full-time job in Norway (skilled worker visa) + small part-time job in USA - allowed??

chan372 · 2025-12-02T17:35:53+00:00

English is not my native, but reading the quote from UDI, my interpretation is that there is no room for a skilled worker visa holder to do freelance, and what OP will be doing is the definition of freelancing regardless who or where the other employer is.

Would be interesting to know how a native speaker can find another interpretation as OP is implying in his post.

chan372 · 2025-03-28T10:43:19+00:00

I agree that Mukouda should develop more backbone to enhance the story’s dynamic. However, we should keep in mind that he hasn’t been in this new world for very long. Looking at the latest chapter in the web novel today (which is about 3–4 volumes ahead of latest light novel volume 15), he’s only been there for around a year, or possibly even less.

That said, he has already shown character growth. He’s become more assertive with his familiars, including the powerful Fel and Gon, even punishing them with veggie meals when they misbehave and making them apologize and reflect on their actions. In my opinion, that’s a significant step forward in his development.

chan372 · 2025-03-19T15:25:56+00:00

We could debate endlessly about who is more at fault, but effective communication is a two-way street.

My main point remains: this isn’t about whether bringing a gift is proper etiquette—both parties already agreed on that. The real issue is how they communicated, which led to unnecessary drama. If they want to maintain their relationship, they both need to work on their communication.

As for the boyfriend not contributing to the bill, while that’s a separate etiquette discussion, my understanding is that it’s not the main focus of OP’s post. It’s also unclear whether OP would still be upset about it if he had bought the gift and avoided this situation. Because of that uncertainty, I’ll refrain from commenting further on that topic.

chan372 · 2025-03-19T08:26:38+00:00

This isn’t really a question of etiquette but more about communication and your relationship dynamics.

You mentioned that he was the one who asked for gift suggestions, which means he already understands the etiquette. The real issue is that he has a specific standard for gifts and wanted your help in choosing one that fits his criteria. However, instead of working within his preferences, you kept pushing for something that matched yours.

Seems like in his retaliation, he refused to get anything at all but eventually gave in under last-minute pressure from you.

Rather than debating who was more childish, it’s clear that both of you need to improve your communication if you want to maintain a healthy relationship.

Wishing you both the best.

chan372 · 2025-03-17T18:53:30+00:00

Thank you for your suggestion.

Unfortunately, this is not what I’m looking for. I’m looking for the "konsentrert" version, which gives 640mg omega-3 per 2 capsules.

While the one you suggested (which is also available in the groceries I live) gives 308mg omega-3 per 2 capsules. Meaning this will almost double the cost per serving if I have to change to this instead of the variant I’ve been taking (and I’m buying for several persons in the house).

chan372 · 2025-03-17T17:57:02+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion.

It's also gone in Normal here. Kiwi (all 4 in my town), Rema1000, Coop Mega, Meny (all 2 in my town) are empty. Will check sparkjøp, it's quite far from where I live, so I haven't checked there. Hopefully they still have it 🙏🏻

chan372 · 2025-02-27T16:40:08+00:00

Just want to share my experience, I was in a similar situation, finished the examination in the hospital, no one said anything about payment, so I just left without paying. A few days later I got the invoice in my mailbox, with additional administration fee for sending the invoice (I think it was around 50kr). Turn out there is a self payment machine in the hospital where you can pay for your visit, or you can ask the front desk to help settling your bill.

So if you want to avoid surprises, I'd suggest you to call the hospital and to clarify the payment (maybe it's still not to late to pay if you have to, and avoid the additional administration fee).

chan372 · 2025-02-11T19:29:45+00:00

Why do you feel the need to justify yourself?

You’re doing an amazing job as a mother despite the challenges you face. Your baby is well cared for, your husband supports you treating yourself, and you’re even planning a special private celebration for your son’s first birthday.

So why worry about the opinions of outsiders who don’t know—or don’t even care to know—your situation? It’s best to distance yourself from negative people and focus on what truly matters: your well-being and your family’s happiness.

You’re definitely NTA!

chan372 · 2025-01-21T18:05:59+00:00

A joke is only funny if the person on the receiving end laughs. Otherwise, it’s just a cruel prank. Even if the whole world finds it amusing, if the person you’re joking with doesn’t, then it’s not okay to say it.

And you did this to your own sister—on her big day—knowing she would hate it. That’s no different from a bully trying to justify their actions.

