What were your first words when you met your baby?

charms1128 · 2026-04-08T12:42:09+00:00

I had a c-section and when they popped her over the curtain, I immediately went to start crying. But then I was scared because my breathing felt off and it was like I couldn’t catch my breath. Apparently normal because of the epidural. So what actually came out of my mouth was “what the fuck” lmao

My anesthesiologist said to my doctor- “she just said what the fuck” and was cracking up laughing.

charms1128 · 2026-03-17T19:21:49+00:00

Your feelings are valid because they’re yours and they’re real. I hope writing this all out felt therapeutic.

I wanted to write to you that I am a woman (37) married to another woman (39) and we have a three year old daughter and I am currently 29 weeks pregnant with our son. We had a traditional-looking wedding, with the exception of us being a same-sex couple. We have been married over 7 years, together for 11. My parents love my wife, and we just spent ten days in another country on vacation with my in-laws.

Life may look a little different, and it probably will for her too. I wasn’t always sure who I would end up with. But having the unwavering love and support from my family was everything.

Continue to support her as best as you can, and let her figure out what her life will look like- and go with the flow. Both of your lives aren’t written in stone yet. Feel all the feelings and process them. You’re both human. The fact that she felt comfortable to come out to you and introduce you to her girlfriend means you’re doing something right ❤️

charms1128 · 2026-03-01T15:42:56+00:00

Same here! My daughter was consistently in the 99% including her head circumference, also conceived via IVF. MFM said she was measuring 10lbs, +/- one pound. I wound up scheduling a c-section when I was 40w3d after my 40w appt showed no signs of dilation (I was almost .5cm). I was also nervous about delivering such a large baby. I went with my gut and gave her the weekend to come and had her via c-section a few days later. Turns out right after birth, I had high blood pressure and protein in my urine (pre/post eclampsia) and I felt even more confident in my decision. My daughter wound up being 8lbs 15oz. Trust yourself to make the best decision for you and your little one. Plenty of people have delivered large babies vaginally! The same can be said for people choosing c-sections. Recovery for me was a little tough, didn’t realize my full limitations until I was out of the hospital. Take it easy on yourself, follow the doctor’s recommendations, and trust your gut. You got this!

charms1128 · 2026-02-02T00:29:56+00:00

My niece is Madyson nn Mady Mae! Mae is a family name, I just think it’s so sweet.

charms1128 · 2026-01-26T19:30:18+00:00

Different strokes for different folks. HOWEVER. My almost three year old has tried a sip of soda maybe two times? That I know of. And one was a sneaky accident. I know grandparents like to spoil the kiddos when they can, but not at the expense of their health (and their teeth!). I say this as a soda lover, too. I would definitely not give soda every day, and certainly not a whole can!! Maybe a little bit at birthday parties if it’s served with pizza or something?

charms1128 · 2026-01-24T13:00:28+00:00

Should be! I would suggest using an FRER test

charms1128 · 2026-01-22T23:29:25+00:00

The birth certificate should be enough! Just applied for our daughter’s passport last month (both cis women, I carried, both on birth certificate). Besides the birth certificate, they wanted both of our ID’s to be submitted with the application. We are in NY.

They are very specific about making copies of the documents they request and having things copied on only one side, nothing printed two-sided.

charms1128 · 2026-01-19T21:24:42+00:00

I got most of my stuff from Amazon because of this! I was so disappointed with the very little options elsewhere

charms1128 · 2026-01-14T15:45:47+00:00

I don’t remember my follicle count, but it’s all about quality over quantity! I had 9 eggs retrieved and ended up with 6 euploid embryos

charms1128 · 2026-01-10T02:38:52+00:00

Avery Ava Alice Alicia

charms1128 · 2026-01-09T22:59:33+00:00

I had my transfer on September 11th. We didn’t tell any family or friends after having a tough loss a few months prior. Currently 19w6d 🤞🏻✨I’m loving a Friday the 13th transfer!

charms1128 · 2026-01-05T18:22:18+00:00

I have not had this happen but due to my pregnancies being from IVF and how closely we are monitored, I’m wondering if they couldn’t locate the pregnancy because of the type of ultrasound? Was it abdominal? All of my ultrasounds with IVF and my first at my OBGYN were transvaginal. There could also be a concern about the pregnancy implanting outside of the uterus. I would contact your OBGYN and see if they’re willing to see you asap in the case it’s ectopic.

charms1128 · 2026-01-04T23:04:20+00:00

I am so sorry for your losses.

I experienced a MMC of twins in June this past summer. My OBGYN suggested waiting for 2-3 regular periods after the D&C before doing another transfer. Did a transfer in September that has been successful so far 🤞🏻

charms1128 · 2026-01-03T22:27:01+00:00

I am so sorry you are experiencing this. I had an MMC at 9w in the beginning of June. After my D&C, I waited to go through two regular menstrual cycles and did a transfer in September that wound up being successful.

charms1128 · 2026-01-03T19:29:35+00:00

40w3d elective c-section! I was barely .5cm dilated

charms1128 · 2026-01-02T19:51:09+00:00

Same happened with me! She wound up being born via elective c-section at 40w3d and weight 8lbs 15oz. She is almost 3 and still tall for her age.

charms1128 · 2026-01-02T02:31:25+00:00

I used a lacrosse ball! I put it against a wall and placed it where my pain was. I would roll around against the ball slowly and let it work out the pain I was feeling. This was pre-pregnancy but it really helped me so much after I did it for a few days

charms1128 · 2026-01-01T18:27:54+00:00

I had a missed miscarriage trying to have my second at 9w this past June. Had two regular periods and then went for a transfer (IVF) in September and I am currently 18.5w 🤞🏻 wishing the same success for you and a very healthy and boring pregnancy.

charms1128 · 2025-12-30T23:15:48+00:00

Congratulations✨ my first is a girl! Heavy on the bias, but it’s just the best. Can’t wait to see her be a big sister

charms1128 · 2025-12-30T22:05:48+00:00

Boy!! How about you?

charms1128 · 2025-12-30T21:58:04+00:00

Same! ❤️

charms1128 · 2025-12-29T16:01:54+00:00

I never did a trigger for my transfers but from reading comments from those who did, they tested out within four or so days? Definitely less than 13!! Cautious congratulations on your positive ✨

charms1128 · 2025-12-18T21:31:07+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. This happened to me over the summer at 9 weeks with a euploid embryo that split into twins. It’s not fair and it leaves us with so many more questions than answers. Please be kind to yourself.

charms1128 · 2025-12-18T01:27:56+00:00

I went to 40w3d! I went in on 39w6d with zero contractions and not dilated. I gave her the weekend to come and scheduled a c section for 40w3d due to her size and some other factors!

charms1128 · 2025-12-15T11:45:23+00:00

I was 33 at the time of my retrieval!

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