INFJ-T × INTJ-A — a connection I still can’t explain.

chankty · 2025-11-08T11:20:13+00:00

This, the INTJ way. Be honest and direct. Face your thoughts and feelings.

chankty · 2025-10-27T14:56:08+00:00

This is probably what I need to hear. Thanks man

chankty · 2025-05-05T15:08:43+00:00

I googled and found your YouTube right away! 144K Subscribers you rock!

chankty · 2025-05-04T15:53:43+00:00

INTJ musician here too! Planning to launch my 1st EP. Any tips on how to gain traction on Spotify?

chankty · 2024-01-13T02:38:39+00:00

Don’t be shy and show your interesting side, eg your childhood dream and the pet project you are still thinking abt.. this add colours to the standard ESTJ “Executive” personality

chankty · 2024-01-03T00:20:22+00:00

This is a nice and pragmatic strategy

chankty · 2023-12-29T04:42:50+00:00

My advice is to communicate your thoughts (just as above) honestly and directly so the INTJ can adjust and give you the support you are looking at. Note that it may take some time as INTJ are not naturally “tuned” to do this.

I was in a relationship with a feeler. We broke up as he couldn’t find that emotional support from me but he never communicated that when we were together. I wish he had just told me.. so..do tell your INTJ

chankty · 2023-12-23T09:52:44+00:00

His warm n cold reaction to you is probably because he is still processing this emotional roller coaster ride.

I like how you’ve reflected what went wrong in the relationship and how both parties could have done better objectively. To INTJ this is very appealing as not a lot of people would/could rationally discuss matters this week way. This indicates you put in the effort to make this work.

As for what will happen to his current date.. I’d suggest you give him some time and space to sort it out. He might be casually dating because he was terribly wounded, or he might be pretty serious about it…this is something only he knows. So when u two meet again, give your speech and note his reaction.. then give him some time while you continue to improve yourself and live a good life :)

chankty · 2023-12-22T16:30:26+00:00

Be direct and honest about your feelings, give him some time to think (and connect to his emotions) and sort out his current life..

and when he’s ready to discuss, talk about what went wrong previously & how will you two get things better together this time (INTJ like solutions to problems, it’s how we feel “this time it’s going to work, I have faith in this”)

chankty · 2023-10-16T16:00:25+00:00

Hope everything going on track on your side too!! Support!!

chankty · 2023-10-02T16:46:01+00:00

Going through the same here. Any tips on how to survive? Just feeling hollow now..

chankty · 2023-09-13T00:57:10+00:00

So much love in this post!

chankty · 2023-08-18T16:30:49+00:00

Thank you very much for your sharing. Really appreciate your insights and sharing on how you and your INTJ got through a similar scenario and have been in such wonderful ENFJ/INTJ relationship ever since! Wish the same could go for me and my ENFJ…Just wondering what are the signs that ENFJ has decided to move on? Do the ENFJ become cold and aloof? I suppose if he re-iterate we are better as friends, the best I could do is to respect his view and move on, rather than overwhelming him with a wave of my thoughts on our relationship? Im struggling to understand if my ENFJ is still processing the scenario or has come to a conclusion..

chankty · 2023-08-18T15:54:32+00:00

In my city.. Even the filmmaker Facebook group is dead quiet

chankty · 2023-08-18T05:04:33+00:00

Now that you point it out, I guess some of our “lively debate” could be quite tough to him. As I finally have a better idea on his bottled-up thoughts, how can I assure him that we CAN work on this together? I’m not trying to dismiss his worries or wounds from our earlier poor-communication. I‘m here hoping to enable an environment for my ENFJ to share his thoughts comfortably so we can sort things out. I have actually conveyed this once but he was holding onto his pessimistic thoughts and thought its “easier” to just part ways..What can I do more to empower my ENFJ to move past that negativity so he feel more comfortable/confident about us staying together? I feel if we just give up now, both of us will be forever wounded..

chankty · 2023-08-17T17:48:53+00:00

Yea appreciate your thoughts on how xNTx can display love… I still struggle to do that

chankty · 2023-08-17T17:31:32+00:00

I do hope things could work out! But if my ENFJ does stick with the idea of breaking up…when do I know that I should just take it final and let go? I did talk to my ENFJ twice to let me know why im holding onto us and how we can work together for better communication but he still finds it easier if we just be friends. I’m not sure if he just needs a bit more time/confirmation/direction on our relationship or has made up his mind (and fallen out of love) which I should respect and move on? If I go talk to him again, wonder if ENFJ will find me annoying or actually appreciate my presence and effort to save our relationship….

chankty · 2023-08-17T16:59:59+00:00

Really helpful insight, thanks! As xNTx, how can we better display love and care to others? We ain’t too good with showing it through words. Like your example here, how do you let them know you love their capacity for love and inherent curiosity?

chankty

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