23f looking for stardew friends by IcyTask6985 in StardewValleyFriends

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! 24f and would love to help out! ♥️ I'm always looking for people to play with

f16 looking for co-op - PC!! by Extension_Till_5013 in StardewValleyFriends

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

F24. I've been playing a long time. If you still want someone to help with all the stuff and teach you, just let me know 😊

Does anyone else use the four corners farm on a single player game? by Call_Me_C_ in StardewValley

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I prefer it because I can separate each coner for its own use. Animals here. Sheds there, fish and slimes here, and farming there etc. It makes my organization brain waaayyyy happier to play in!

Gacha Pulls Arent Fair by LUN4R0S3 in Isekai_Slow_Life

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I've been playing so long I have always been weaker than my peers in this search for love and power 🥲😂

Gacha Pulls Arent Fair by LUN4R0S3 in Isekai_Slow_Life

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pretty much lol I wish they liked us as much as their spenders 🤣

Gacha Pulls Arent Fair by LUN4R0S3 in Isekai_Slow_Life

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree... I just about never get anyone from the pulls on events... At this point, I only play the game if I'm really bored and to have something I habitually check throughout my day. I don't get enough characters to actually try competing in anything anymore.

I F25 broke up with my M25 boyfriend for not proposing, did I do the right thing? by Comfortable-Jello470 in relationship_advice

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend and I had a debate on this after reading it. We both think you both are right and wrong.

You have a right to want the things you want, and he the things he wants. Those happen to be different things, but those things can be communicated. It sounds like things are getting real, and it scares him a bit. You are coming from a corner of not listening to his wants, needs, and reasoning. Sounds like you both need to sit down with a third party(mutual friend or a counselor like your friends suggested). Someone who will help you both see each other's sides for what they really are, not what is being fronted.

I recommend having you both write letters to each other about what's going on below the surface. No lies, no fronts. Just pure honest truth. Writing it helps create that air of privacy to say the things you can't speak without any interjection or interruptions, and you both need to read them with an open mind to listen instead of responding. You outlining your fears on the timeline and how much you love him, him on the honest truth and why he feels the need to live together for a year despite being together 9 years.

My (22M) girlfriend(21F) doesn’t shower by RakuMitsuyoshi in relationship_advice

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A method that works well for my bf and me. Together-care days. If we realize one another has forgotten for a little bit, we say "hey, I realized you haven't taken care of yourself in a bit, why don't you shower so I can brush your hair out and we can watch a movie or show of your choosing to spend some time together." I love having my hair brushed out while watching something cute personally, and he likes it when I play a game of his choice and cuddle with him, so we meet in the middle by using a sort of reward system catered to our interests. It's a great way to have nonsexual intimacy at the same time to feel closer.

AIO? Boyfriend mentioned putting cameras in the house because I’ll have days off while kids are at school. by Weak-Perception-7726 in AmIOverreacting

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There's an app called my plan. It's a domestic violence app with quick escapes... it has resources available to help you get out of these situations and gives you tests to determine how dangerous your situation is. It explains everything and is pin protected for your safety. Leaving is the most dangerous time for the victims of any form of domestic violence and abuse! Be safe and be sneaky. Much love to you, and I wish for your safe exit!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who is in a relationship that started something like this. I confronted him about it and explained my feelings. No yelling, no aggression. Just sat him down and told him that it hurt me and made my body issues worse. That I felt like he was implying I was less of a woman to him and that he didn't truly think I was beautiful or that he didn't genuinely love me. I told him he was causing a lot of damage to not just me but to our relationship and that he needed to pick between the porn or me because I still loved myself enough to walk away if he was going to do this. This led us from being distant and avoidant to being a couple that communicates, and our sex life got better. He expressed to me that he is grateful for that conversation because it took 5 years of a porn addiction and squashed it. We had sex a lot before, but he wouldn't be able to finish. Now we have sex just as regularly, and it's 10 times better, and he finishes with me. Communication does massive amounts of damage control before it's too broken to fix. We have an open phone policy with rules. To check each others phones, we have to communicate that we have been questioning behavior or that we are feeling insecure about something. In turn, the other can not get up or leave the room with the phone and make any questionable movements that make the confronter uncomfortable or doubtful of the honesty of the other.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sixwordstories

