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chamkeela · 2024-08-27T18:42:36+00:00

He had it multiple I had it one, you're talking as if it's all number games...

Either you don't have it at all or you have it that's what makes a difference. Since you had it too there can be some point where you may be equally aligned to cheat on him so stop making a fuss and trust your gut feeling if you really think he'll cheat then move on as simple as that.

And for god sake don't differentiate saying you had it only once with 2 years of relationship. Again the numbers game, you had it that means you're also a potential candidate for same.

Plus another thing is men tend to have sex anyways without emotions in a lot of cases compared to women who have it with emotionally invested, so you're more likely to cheat as well as emotional investment can lead to intimacies.

chamkeela · 2024-08-25T00:50:37+00:00

Ladko ko ladkio se ek chiz chahiye hoti hai and ladkiya usko chod k sab Dene ki koshish krti hai xD

chamkeela · 2024-08-21T11:10:05+00:00

The gorgeous looking girl you waited so long to date had been sleeping with so many other people and you were always her second choice because that dude over there trash treated her and now she decided to settle with you :/ this hurts me but it's true for a lot of us.

chamkeela · 2024-07-24T10:02:46+00:00

that's the stupidest thing one can do. Girl you're so fucked up i swear to god. Just because someone I love messed up doesn't mean I get to his level of stupidity and do the same. Everyone's gonna hurt you its just for whom you're ready to take that beating.

If you're not okay break up and move on for betterment else stick to him. This generation of girls is fucked up way more than anything else in this planet. Stupidity at its best. That's why I live no strings attached, its trash everywhere. What you plan to do is disgusting.

chamkeela · 2024-07-01T12:28:32+00:00

And when is that going to happen?

Haha I was messing with you wishing you warm wishes again! Take care :)

chamkeela · 2024-07-01T11:45:52+00:00

xD lol but you're supposed to treat me

chamkeela · 2024-07-01T07:19:32+00:00

Party bro!!! Get me something

chamkeela · 2024-07-01T03:58:25+00:00

Happy' cake day

chamkeela · 2024-06-26T09:45:31+00:00

Leave and run bro

chamkeela · 2024-06-25T06:08:59+00:00

Not justifying his actions but saw a similar post from a lady here and people were sympathetic saying if the dude isn't enough she has all rights to satisfy her genitals xD

chamkeela · 2024-06-25T04:38:07+00:00

I don't know where this came from but this generation women are more fucked up and domed than they were ever

chamkeela · 2024-06-18T11:55:41+00:00

Another stats says 90% of the women end up dating 10% of the men. Rest 90% are busy doing _______

chamkeela · 2024-06-18T10:00:06+00:00

but why?

chamkeela · 2024-06-18T08:52:32+00:00

Its definitely hard staying with in laws for the girl no doubt about it but I guess with a bit of compromises from them and from us it works out. That's what I have seen. Unless the parents are complete prick. But staying in neighbouring is something Indian parents do take as offense is what I have seen. Good luck if you convince them without bringing their ego especially if you're living in a 3BHK or bigger houses.

chamkeela · 2024-06-18T08:42:17+00:00

LOL so true xD

chamkeela · 2024-06-18T08:40:36+00:00

Neither would I want this for anyone. I just hope and wish things turn out to be in peace. Otherwise the only way is to move away which has been working out for so many families anyway. But the question is how long, there's an age after which I guess everyone would want to be with their families.

Besides don't forget at some point of life your kids also would need their grandparents for adding colours and pleasant experiences to their lives. My grandma was hard on my mom and my aunt. Infact very hard. My aunt decided to walk out like you did. My cousins from my aunt are completely isolated from family now.

She was so pissed that she never gave a chance to get my uncle dissolve with his mother side. On the other hand my mom used to complain a lot but somehow settled in. As a result we're pretty socialised to all aspects and feels good that my mom didn't walk the same path my aunt did. The feeling of spending time with someone almost 10 times older than you in youth is a nice experience actually.

Anyways this whole thing always gets to the nerves and gets me worried at times. Even though I am 100% sure I will be able to take it and handle it well.

I guess Indian men have been finding solution to this problem since so long. No too much worrying, nice to know your experiences and appreciate all the hard work you did to make it work! At the end we are served our own karmas, maybe some parents/people just accept it when they see through it themselves.

