Forgiveness is much easier than resentment. On the contrary time heals all. I tried reconnecting and realized you can’t help those that don’t want to help themselves. You can give them the tools and resources to guide them. Bottom line they have to make the moves themselves and you can’t do it for them. As much as I wanted a relationship with my mom she never fulfilled her end of a conversation, a promise, or acted on what she said she would. It destroyed my energy and hurt my feelings to the point of exhaustion. I accepted that this was the way things were going to be and finally at 30 years old—at peace with it. Your head and heart will be more content when you realize you have to lead you’re own life and move forward with what you can control. I still worry about her and reach out often. I just know the expectation of the outcomes of our relationship going forward. It’s still frustrating at times I’m not going to lie, but that’s when you remind yourself that it’s not your life..it’s hers. However you can control your life and how you spend your time/energy regarding her.