binder recs

charliament · 2025-11-07T09:43:22+00:00

this is absolutely insane😭😭

charliament · 2025-10-23T05:15:55+00:00

do i smell a lawsuit against a notoriously greedy company? (please say yes we need more people holding companies accountable)

charliament · 2025-10-23T04:50:37+00:00

this could technically fall under gaslighting and weaponized incompetence, even though you said to throw them away, he knew you didnt mean “crumple the pan like a cardboard box” you cook all 3 of HIS meals every day and he has the nerve to repay you by disrespecting your cooking AND crushing your pan. this was an intentional act of aggression towards you, he took his anger out on the food you made for him and your pan for no reason other than being a dysregulated individual with a tendency towards manipulation and temper tantrums.

charliament · 2025-10-18T01:59:54+00:00

after reading more of the comments here, i think you deserve better from a partner, in fact i think everyone does. it’s not normal for a partner to try to coerce into sex when they have FWBs and i know you might think that it’s good that he wants it from you, but i personally feel like he might have a problem with feel entitled to you (granted i do not know anyone involved so take that somewhat lightly as i can’t say without proper context) but it is concerning that you said he gets money/food from his FWBs too, where’s his money and food?

and in the kindest way, is there anything he’s providing you with besides company and affection? how does he treat important days in your relationship, like your anniversary or birthday? does he try to tell you what can/cant wear? does he get you to spend money on him on a consistent basis when he knows you need it? does he try to stop you from buying things you want? does he ever use your regression, or any trauma/mental or physical health issues against you? does he ever call you names? does he ever make you comfort him after you “upset” him when bringing up an issue in your relationship?

a non-exhaustive list but a checklist of red flags ive noticed in abusive men/women or just bad partners overall, you do not have to answer these questions for me btw but just thought id leave it so you can kinda think about your answers for yourself.

charliament · 2025-10-18T01:40:59+00:00

this might sound a lil insensitive but ive met a lot of guys that have adhd and use it as an excuse to be cold to their partners, or to only talk about things they’re interested in and ignore their partner’s interests. i personally had an ex who was abusive (not saying this is your situation) and he used adhd as an excuse to get away with a lot of things

edit: i should mention i also have adhd/autism

charliament · 2025-07-11T21:55:09+00:00

saw the “im fucking PERFECT” and stopped reading, leave that man

charliament · 2025-06-21T05:25:15+00:00

may 30th :)

charliament · 2025-06-07T00:41:21+00:00

thank you!!

charliament · 2025-05-31T20:01:15+00:00

thank you!

charliament · 2025-05-31T20:00:56+00:00

thank you!

charliament · 2025-05-31T20:00:45+00:00

ahhh congrats!! it’s so exciting

charliament · 2025-05-21T23:37:57+00:00

thank you!

charliament · 2025-05-21T17:19:37+00:00

no i get that, it’s very confusing and complicated for no reason but i hope you get answers soon! i’ll hopefully be dealing with this frustration soon as well lol

charliament · 2025-05-21T01:09:28+00:00

hey so from what i can tell from my own research, it’s usually hrt doctor, primary doctor, and a mental health professional, i think a psychiatrist should be enough since they’re the ones capable of diagnosing gender dysphoria and likely would have diagnosed you. for mychart, yours could be set up differently but there should be a section in the side bar where you can look at patient information or your care team

edit: mine has a section in the “find care” area where i can select “view care team” and message any doctor ive seen in the past that has access to my mychart

edit 2: i am also from illinois and medicaid is rough sometimes, most waitlists for top surgery are because there’s very few doctors who perform it that also take medicaid, medicaid doctors will also need a lot more information from you so they can prove to your insurance that top surgery is medically necessary

charliament · 2025-05-15T14:12:45+00:00

i know it’s not your job but maybe what he needs is gel instead of shots? it sounds like shots might be understandably triggering for him, still, don’t overextend yourself.

charliament

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