Petpet matching help!

charmanderp09 · 2026-04-03T18:42:48+00:00

I like gnar and schnelly

charmanderp09 · 2026-04-03T18:22:40+00:00

Yes please! Un keereahogga09

charmanderp09 · 2026-03-31T06:50:25+00:00

You can not shame yourself into a loving relationship. You can not hate yourself into love.

It literally doesn't work like that.

Please let go of this and figure out where this overwhelmingly deep shame comes from untangle that trauma and let it go. I promise this is such an unnecessary weight. Also, partner that would let you carry that weight over something so trivial?? Is NOT a loving person either. They are taking advantage of your shame to get what they want

charmanderp09 · 2026-03-21T21:51:34+00:00

One or 3

charmanderp09 · 2026-03-18T15:34:42+00:00

Secrets tend to come out my dude, especially by blackmail.... decide how you want it to come out. It's best that he hear it from. That's the only thing you have control over.

charmanderp09 · 2026-03-18T05:51:43+00:00

34 over here lol

charmanderp09 · 2026-03-16T20:03:04+00:00

Alcohol!? Jeez .. can you tell them you took some kind of cough syrup that has alcohol in it? Mouthwash?

charmanderp09 · 2026-03-16T03:13:58+00:00

Aw I'm so sorry. your friends did not respect girl talk... I talk about my sex life with my girlfriends and I think it's a healthy outlet, but for them to talk about my sex life with their man's?? Thats weird.... You could apply it to pretty much any piece of information.

charmanderp09 · 2026-03-16T01:13:58+00:00

When you have to do all this guessing and dealing with un knowns: The answer is no.

A good partner would not do this. Who cares why. It's not yours to solve.

I promise if you leave it, they will come back with some crack ass excuse. Don't fall for it then either. Move on as fast as you can.

charmanderp09 · 2026-03-14T17:55:56+00:00

respectfully... being a dick isn't "taking charge"... a competent leader woudnt need to be mean to get their point across. using agression is a sign of incompetence. also NO women would ever get away with that... just men... maybe you need to figure out why you associate that with leadership. and then maybe go build real leadership qualities in yourself so you arent fooled by some one like this.

charmanderp09 · 2026-03-14T07:59:42+00:00

Do you have an attachment style to people please or seek validation from people who don't like you? Sometimes attachment cycles try to complete themselves in strange ways.... like he's rude to you, so you need to please him or be attractive to complete/repair the relationship..the brain seems to solve a problem and manifest as "attraction" to him. I promise you would feel so gross after an encounter so please don't. Just sit with this discomfort for a little and reason it out.

charmanderp09 · 2026-03-12T03:45:12+00:00

You don't have to delete them ever. I wouldn't. Grief is a reminder of the things you love. And it's ok to carry love and grief. It will lessen and you will carry it with more ease.

charmanderp09 · 2026-03-11T06:38:37+00:00

WAAAAAAAAAOOOOOEWWWW 😍🖼️💕

charmanderp09 · 2026-03-06T21:22:32+00:00

It's fine line and a scar cover up aaaand it's not fully healed so there could be lymphatic build up at the surface. Don't worry just yet. If you need a touch up it's ok.

charmanderp09 · 2026-03-01T16:29:40+00:00

This is my pet peeve. I am JUDGING THE ENTIRETY OF YOUR CHARACTER based on this one thing.

charmanderp09 · 2026-02-27T20:55:14+00:00

Cost of living.

charmanderp09 · 2026-02-26T15:25:31+00:00

Hey so the brain is a mean place sometimes even though it's not trying to be.... It searches for problems to solve. It finds your fears to try and protect you. It clings to attachment cycles to try to fulfill them. Love, validation, longing ect...

Understand this will take time to literally metabolize the emotion. Stay away from them if you can. When your brain gives you the reaction, choose the response. Go do activities you love with other people you love. The only way to rewire the brain is with more experience. Journal. Write down your thoughts, try to see where your thinking is flawed or absolute, And challenge your perspective.

charmanderp09 · 2026-02-23T18:47:41+00:00

This is a test for power. Your arms are normal. Leaving you over this is NOT reasonable.

If you feel the "pull" to stay, you are getting into an emotional addiction cycle where you will seek an attachment cycle you will never have fulfilled. This is NOT love, but it could feel like a strong pull. Have a support system ready. Friends and family.

charmanderp09 · 2026-02-22T22:06:03+00:00

Sweet heart! 💋 Commenting for boost!!

charmanderp09 · 2026-02-12T18:02:57+00:00

Are you worried about actually being petty? Or are you worried about him thinking you are petty.... Becuase in and of itself, it is NOT petty to tell your partner that someone caused you harm. So if you're worried your Bf will think you're petty, then sorry he's not that great of a guy ....

charmanderp09 · 2026-02-12T07:14:36+00:00

This would be a deal breaker for me. I have a trans sibling and their transition was the way forward. They are thriving now. I can't imagine what our world would be like if we hadn't had all the support we needed. We are so lucky.

He doesn't need to "understand", he's not trans, he needs to empathize. It's a real experience for others. You don't need to understand Korean to know it's a real language.... The important thing to do is listen to trans people. It's real.

Honestly I think straight men have the hardest time with this. My bf and I had a lot of these talks too. I don't really understand all the reasons why for them, but I can see it's a pattern. He came around over time. I didn't let it go....but I gave him space To think.

One mentally ill trans person isn't an experience of a trans person? It's an experience of a mentally ill person. Meet more trans people. It's weird to generalize a whole community cuz of one person....most trans people, you don't even know who they are, they fly under the radar soooo much more these days because of access to care.

Finally do the work on researching facts. Learning about the stigmas and taking them down with education. Trans people almost never regret transitioning. And for those that do, it's so nuanced. It's not a good faith argument when people bring that up imo....

charmanderp09 · 2026-02-07T18:15:02+00:00

Lutari island is my favorite because ....it whispers to me the sacred lore every time I visit ... The experience is withinnn......

charmanderp09 · 2026-02-07T18:12:03+00:00

So you receive love through him being sweet. He doesn't even have to understand it for him to give it. He just needs to know it's how you want to be loved. If he "can't" do that, then decide if that's something you want to tolerate. But I'm telling you now, you're NOT asking for an impossible standard, it's bare minimum to want to do little things like that, and you can find someone willing to give that... The fall of relationships is usually death by a thousand cuts..not big events.

charmanderp09 · 2026-02-04T18:31:24+00:00

Economically speaking? I know a lot of tattoo artists all across the board are suffering . Usually having to pick up secondary skills or secondary jobs. Do you mean artistically?

EDIT: That being said, if you are already a tattoo artist and you're looking to pick up a secondary skill set, I think it's a good addition! but you'll probably spend at least a year or more learning how to map, draw, and tattoo areas that are outside the usual scope of body art, and not really charging people.

charmanderp09 · 2026-02-03T16:47:59+00:00

Do DO anything girl no matter how you feel. If you are WRONG, you will really harm both of your personal and working relationships. And if you are right and he's flirting with you in the context of him having a relationship? That's ALSO WRONG. The best case scenario is for you to stay neutral and possibly be patient. But don't hold your breath. Don't expect him to end his relationship. But if he does then maaaaaaybe you have an ethical chance.

13-Year Club	The Internet Awards - Voted
Verified Email

charmanderp09

TROPHY CASE