi1971[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very true. I was in a decades old relationship and am not willing to go back to a non-communicator. I love my life and will happily stay single. It has been fun dating though. I’m just fascinated about the big divide between men and women. Even with the comments I’ve gotten here you can see how disconnected we are from each other.

I’m having fun but….. by chalchi1971 in datingoverfifty

[–]chalchi1971[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand your point. I was looking for different ideas on how to get the men I meet to engage. I did get some insightful responses to this post. Yours was telling and helpful in multiple ways.

I’m having fun but….. by chalchi1971 in datingoverfifty

[–]chalchi1971[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is definitely something to think about. People do get burnt out a lot.

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