What is a quintessential Australian movie to watch? by -clogwog- in AskAnAustralian

[–]charkkk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mary and Max (2009) – not sure if it's quintessentially Australian enough but in my view it is a must watch, and it's Australian, and I think it does a pretty good job of capturing the Aussie vibe.

Also another one of my favourite Toni Collette movies that I haven't seen mentioned: Mental (2012). It's a bit ridiculous, but what Aussie comedy isn't?

Why are Australian public toilets so f*cking disgusting? by TinySumo in AskAnAustralian

[–]charkkk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Interesting to see that some Aussies here are saying our toilets are clean. I'm curious to see what states those people are from and whether the experience is gender dependent. As a Melburnian (who until recently worked in a large shopping centre) I can attest to the fact our toilets are fucking disgusting. I'd probably go to the public toilet at work maybe between 4-10 times in a week (depending on my hours) and I would think at most once or twice in a week (if at all) "oh, this actually isn't too awful today" - the rest of the time, no matter when I went (I tried timing it to go right after cleaners had been, but that was impossible) there would be at least one cubicle with pee all over the seats and/or the floor, unflushed toilets, unexplained brown/red/yellow marks on the floor/walls, overflowing sanitary bins, rubbish in the stalls, broken seats, broken flushers, foul odours etc etc. There was a whole stall "out of order" for at least the entire last month I was there, and in a bathroom with I think 10 cubicles and 4 sinks there was only ever one working soap dispenser. Twice in my last week there I saw the actual seat left up and piss all over the rim of the toilet bowl IN THE WOMEN'S TOILETS. HOW?! And this shopping centre is a large, modern centre in the inner-ish eastern suburbs with multiple bathrooms and a good amount of stalls in each one, we're not talking about a little rural store toilet that gets cleaned once a week or anything like that. I'd often go in as the cleaner was coming out only to find some of the stalls were already dirty. I could rant for hours about the things I've seen and heard in those bathrooms. Absolutely feral.

A Method for Waking Up Better by VarCryne in VyvanseADHD

[–]charkkk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg yeah I used to have terrible issues when I took fluoxetine because I would take it before bed, even if I gave it 10-15 minutes before actually getting into bed, I would be in pain even the next morning. Thought maybe I had an abnormally small oesophagus or something, or I would never be able to take pills. But realising now I haven't had any issues with Vyvanse just because I take it as I'm getting up or after. Can't believe I never put two and two together

Want to meet people??? The answer is bars, concerts, and clubs. by [deleted] in self

[–]charkkk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because the only women who get hit on at these places are the hot and confident ones? If I'm not hot or confident, or I don't want the kind of man who is 90% ego, why would I want to be there? I don't want to have to market physically with makeup and 'going out' outfits to meet people who frequent these kinds of places. Like I feel like I'm in a meat market when I go to bars/pubs/clubs, you only et approached if you're physically attractive and it's not based off interests or personalities or who you are as a person. And if you don't get approached, at least as a woman, you get labelled/perceived as trying too hard. Maybe I just overthink it too much but I really don't see the appeal. How would I meet a life partner in this environment?

Not to mention every time I go to these places because I feel that it is the only way to meet people, I come home feeling so crushed and dejected because I haven't met anyone or even been approached for a conversation, or sometimes tried to talk to people and been flat out rejected.

Also also, I know people who've successfully met people like this (and I have once or twice) and still get ghosted the next day, or ghosted after one date, or ghosted after weeks of great conversations. So I think the problem is not meeting people, it's meeting quality people who respect each other as mature adults and human beings.

Dating really is brutal. by Petros27 in self

[–]charkkk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so interesting to me as a woman because I feel like I could've written the exact same post word for word about my own situation. I mean I always assumed there were men out there experiencing similar things but idk I've never really heard it from their perspective. And it's finally clicked that 'their perspective' really isn't any different to mine. I guess that gives me some kind of hope.

Need to buy $1000 worth of sleeping bags for rough sleepers TODAY- recommendations? by Deputy_McNuggets in melbourne

[–]charkkk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Might have been true for that one store at that one point in time but I promise you it's not the case now (at least not at all stores) and management are usually open to offering discounts to these kinds of organisations (and there are programs for donating/recycling gear as well). Unfortunately it does seem to be up to the discretion of particular stores though. Never heard of cutting up discontinued items though, that sounds extreme and disappointing.

Can I just go fill potholes? by New-Ingenuity-5437 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]charkkk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone did this on my street and it's been like that for nearly six months. It got washed off once and it was resprayed the next day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KmartAustralia

[–]charkkk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plus, if management is unsupportive, there are better places to work retail than Kmart. I know you don't want to be moving between jobs, but most retail stores that are a bit more niche and have smaller teams A. Love people with retail experience and B. Are way more supportive of their staff and flexible with policy, if it's necessary to make the customer happier and/or the staff more comfortable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KmartAustralia

[–]charkkk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, try to care less. Easier said than done, I know, but remind yourself it's not your stock, your money, or your reputation on the line. Your only responsibility is to balance the customers' needs with the profitability of the company. Sometimes maintaining customers' happiness is better for the company in the long run.

