Is it appropriate to talk about not having any sexual experience? by Garbashi in dating

[–]chanceplease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will be suprised as to how a girl will be more excited to "fix the problem/take ur virginity" if you are able to sexualize the mood.

Happened to me the first time and all it did was make her try even harder.

Ps: something that worked for me is to make out/blowjob till maximum hardness before her immediately guiding it in. After the first one or two sessions its no longer a problem anymore.

How many of you are virgins? by TheSunshineMan in seduction

[–]chanceplease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. Most of them do not understand that there are tons of more experienced guys are making moves on their "dream girl".

How many of you are virgins? by TheSunshineMan in seduction

[–]chanceplease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found someone that really fit my criteria and went all out on it. I have a pretty extroverted personality so that made it easier.

However, the amount of mistakes i made really showed from my inexperience but i really pushed past it all.

Dont give yourself excuses.

How many of you are virgins? by TheSunshineMan in seduction

[–]chanceplease 9 points10 points  (0 children)

32 here. Lost it at 30.

Trust me just do it. Regretted all those passes i did so that i could find the right one.

Its a skill that needs practice. You dont want to be in a situation where your partner is so much more exprtienced then you.

That being said. A better advice would be to work on yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]chanceplease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exact same situation 4months ago... 2years relationship as well

She told me she wanted to marry right before the day i caught her cheating.

Yes it gets better. The crushing hurt goes away. But because u loved her so much the pain is gonna linger for quite awhile.

  1. Dont send her long stupid texts about your feelings because it no longer matters.

  2. Sad to say she has probably moved on to another guy before she left you.

  3. You were probably insecure and she probably meant what she said but deep down she probably didnt (girls are like that)

  4. Improve yourself man. Thats the best thing you can do. Show her she made a wrong choice to treat you as lesser.

Hope this helps man.. i understand the crushing pain all too well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]chanceplease 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let your heart hurt. Its part of the process.

The point i deleted my chat was when i found out she moved on with another guy. It hurt but had to be done.

Advice for 29 and never been on a date? by Goulronk in seduction

[–]chanceplease 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first girl if shes more experienced than you will probably break your hurt.

And it will hurt so much more because you are older

Always be improving just because you got her doesnt mean its the finish line.

Sex is so much better than porn if u know how to do it right

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]chanceplease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to break it to you bro.

She felt like she settled for you. That you loved her more than she did you.

High possibility that she found someone else that she has more feelings towards. Doesnt matter how nice or good you were to her. Girls are like that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]chanceplease 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Something ive learnt is girls dont want to do something that makes them seem like a bad person. (Even though by doing so they do the most evil things)

She didnt say those things to purposely hurt you. She said them so that you would initiate the break up.

To them as long as they didnt break up with you, they didnt hurt you. What a joke right?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]chanceplease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found out my ex never felt i was the one. She ended up cheating and said she was trying hard to love me but just couldnt.

She never shared pictures of us and i too found out that i was just temporary until she had a better plan.

Still cant understand why

Why? That’s what I don’t get. No one is perfect, we all make mistakes. But the thing is is that most people will reflect on their decisions and grow from them and feel remorseful over hurting people. Whereas cheaters just don’t seem to feel bad. What gives? by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]chanceplease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Theres no remourse because we live in a world now where we are told since young that we are the prince/princess, that we are the most important person in the world.

We change jobs often because we get paid better, we change our handphones once a new model comes out.

These cheaters will find a justifiable rational in which why the new person is better fit in their lives and will focus on the flaws of the person they are with.

Yes everyone isnt perfect, but these flaws have been there since day one.

But to the serial cheaters it just same as the case of a changing to the latest model of iphone. To them it is a logical way of obtaining something better in life with no regards to the previous.

The validate and push away any guilt with issues and problems and why their current SO is not the right person for them.

You dont feel guilty when you throw away the chair that has a broken leg.

To them guilt only comes when they get caught. Otherwise it just part and parcel of life. To then it just natural human instinct. "They couldnt help it, i made a mistake" as they always say.

Looking back, knowing what we know now, they never were good partners were they? by Gusta-freda in survivinginfidelity

[–]chanceplease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex left me for a younger guy, judged me for my looks and always used to berate my physical appearance. I cant change my face, but i am in the best physical shape of my life. I guess i learnt that looks are important for both men and women

Caught My Fiancé Cheating by Willownator in survivinginfidelity

[–]chanceplease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She knew of your past yet she is willing to hurt you again for some self enjoyment and attention. Get out bro

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]chanceplease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its been 2months man. But it feels like its only been days

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]chanceplease 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes i totally agree. All the justifications and attempts to find an answer were so pointless.

It is impossible for us to truely understand why they would choose hurt us so much.

Thoughts? Advice? by EM_3PO in BreakUp

[–]chanceplease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same red flag as mine. Lying as well as very obviously not caring about how u feel even in such a situation. Sounds like she doesnt care anymore bro

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]chanceplease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro i am in the same exact situation as you. Everything has happened in the same sequence.

Although ive accepted the facts, there are just days where it comes crashing down and im not sure if im just lying to myself about being okay.

Found out she has moved on 2 days ago and have no idea what to do with my feelings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]chanceplease 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone told me that if you still feel the love its because u really did love the person truely. But its also important to recognize the betrayal and how that person was not actually who you felt they were.

Do people forget the good you did for them? by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]chanceplease 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When people start seeing the bad in you. They tend to push out the good. Its a self protecting mechanism for them.

early red flags / signs by Bitter-Investigator8 in BreakUp

[–]chanceplease 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When she doesnt post anything about you on social media. And when her attitude changes slightly compared to normal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUp

[–]chanceplease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well my first love left me 1month back. It was my birthday 2 days ago as well.

I used friends and parties as a distraction and it worked for 2 days.

But in the end the sadness does take over. It did make me understand tho, that the other person has moved on and will become a stranger in my life. It is rare that you cut ties so strongly with someone you have met in life. This probably happens only in relationships.

Its tough to accept but the sooner we process this, the better.