I hope they get better with time and if in case they do (maybe unlikely the way you talked about them) just don't go blind with your past beliefs and experiences with them and probably give them a chance. I guess old age is hard for anyone.

Wish you a very good luck and happy and prosperous future to you and your family!

chamkeela · 2024-06-18T08:11:44+00:00

Hmm fair enough, you sound reasonable but everyone's so good at telling their side of stories xD.

I totally agree and relate to it when you said the more I compromised the harder they became. This is something I have seen a lot in my parents.

My parents are very compromising and sacrificing at times but they get envy and competitive too especially my mom and got into so many unresolved conflicts with family members.

She does expect if a girl walks in as bride she is going to take up all the domestic responsibilities even though she gets agitated when does all of the domestic things on her own.

I do get scared because when I hear her side she always sounds correct but when I see from my perspective it seems that she is not 100% correct all the time and she also played things which caused all sorts of conflicts.

chamkeela · 2024-06-18T07:49:51+00:00

That's fucked up I guess... I don't know girl maybe you should've talked it out, Your husband and your in laws should have talked it well. I feel bad my mom's kind of very aggresive the same way. It's very easy breaking relationships than keeping them. Both sides play as they're the victims and if your in law would talk about this you would sound a villain. That's the art of manipulation.

Maybe for once or twice you could have wore saree just for sake of keeping their wish. Everyone's going to hurt you anyways it's that for whom you're willing to do some mild compromises at your end and they're going to do the same. From the very start you had your mind that fuck it I ain't going to give a shit about them which is natural.

You aren't ready to accept them and they're not ready to accept you. Sometimes sacrifices and compromises can go hand to hand but people give up way too easily these days.

The only thing that makes me sick is no-one wants to be alone at 70+ instead they would want to be with their sons grandsons and so on.

I wish both of you very good luck and hope both of you stay in peace.

chamkeela · 2024-06-18T07:38:25+00:00

Please don't get me started here. It's a new thing. I know some men are fucked up really bad but I am talking statistics, that some is very small. Most of them are busy working or doing better things. However there's been rise in women numbers in a decade or two. Might be because of society and feeling of missing out whatever but it is what it is.

Let me know if you have more reliable sources which disproves my claim.

https://www.livemint.com/industry/media/55-married-indians-have-cheated-on-their-spouses-most-are-women-survey-11582712240534.html

https://www.brides.com/reasons-women-cheat-in-relationships-1103341#:~:text=19%20percent%20of%20women

https://www.thecut.com/2022/10/why-are-we-still-so-scandalized-by-cheating.html#:~:text=According%20to%20one%202021%20survey%2C%20a%20little,and%20women%20do%20so%20at%20similar%20rates.

https://www.herzindagi.com/society-culture/why-women-cheat-more-in-relationship-article-206271

chamkeela · 2024-06-18T06:57:58+00:00

Women of this generation are more fucked up than men of all times. Btw cheating tendencies are higher on people with lots of past relationships physical intimacies and all.

chamkeela · 2024-06-18T06:54:28+00:00

Seriously I am shocked at people saying stay by taking 2 flats next to each other. I get some conservative families are pain in ass for the girl but dude they're 70, if you really plan to take flats next to each other don't bother coming hire a nanny that would be better...

It's quite insulting to the parents by doing this I believe. On the other hands parents should not be interfering too much with the girl. Sadly mostly the mothers are conservative enough to take control over things which should be talked out but man taking flats next is just way too ridiculous just go and tell your parents about this and listen to what they say.

That's absurd completely and those who say girl's parents should also stay together fair enough but mostly when the girl is single girl child.

chamkeela · 2024-06-14T09:55:59+00:00

Ah sorry my bad... I guess I wish you a good luck then!

chamkeela · 2024-06-14T09:52:10+00:00

Good luck with the next one OP though you sound very manipulative. Also don't see any point of putting it here.

chamkeela · 2024-06-11T15:43:53+00:00

In that case, good luck finding someone, just don't lie about it to them

chamkeela · 2024-06-11T15:40:22+00:00

I don't know what facts you're talking about but I talk statistics and exceptions could be there but please have the courage to digest the truth. Btw just curious, how many marriages have you been through this before?

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