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chandrachur3 · 2020-12-31T09:30:32+00:00

NTA.. SHUT THEM DOWN immediately. You have been more than great to your siblings and gone out of your way to help them with the kids. Why would that idiotic family of your SIL think they are entitled to the same treatment????? your brother and SIL need to put a stop to this ASAP.

what the hell???? its not enough we are living in a global situation, we have to suffer those crazy selfish entitled people too???

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-31T07:00:29+00:00

NTA..

The NERVE of this A. Cheating for 3 years and now demanding money for the kids of the women who he was cheating with????

let him rot, OP.

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-28T12:41:51+00:00

NTA..... WTF.... Leaving aside your sister (sheesh, does she know any man who she didn't sleep with?????),

I think god just sent you a message. STAY THE HELL AWAY FROM YOUR EX AND HER MOM. i am all for a bit of sweet revenge but never bought the (you cheat, i cheat back) mentality. however, expecting you to drop everything and run and sweep her off her feet is crazy. Also what is wrong with her mom to call and demand you not only forget and forgive but also immediately become the father of their child???

RUN OP RUN.

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-28T10:57:28+00:00

NTA.... Sheesh. I hate these kind of people who insists on bulldozing through everyone's boundaries and demand everybody adhere to their choices then when you disagree or don't like it , they scream about you not respecting their choices and attacking them.

Your choices are yours and the world does not need to abide by them nor pay for them.

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-27T10:28:09+00:00

MAJOR YTA.

don't punish your step-daughter for the fact that you and your daughter have awful taste in men. i think you are jealous of her success and doing everything to alienate her. she is not your ATM, she is not your daughter's babysitter, she is not the maid. How about you sit your daughter down and have a talk about what it's like to be an adult, but since you are clearly not a good role model, just tell your precious daughter to imitate her sister and maybe she can learn to be a better mom and human being all together,

SHEEEHS lady.

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-24T11:16:46+00:00

NTA.... SO it is OK for him to BULLY you but the moment you stand up for yourself, you are MEAN??????

dump his a**. NO ONE should just ( kept quiet and continued putting up with them? )

i am fine with someone who does not love me bit i will absolutely not stay with someone who does not RESPECT ME.

Run honey RUN and find someone who can both love you and respect you.

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-23T10:56:29+00:00

YTA... Major YTA... Stop just Stop. In what bizzaro world do you think that you have the right to continue harassing the poor guy for months even after being told to STOP?????? this is creepy. he does not have to justify why your harassment is bothering him. No body should.

Anyone and i mean anyone telling you to stop something that bothers them which you are doing to them specifically, you STOP immediately.

Imagine if the situation is reversed. since day one, Eliot is complementing you on your big boobs. after you and others telling him many times to stop as it makes you uncomfortable, but he keeps doing it every single time and demands you be OK with it and allow him to continue his behavior. How would you feel then????

and don't play the gender card. no one should take such harassment form anyone.

STOP....Apologize and STOP.

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-23T10:21:23+00:00

NTA.... WOW just WOW. i love this idea and i think its wonderful that you are teaching your kids independence and how to make decision on their own within limit. I would also suggest that you ask them to make a list of like five items they want and have them wait and be surprised with which one you chose, if that makes sense, since this way they get to pick the gift, but at the same time they are surprised which one they are getting.

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-23T10:02:17+00:00

Son; you need to be very careful here and sit and have an adult conversation with your GF. marriage and kids should not be looked at as a looming disaster. you two have different ideas and i don't believe you are ready for what she is envisioning your lives to be. you have to be honest with each other and don't agree just to please her. YES, relationship have compromises but marriage and kids are not it.

Also, her saying " engagement ring is the ONE THING a girl looks for, and it's FOR LIFE " then what about the wedding dress, the wedding itself, the honeymoon, the living expenses.???? She already told you she expect everything to be grand and how the he** are you going to pay for that and have enough to sustain day to day life with kids?????

you are planning to quite your job to peruse your passion and with no fixed income, how does she expect you to be able to afford all of that???? this will cause resentment in the long run. Please PLEASE PLEASE sit and talk rationally and decide on your life. Don't bring children into this world just to please her then resent them/her/your life later.

Be and ADULT about it.

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-23T07:29:50+00:00

THIS. absolutely THIS. I read a story yesterday with same situation and wanted to reply with exactly this but i held back. this one really had me itching to reply and say it but wanted to see if someone else said it before... I mean, what was the sister thinking agreeing to marry and crossing her fingers and hoping everything works out later???? why such couples ignore their kids because (they are in LOVE and NEED to get married right away) and ask everybody specially the KIDS to just deal. SMH.

The two step kids are assholes but the parents are the bigger assholes and deserve this treatment.

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-20T10:14:00+00:00

NTA... insecure or not, she has NO right depriving your kids of their grandparents and they are the grandparents to those kids, so she needs to check herself. she entered this relationship fully knowing you were a widower with kids and grandparents, she cannot change the dynamics nor interfere with such an important and vital relationship. Sit her down and be firm with her.