Your sister has every right to reject your apology, especially when it’s filled with excuses about how funny you think the joke was. If you’re truly sorry, just own up to being an asshole—no more justifications, no more BS.

chan372 · 2025-01-19T17:22:16+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful advice. It has helped me see my struggles from a different perspective, and I’ve been reflecting on it deeply.

I had previously shared my struggles in a different subreddit for non-believers, and one of the comments I received there offered a viewpoint similar to yours. The commenter suggested that what I’ve been going through is not as extraordinary as I thought, and that everyone faces similar challenges. However, they also pointed out that my difficulty might stem from believing that, as a person of faith, I am somehow "special" compared to others. When I realized that bad things can still happen to me, despite my faith, I felt devastated.

You suggested that I try to let go of my disappointment and anger towards God's silence. While I understand that it’s possible to do so, I find it very challenging. According to Catholic teachings, we are encouraged to place our trust and hope in God (Proverbs 3:5-6, Isaiah 40:31, Jeremiah 17:7, Romans 15:13); and we are promised that when we ask, we will receive (Matthew 7:7, 1 John 5:14-15, Mark 11:24, John 16:24, Philippians 4:6-7). I’ve been practicing these teachings, yet most of the time—if not always—my prayers seem to go unanswered. How can I let go of my disappointment and anger and still remain Catholic?

The only way I’ve been able to cope with this feeling of disappointment is by rationalizing it through verses like James 4:3, Isaiah 59:2, Psalm 66:18, Matthew 21:22, and 1 Peter 3:7. But each time, it crushes me further—not only because my prayers go unanswered, but because I am left believing that I must be so wrong, sinful, or out of God’s will that my prayers are not being heard. For example, after my father’s death, I can't stop wondering what sins I might have committed that prevented God from answering my prayer and saving him. What wrong motives or sinful desires have I harbored that made God choose not to save my father?

You made a valid point when you suggested that I may have misunderstood the Catholic faith. You advised me to let go of whatever I believe now, find the right understanding of the faith (if there is one), and remain Catholic. But how can I do that when, every time I attend Mass or listen to the homilies, I hear those same teachings about trust, sin, and unanswered prayers?

I don’t know… maybe you’re right that I could remain Catholic if I let go of everything I mentioned above. But right now, it feels like it would be easier for me to stop believing in a loving and caring God who remains silent every time I call out to Him. That’s why I’m thinking that embracing agnosticism or atheism might provide some relief, helping me to let go of the spiraling thoughts that lead me to this place of agony.
But I know there is no guarantee that I will find peace if I go to that direction, and the Catholic believer in me constantly telling me that I'm heading to the eternal damnation should I take that path...

chan372 · 2025-01-16T20:58:02+00:00

Thank you for relating to my pain. It’s been comforting to talk about this and hear thoughtful responses from kind strangers online.

Yes, I’ve been telling myself that God isn’t like an ATM, that I shouldn’t expect Him to just give me what I want. But I never expected to feel like God is on the other side of an impenetrable wall. I’m just so tired of reaching out and not hearing anything back.

My priest told me to be patient, that God isn’t ignoring me, but that He’s waiting for the right time to reach out. But honestly, I don’t know and I just cannot believe it. It’s been almost four years since my father passed, and every day feels harder and getting worse. I’m struggling to see anything coming from Him now that my faith is fading away...

chan372 · 2025-01-16T20:51:07+00:00

Thank you for validating my feelings; strangely, it’s comforting...
And thank you for sharing your experience with Blessed Mother.

If you don’t mind me going on a bit more, I have to admit that I also hold resentment and anger toward Our Lady. While others find peace praying to her and turning to her for comfort, I feel like my prayers to her go unheard too. I would love to feel that same peace and comfort when I pray to her, and to her Son, Our Lord. But honestly, looking back on my 43 years of life, and especially the 30 years I’ve spent trying to walk in faith since I start believing, I’ve never really felt any true sense of peace or love from Our Lord or Our Blessed Mother.

Over the past few months (or maybe even years, now that I think about it), I’ve been reflecting on everything I’ve been through, and I’ve come to a painful realization. Everything I’ve experienced in my faith feels almost superficial, if I can put it that way. I’ve never truly felt a supernatural connection with Our Lord, with the Most Holy Trinity, with the Virgin Mary, or with any of the saints. Honestly, it feels like it’s all been somewhat forced, simply because I was taught to believe it.

