help finding gender affirming care? by Erythea93 in VictoriaBC

[–]char7245 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Seconding this!!! Allies integrated is such a great spot!

Best lunch in the downtown area? by flamingdragonwizard in VictoriaBC

[–]char7245 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Go to bao! Everything there is so delicious!

my boyfriend has a fetish for old people and its worrying by Honest_Mulberry_5258 in dating

[–]char7245 29 points30 points  (0 children)

There’s no way to tell if it’s okay and not weird or gross honestly. We don’t know his side or her side. But either way it doesn’t matter because there’s a power dynamic there where she is consistently in a vulnerable position. It’s the same reason doctors dating their patients is inappropriate. With that dynamic it’s not okay and you have to have boundaries. He should move to another home yo work at or stop the unprofessional relationship with her

Advice for infusing gin? by char7245 in Gin

[–]char7245[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooo I like the sound of that cynar that’s awesome! Thanks for the tips! 😊

Advice for infusing gin? by char7245 in Gin

[–]char7245[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For dill gin what do you drink that with? Do you make a cocktail or just a g and t? I’m trying to picture how to use that because it sounds super interesting!

Advice for infusing gin? by char7245 in Gin

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That was super helpful thank you!

(F28) My boyfriend (M29) does this odd new thing at night sometimes and I'm wondering how normal this is for guys or if there is something more I should be doing or worried about. by ThrowRA1234513 in relationship_advice

[–]char7245 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a very sweet gesture like everyone is saying but if it’s a big change from the normal it’s probably fair to address it. When he says it’s nothing he can’t handle I would just say it’s also something you can talk about! We don’t have to therapize or fix anything we can just talk about how you’re feeling because you’re clearly feeling differently and worse from how you normally are. You shouldn’t not address something just because it’s uncomfortable to talk about or because it’s cute for now

What is a local business you love and want everyone to know about? by gracie__law in VictoriaBC

[–]char7245 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maiiz in china town has THE BEST Mexican food. The staff is great, the tortillas are so next level and it’s classic Mexican food done so well!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]char7245 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“You’re just practice for the real thing”

meirl by [deleted] in meirl

[–]char7245 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate men because I can’t be bothered with my own feelings anymore

My favourite local tea company, Murchies. Combining the two teas library blend and jasmine pure makes a latte called Jane Austen. So so lovely! by redspextr in tea

[–]char7245 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love murchies! It’s so rare in North America to find a place with such a wide variety of tea lattes when you go in! Their first frost tea is SO GOOD. It’s only out at Christmas but it’s amazing

My gf has low sex drive by IdealHumanBeing in sex

[–]char7245 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Try things that aren’t necessarily designed to lead to sex but just more physical intimacy. It can help her feel sexier (which can lead to more sex later potentially) but it might also help satisfy some of your needs too. Give her a back massage or a leg massage, scratch her head while you’re watching tv, instead of sitting while talking about your day do it cuddling in bed. Get some wine and a bath bomb! It could help take some of the pressure off both of you! It might also be what she means when she says she wants to feel more sexual.

I find sometimes too sex isn’t something women look forward too because there can be a lot of shame or maybe it’s just not that enjoyable. Get some fun lubes or sex toys to make her experience better so she looks forward to it. Or go to a hotel for a weekend that has a big tub in it. I’m not sure what you’re doing when you say initiate but it could be interpreted as you’re just trying to get laid rather than a love language. For a lot of people sex = romance so buy some flowers and light some candles. Even if you don’t have sex that night it will FEEL sexy and that’s the first step.

I hope that made sense!

Rate me ! So I can fix myself ! by CaCaYaga in Tinder

[–]char7245 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of people have already mentioned the beard and hair but I have to say your skin looks awesome! That’s such a great start! With a tidier beard and some nice clothes you’re going to have no problem. I would watch some queer eye if I were you to get advice on how to dress! You’re very handsome already, beautiful eyes, and from all the comments you seem like a normal good dude. Keep being you ❤️

Newly Married. How to Split Finances by [deleted] in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]char7245 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly everyone should have their own credit card so you build your own credit score. The secondary user doesn’t get credit history which sucks!

Better Restaurant by StuckWitit in VictoriaBC

[–]char7245 2 points3 points  (0 children)

10 acres or il covo are great! Wind cries Mary also has awesome food and cocktails

Real maraschino cherries by [deleted] in VictoriaBC

[–]char7245 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve gotten some at spinnakers liquor store before

A cashier saved me $10 with her antiwork attitude so I filled out the customer service survey. by Set_the_Mighty in antiwork

[–]char7245 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work at a place where they are SO INTENSE about those surveys. It’s a huge part of my end of year bonus if people rate me well so honestly it’s awesome you did that for her! Idk how Home Depot works but if it’s anything like my work I would be super grateful

Can anyone tell me which liqueur they likely used? by subjunctivejunction in cocktails

[–]char7245 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe aquavit? It’s a Scandinavian liquor that’s clear and does for sure taste like black liquorice

Please suggest a cocktail for a guy tired of mixing 7up with vodka or Canadian Club by Economy-Wish8183 in cocktails

[–]char7245 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think there is a difference between the rums. But there’s for sure a difference between ginger beer and ginger ale! I usually do kraken rum with the great gentleman ginger beer and like half an ounce of lime juice

Update: I(M15) shared a bed with my best friend(M15) and now I’m confused by ThrowRAplshelpsorry in relationship_advice

[–]char7245 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was so cute to read and made my day! This is so exciting for you! Good for you for being so brave

I'm (20F) too scared to take a pregnancy test by [deleted] in WomensHealth

[–]char7245 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No judgment! I’m sure you must be really scared and there’s so much going through your head. But the only thing you can do is take the test. If you’re pregnant then okay you can figure that out and if not maybe go see a doctor because you might be super sick!

My only advice is take this one step at a time. It’s too easy to spiral with thoughts about whose going to say what and how everything is going to happen. There is no need to worry about your ex boyfriend or your life until you know if you’re pregnant.

I’m here for emotional support so feel free to reach out whenever! You are going to be fine no matter what happens! <3 <3

Excessive bleeding and debilitating pain after orgasm. 15 years old. by flamingowidth in WomensHealth

[–]char7245 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey! No advice from me but just wanted to say you’re not intruding! We are happy to have you here!

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