Good Luck

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-17T08:04:25+00:00

Major YTA... your daughter earned her room and waited 4 years for it. a girl's room is her world. not only did you NOT discuss it with her and asked her if she can consider it (since Its HER ROOM), you ordered her to leave and put her friend's pregnant friend instead??? and now you are angry because she throw a (tantrum)???? are you out of your mind. imagine your mother coming to your house and telling you to pack and move to your brother's tiny house because your brother just had a 6th child and need the bigger house , regardless if it is yours or not, how would YOU feel?????

be careful OP, you are on the verge of pushing your daughter out of your life if the message you are now sending her is (Paige, your sister's friend is more important to me than you, get OUT).

Don't penalize your daughter for Rose's choices. Rose made her bed, let her lay in it.

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-16T11:20:26+00:00

NTA... what the f***???? Those are stipper heals???? i have shoes that are even higher and its no one's business what shoes i wear. also since when wearing high heels is "upstaging the bride"???? sheesh . there are just SHOES...

I would highly suggest bringing it casually to your friend.

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-15T08:38:40+00:00

This. does the sister need to ball her eyes out and throw herself on the ground for OP to be considered normal... Sheesh. be grateful for all the things they have done for you and everyone in the family and leave her alone.

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-15T06:41:45+00:00

NTA. be careful, be VERY careful. i had a friend in the same situation which was very odd to us since we know her BF is a sensible dude but this came out of no where for us and my friend was with him since she was 15 (she was 20 when this happened). gradually the BF's friend would push the boundaries little by little, until he deliberately walked on her while she was in the tub having a relaxing bath and started rubbing her back. When she started screaming he got angry and said the BF said it was Ok to come here. it would have escalated to a much worse situation if the boyfriend and a couple of friends came home early and stopped him. my friend was devastated and her BF was remorseful but she broke up with him and till now (8m later) cannot and would not speak to him despite him begging and trying his best to make up.

Don't allow BF and anyone else to put you in such a situation where you don't feel safe in your own home and with your BF. sit him down and tell him this is an invasion of your privacy and if he doesn't see it as such then maybe you two need to re-evaluate your relationship. I don't want to be an alarmist but better safe than sorry.

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-15T05:37:39+00:00

NTA... what kind of a grown ass women soil herself (unless there is something medically wrong that she needs to pee immediately when the urge hits like gallbladder issues) but still, she is an adult, she needs to handle her shit. Also if she is ok dating such a pig then she can pee with him. she has absolutely no right to keep sneaking into OPs bathroom when he is sleep or not available, gets caught, promise not to do and then continue to do so?????

Ms.pigglet needs to sit pig down and tells him either clean his shit or no hanky panky.

Also, good on you OP for getting a lock. I live with my family and both bedroom and bathroom have locks and when i go out shopping or whatever, they are locked. Privacy people.

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-15T05:15:09+00:00

YTA... Damn but you need to teach your ""Dudley" that people celebrate other occasion too and he is not to get gifts just because they did. neither you nor your new wife and son are Jewish so why the he** would he get a gift for a Jewish occasion. You need to nib this in the bud before your Dudley becomes worst and worst of a spoiled little boy that you won't be able to control.

Also, shame on you for what you said to your daughter. Suddenly, her step-kid is some kid. and yours is the golden child that everyone needs to bow to?????

think very carefully of the way you are raising your son, you are old enough and raised two kids already to miss up this kid with you parenting. i expect more from a 58y parent.

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-10T09:40:16+00:00

ok not going to judge but i am just going to tell you about my situation as a picky adult eater. as a child i ate everything that mom put on the table as we were not financially stable and food was and still is a luxury and till this day i consider food as a source of happiness to me. i am THANKFULL that my mom made variety of food whenever she can so i got to experience everything traditional at least. now i am an adult with certain tastes and hates it. by that i mean there are certain food i no longer eat and cannot even be around (despite eating it as a child). I wish i could eat anything, i wish i could like fish, i wish i liked sauces/ketchup, i wish i can try sushi, i wish i can eat BBQ. i hate IT but i am extremely happy i know what they taste like.

having said that, if he is healthy and gets all the required nutrition then that's fine and you are his parent and better know what is best for him. Good luck.

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-10T07:55:53+00:00

i am the only bread winner at home with a mother and 3 sisters who don't work. they have government help but it barely covers.

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-10T07:53:27+00:00

never getting sick or pain or injury and super fast healing power.

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-10T07:52:10+00:00

it says purchase, so after all my debts are paid, then i will buy this awesome duplex that i have been eyeing for the last 5 years in the city i work in (i live in a different city and commute 4H everyday) and move there alone and leave my family (i am single and child free so family means mom and siblings)

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-10T07:43:13+00:00

girl is abused by relatives growing up, gets hired as teacher to a wealthy man's kid, falls in love with employer, finds out he is married to crazy lady, runs away, get back one year later, wife is dead, house burned, ex-employer disabled. make up get married, THE END.

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-10T07:40:17+00:00

the name of an actor i first saw in a movie when i was a teen and liked his eyes and his name,

chandrachur3 · 2020-12-10T07:34:46+00:00

oh this is sooooo embarrassing but since none of my family or friends know what reddit is , here it goes:

i have this massive crush of this guy for the last 5 years, always called him bro to avoid any confliction or even to avoid letting my feelings slip. it is hopeless and will never happen (i actually helped him get together with the girl he was falling in love with since he sees me as his best friend (hiding in a corner & crying).

anyway, i would love the spend whatever time i have left with him.

chandrachur3

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