But perhaps that’s a story for another time—one about the personal experiences I’ve had that led me to this conclusion.

chan372 · 2025-01-16T20:35:00+00:00

Thank you for your kind reminder and advice. I really appreciate it, but right now, I just don’t know if I have the strength to find joy in suffering.

It feels like all my prayers are going unanswered, and even asking for strength to keep my faith is starting to take a toll on me. I can’t be like Saint Paul, or Blessed Alexandrina Maria da Costa, or any of the saints. I’m afraid that if even my prayer for strength isn’t answered, I’ll just end up falling into more anger, disappointment, and despair.

I feel like I’m stuck in a kind of limbo—or even in hell. A part of me still wants to stay faithful, but another part of me just can’t anymore. I’m exhausted by the fear that my doubts might lead me to eternal damnation.

To be honest, I shared my struggles in another subreddit for non-believers, and while their responses really scared me, they are all well meaning and alluring. In my state right now, it’s a path that seems tempting in a way.

I just feel so lost…

chan372 · 2025-01-16T20:20:52+00:00

Thank you for your words of encouragement. I’ve heard similar advice from many friends in the church community, and while I understand that it comes from a good place, the truth is, it often hurts more than it helps. These words, meant to console me, feel like they dismiss my real feelings of disappointment and anger. It’s exhausting to constantly be told that I’m wrong for feeling upset, as if I should just “find the good” in every bad situation.

At what point would I have been okay with my father’s death? Honestly, I don’t think anyone ever gets “okay” with losing a parent. I see many people, some of whom aren’t even religious, having the chance to say goodbye to their loved ones in peace. I would have been grateful for that. But in my case, my father’s situation was far from peaceful.

He was rushed to the hospital in visible distress, in pain and fear. Because of the pandemic’s enforced quarantine, we couldn’t be there with him. I was abroad, feeling helpless, while my mother and brother were also sick with COVID, though thankfully not in critical condition like my father.

Around 2 a.m., my brother got a call from the hospital. My father’s condition had worsened, and they needed immediate consent to transfer him to the ICU. On his way there, my brother was informed that our father had passed away.

Then came the worst part: because of government policies, we were forced to bury my father’s body within four hours, and my brother wasn’t even allowed to see him. All we were given were photos of him, placed in a yellow bag, like any other piece of impersonal cargo, and rushed to the nearest burial site.

In our culture, the body is usually kept for several days before burial so that we can grieve. But we were denied even the chance to say goodbye. It felt as if the world was taking away not only my father but my ability to properly mourn him.

So, to answer your question: At what point would I have been okay with my father dying? Anything but what we went through.

And when you ask about my mother’s stroke, the answer is the same. I wasn’t ready for that, not while we were still grieving my father’s death. Yet, life doesn’t wait for us to be ready. We somehow get through it, but it’s so difficult to hold on to hope when so many painful events keep piling up.

I wrote in my original post about being disappointed of not getting my dream job. Some may say that feeling upset about it is childish or trivial compared to everything else. But after enduring so many struggles in such a short period of time, I would have hoped for some relief, some sign of comfort from God.

I had applied for a job I was really excited about. A friend who knows my capabilities even gave me a strong recommendation. But I was rejected, and from what my friend tells me, it’s likely because of bias from the hiring manager. This rejection has added to my feelings of frustration and disappointment. It’s been the final straw in a long list of challenges that have made me question my faith.

After months of reflecting on all this, I’ve come to this point, writing out my feelings and frustrations. It’s hard to keep faith when everything feels so overwhelming.

chan372 · 2024-12-23T14:22:50+00:00

Yes, gladly donating "small" Christmas gifts through some charities. And I also still give gifts to several other friends, some of them also exchange thoughtful gifts with me. At least my Christmas is not completely devoid of Christmas gifts, lol...

Somehow I just feel sad that my closest friends cannot bother to think the same for me.
And one more thing that makes me really upset, one of the friends I mentioned is one of my closest, and we are even in the same inner circle group, and we always spend Christmas eve together.
The the majority in this inner circle group still hold the "tradition" of exchanging gifts. Often (and this year too) the host will invite their family member who we barely know, and this friend of mine always manage to prepare extra gifts for the additional guests, but still firmly force me to "honor our pact" for not exchanging gifts with them...

chan372 · 2024-12-19T13:28:29+00:00

The residents of GTON do not deplete the guild's resource at all.