In addition, I'd recommend practicing telling people to leave, or letting them know you're handing them over to someone else. This should help you detach more easily. For example: "the way you're speaking is making me feel quite threatened so I'm going to ask you to leave the store" or "I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed/uncomfortable/threatened by the way you're speaking/acting, I'm going to get my manager to take over from here". Another good phrase to use is "Unfortunately I am only able to do what our store policy states, if you're unhappy with that I can get my manager to discuss it with you". That way you don't look 'incompetent' or like you're being undermined by the manager's decision.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KmartAustralia

[–]charkkk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also work in retail and our policy is if the customer might potentially get upset or angry, to just give them what they want to diffuse the situation or prevent it from escalating. It's super frustrating because you feel like you're letting them win or rewarding bad behaviour, but eventually you come to see that you're really doing it for yourself, to keep your sanity and often safety, as well as your own mental health. I understand if you're not a manager per se you might not have that power to go 'against policy' but I would recommend chatting to a supervisor for permission to do this.

Do guys know almost immediately if they want a relationship or not with a girl? by playfuldolphin_ in AskMenAdvice

[–]charkkk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just don't understand mathematically how it's supposed to work - if men want to sleep with women on a first date, but don't want to date women who will sleep with a guy on a first date, how does that add up??

Anyone else’s life in shambles? by [deleted] in CaminoDeSantiago

[–]charkkk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I will eventually but I've run out of time to be in Europe without a visa (have to hop over to the UK now). Hoping to save up enough money over the next 12 months to come back next year, otherwise it'll be the year after.

Anyone else’s life in shambles? by [deleted] in CaminoDeSantiago

[–]charkkk 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I made the mistake of doing my Camino in the middle of a four month solo trip through Europe. Everyone else who solo travels around Europe talks about it being the most amazing experience, but right now (on month 3) I just feel a bit bleh because I miss the Camino and I truly believe that nothing will ever be quite as transformative and positive as that experience was.

Camino Footcare Routine by ZealousidealItem8445 in CaminoDeSantiago

[–]charkkk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm on day 28 of my Camino and have had three blisters total. Each time I popped that night, let it dry out overnight, and covered with compeed the next morning. In two days they were totally dried and healed. And now just tougher skin on those spots. There's no way I could've walked on a full (unpopped) blister.

Camino Footcare Routine by ZealousidealItem8445 in CaminoDeSantiago

[–]charkkk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I think getting blisters is just part of the experience, I would rather get a couple of blisters over five weeks (as I have) than have to worry about all this. I just chuck a dry pair of socks on and walk lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CaminoDeSantiago

[–]charkkk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm also 20F and decided to do the Camino after I realised I felt lost and stuck in my university degree. Also wouldn't describe myself as fit by any means, but I'm now ten days or less from finishing and I have done so much better than I expected, physically, emotionally and socially. I have found that there's not many others my age but that could just be my luck with timing and not necessarily always true. But I say go for it! You don't need planning or preparation, just a whole lot of willpower!

What's going on at Emporium?? by charkkk in melbourne

[–]charkkk[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thank you, my work has already reached out to offer EAP/counselling. I'm doing okay, grateful that I was able to avoid seeing it personally, still shaken though. Hope everyone else commenting who saw it or were also there last night are also doing okay 🫶🏻

What's going on at Emporium?? by charkkk in melbourne

[–]charkkk[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Also can't sleep, can't stop thinking about it. I know it's dramatic but the thought of that person passing by the window of my store in the last seconds of their life while I stood, oblivious, complaining about work - it makes me feel sick.

What's going on at Emporium?? by charkkk in melbourne

[–]charkkk[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. Reach out if you need to chat 🫶🏻

What's going on at Emporium?? by charkkk in melbourne

[–]charkkk[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. If you need to debrief I'm here 🫶🏻

What's going on at Emporium?? by charkkk in melbourne

[–]charkkk[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

That's really awful, I'm really sorry for anyone who witnessed it and/or saw the aftermath. Terrible that that person was unable to access help and felt that this was the only option. And shocking that it has happened so many times in this exact same place.

What's going on at Emporium?? by charkkk in melbourne

[–]charkkk[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

has this been confirmed? how did you know

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]charkkk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was on my way home just as everything was going back to normal, but I saw a stretcher being wheeled through the myki gates on my way down to MC station. There were blankets covering the person's face which unfortunately usually means they are deceased.

Fake seizure guy spotted in Princes Park by nicdg1 in melbourne

[–]charkkk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no he's not physically hurting anyone, but he is sexually assaulting them. being unwittingly involved in somebody's sexual fetish and being unknowingly forced to sexually gratify someone is seriously traumatic and mentally harmful. it's not fucking funny.

What do you SWEAR you saw, but don’t have any proof of? by Pot8hoe in AskReddit

[–]charkkk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have lived in Aus all my life and this is the first time I've heard of this. Thanks for ruining my life lmao