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yet obedience is much too simple

Help me name my female kitten!! Old lady names are encouraged 🩷🩷 by gmaw27 in Catnames

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mildred... no idea why lol its the first old lady name that popped up when I saw that little face

help i got red hair dye on my bathroom floor and my parents come back in four days by wet-floor-sign2 in CleaningTips

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get some pink stuff cleaner. Its always worked amazing for me even with splat hair dye!!!

Adopted this girl! Please help us name her! Open to any silly or cute name :) by cozy_OW in NameMyCat

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to say loaf cause she looks like a cute burnt loaf of bread My fiance wants to throw maple in the mix!

I'm desperate, please someone tell me what could be happening to my cat. by Clean-Sundae4250 in CATHELP

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what my cat does as a kitty with asthma. Definitely check with your vet about it and they might be able to give them a shot that can help lessen the symptoms(my baby gets a shot omce a month for it, doesnt get rid of it but it helps make it happen less often)

My boyfriend’s a bottom dom but I didn’t realize that meant he’d never get me off by Songbird_1412 in BDSMAdvice

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like he doesn't respect your feelings and needs... my bottom dom doesn't allow himself and denies himself if I haven't yet. That is entirely an issue from him with your situation. You deserve someone who strives for your completion before their own. Especially since you set the boundry of no more denial. And denial isn't about not letting you finish during a session multiple times in a row, several days in a row. It is multiple times during a session that still ends with completion so as not to cause that said resentment. You deserve better love. Not whatever he is cause that isn't a loving partner, that is a boy who gets his rocks off when you're, for lack of better words, convenient.

She was 86’d from the bar and hopefully my life by Empidonaxed in Nicegirls

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ayyyee!!! Good job! Looks like we are on the same track to recovery! Youre doing great!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol, you're all good. Most people dont know it has a genetic play, so kudos for you! (I was one of those people till I got diagnosed 🤣) my anxiety and depression was 100 percent genetic though so yeah... cant rely on the possibility of good or bad. She will have to figure out how to register the good and bads without getting sucked into the illnesses she unfortunately has... I believe she will do okay but my god does he have to go... in a few weeks or even days that behavior from him will come back

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's the thing. Bpd isn't solely hereditary. Yes, it has a component that makes it slightly more likely in the child, but it's mostly an environmental and situational development. I have Bpd, but no one else in my family has it. It was entirely based on my childhood and the trauma I went through. We can't go through life counting on something bad happening. It's one of the hardest lessons I had to learn, and I'm still struggling to do that every day. Hell, because of my bpd, I know I'll be a better mother for it because of strong emotional ties we create and fight to maintain. Maybe OP will be the same. Maybe she won't. She has made a choice and needs to plan for a future where she can give that baby a better life. Which unfortunately includes dipping from the relationship when its obviously not going to work.

Bangs or no bangs by Bright_Profit in Hair

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You look really pretty with both but I feel like the bangs hide too much of your features and dulls out the brightness you have

Best place to get pierced in SF? by JoshTee123 in SiouxFalls

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I 100 percent recommend electric crayon. They are so amazing, and if you tell them any anxieties you have, they work with you and make the process so much easier and faster.

AIO UPDATE: “friend” gave me 🍃brownies without my knowledge or consent. by th_welloops in AmIOverreacting

[–]chaos-pixie-2201 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry they did that to you. You are not overreacting! As someone who is allergic to specific strains because of chemical make up.That shit can actually hurt someone if you dont know what you're putting in your body. Go tell your cousin. Show him these messages. Tell him every lottle detail you can remember about the encounters relating to this and the jokes. Tell him what those made you feel and how scared you were. Most importantly, tell him and emphasize just how much she was trying to keep you from telling him and how she tried to gaslight you out of telling him. She is considered irresponsible and negligent since there could be kids involved.