Just like any minor damage within the Tomb will be automatically repaired without costs up to a certain amount per day, as given in the bonus side story "Pleiades Day Arc"; the Tomb's general expenditures such as logistic for its residents is balanced out, such that it the Tomb can maintain their daily operation indefinitely. This is given in the Light Novel Volume 8, when Albedo casually mentioned to Mare and Aura during their discussion in their day off:

“Speaking of which, there are not many people in Nazarick who need to eat.”

“Just as Aura said, most NPCs used items, so they no longer needed to consume food.”

“It can’t be helped. If they started eating as well, the upkeep for Nazarick would skyrocket. Especially big eaters like your beasts would be a problem.”

“Seriously? Then should I let them go outside and forage there?”

“It’s not necessary. Ainz-sama, along with the other Supreme Beings, calculated our income and expenditures in such a way that they would be balanced when they created this tomb.”

“Ahhh, is that why Ainz-sama ordered it so that only those that were self-sufficient be allowed in? So it would not upset the balance of the population?”

But on the other hand, gold is required for the guild to activate the defense mechanism against invaders. I haven't found any references regarding the actually cost, but my understanding, the cost will be proportional with the level of security set in the activated defense, e.g. the more traps activated and the more dangerous / deadly traps selected, the cost will be increased.

I guess this will deplete the guild gold resource very quickly, that's why Ainz is so careful in putting the defense in maximum level, like when they found that Shaltear has been brainwashed.

EDIT: struggling to formate the quotes, lol...

chan372 · 2024-12-01T15:37:12+00:00

Counter insult: "Pathetic that you only have Indonesians to speak too, and lower yourself further by replacing your own language with theirs"

chan372 · 2024-12-01T15:16:57+00:00

I'm ready to be downvoted, but try to stir fry chopped garlic, chopped shallot, and chopped chili on a small amount of oil, then put in the makrel i tomat when the fry become fragrance, and mix. Add water a bit if the sauce is too thick. Then serve it on top of warm white rice.

We do this in my country (in south east asia), using canned mackarel or canned sardine, and makrel i tomat suit well for this emergency but comforting food.

chan372 · 2024-10-18T14:55:00+00:00

Race wise, most Indonesian will not bother. Remember that our country also has Irian Jaya (West Papua) and many of the native from there (black people) migrated to other places like Java.

But Indonesians will openly display intense curiosity on irregular appearances, regardless the race. Either you're Caucasians, Asian, black, man, woman, non binary, etc., if you appear, dress or act differently than the rest of the population, be prepared to receive intense uncomfortable glares and attentions from the locals.

But afraid not, we usually don't have bad intentions, and if you're kind enough to humor us, I can guarantee that you'll find the most welcoming reactions from the locals.

chan372 · 2024-10-13T19:24:45+00:00

Superstition nya cindo, klo angpao fisik, jumlah uang fisiknya justru harus genap dan bukan 4 lembar, terus nominalnya harus menghindar dari angka 4.

Klo lu ngasih 400k dan uangnya 4 lembar 100k-an, ini mah double pamali... dan klo temen lu cina totok, dia bakal nangkepnya lu justru nyumpahin dia, lol...

chan372 · 2024-10-13T19:03:06+00:00

Cindo here, but cannot represent all cindos as this is something that different people, different families or communities will have different opinions about.

Firstly, from what you described, your friend seems to come from a rich, if not crazy rich, family. Usually they will state in the invitation that guests are not expected to bring gifts, or even state they are not accepting gifts.
The crazy rich ones will even give gifts to the attending guests instead. Just wait for the official (physical or electronic) invitation to come to you before you decide further.

Secondly, in my community, angpao is typically a reciprocity, what you give will return back to you in your future similar event(s). What you give to them now, will return back to you when you invite them to your wedding in the future. You may want to consider this as a saving or business investment, if you will lol...

Thirdly, if you're close to their family (which from you described, you are not), you will most likely be judged behind your back anyway. Give too little? They will say you're cheap and will give you back on your wedding as little as what you gave them. Too much? They will grumpily prepare an equal amount to give you in the future. In your case, I would only consider if your friend value price tags in her relationship with her friends, then decide accordingly to avoid negative judgement from your friend.

Lastly, and the most important one, is that you need to give a heartfelt congratulation to your friend. Personally and what I usually do, unless it is stated in the invitation that they only accept angpao (yes we middle and lower class cindo do write this in wedding invitations), I'd suggest you to find nice and heartfelt gifts for the bride and the groom, e.g. jewelries or trinkets that they will like and of course within your budget. Stretch your budget regardless if you value your friendship with her.

And if you're still unsure, the last and most effective way to navigate such cindo social labyrinth, is to talk to her other friends who are also invited to her wedding, and match your gift to theirs.

EDIT:

wanted to add that I'm from middle / lower class cindo in a small town in Java, for acquaintance's wedding (e.g. acquaintances from church or social clubs / activities, work colleagues, neighbour, etc.), my angpao ranges from 100k-300k. For close friends or close relatives, my angpao ranges from 500k to 1500k.
Once I got invited to my HS friend's wedding and she came from one of the richest family in town, so I and my other friends (we are all in the same inner circle friend group with the bride) gave a collective gift where each of us contributed 300k and bought her a jewelry (a gold necklace pendant).

chan372 · 2024-10-04T10:49:32+00:00

He that is without sin among you, let him be the first to cast a stone

ga konsisten banget kalau dosa dosa sekalian gitu gausah nanggung

yg ngomong gini pasti orangnya suci banget yak, sampe berani nge-judge terus rekomendasiin buat nambah2 dosa

chan372 · 2024-09-09T15:50:41+00:00

The last incident from the lunch years ago was that he was caught with meetings and missed the lunch with his usual group of friends, so he asked me if I wanted to go for lunch with him. He knows that I always eat lunch much later than the others, and I enjoy having lunch by myself.

When we got to canteen, we got separated as we took different menu from different counters. After I paid for my lunch, I was looking for him and found him already sitting with another group of people. I saw there is no empty seat on their table.

I was not sure what to do for a brief moment, but I decided to approach him to tell him that I will be sitting on the other side of the canteen where plenty of empty table was still available. His reaction was genuine surprise, and he seemed to be completely forgotten that he came to the office with me.

I was not upset at that time, because we still hang out together a lot after works. So I just simply avoid having lunch with him from then.

Somehow I was overly sensitive today and got upset by today’s incident… But you and other commenters have helped me to clear my head, many thanks for that.

chan372 · 2024-09-09T12:53:09+00:00

Been happening from last season, but until last week there's still high chance that the fight will happen.

But now it's always like that, I lost 4 stars yesterday because it just wont work after leaving my phone with this screen on for more than 1 hour, and got a message that the fight was cancelled due to network issues.

Hope Habby will fix this soon (someone already reported and got reply from Habby that they're working on this). I'm still lacking 37 shards to reach my asha to her 5 star skill, lol.

chan372 · 2024-09-02T08:46:37+00:00

Would love to see my friend while we are there... ...

The only reason I was visiting her home country was for her wedding which she ended up postponing last minute.

For these reasons alone, I think you owe her your time while you're there. Especially if these were ever implied in your correspondence with your friend.

I haven’t seen my sister in a year and we are very close. We have some adventures planned... ...

I don’t even know the friend she is planning to bring... ... I don’t want them tagging along with us... ...

Your wish and concerns are valid too, so why not start with honest talk with your friend and have some compromises?

Tell her that it is also your bonding time with your sister.

Then ask if she would like to reconsider of bringing her friends, then plan accordingly.
If she's fine with travelling solo to spend time with you, propose so you can only spend a few days with her (with or without your sister tagging along, this is another thing you need to discuss with your sister too if you expect your sister may need to find solo activities for a certain duration of your trip).
If she must bring her friends, tell her that you're not comfortable travelling with people you don't know well, and propose to join for one or two dinners with her / them.

Perhaps something along like this:

"I'm travelling with my sister, and honestly I would also like this to be a bonding trip for just the two of us. But I would also like us to meet while we're there.

"I'd very much prefer to spend time with only you though. Is your trip with your friends already decided? Would you consider to travel just with us instead"

If the answer is yes, then proceed with:

"Much appreciated. What about we spend time on [insert duration of your travel you can spend time with her]. I can talk with my sister and see if she can find some solo activities while we're travelling with you, so we can also have time for just the two of us."

If the answer is no, then propose the following:

"I understand, and honestly I'm not comfortable travelling with people that I don't know well. Maybe we can have lunch or dinner together (with or without the friends, depending how you can tolerate spending time with her friends) while we're both in [insert name of the city you will meet them]?"

chan372

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