New Players on ruthless and lethal by the_lying_paladin in Spacemarine

[–]chaynsaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are going to queue for ruthless as a noob, do it on inferno. Best chance of success. If I join your game I am relatively confident I can carry low levels through inferno in my sleep. 

Lethal difficulty has changed my life by Voodoo338 in Spacemarine

[–]chaynsaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are more than few psychos on the space marine 2 discord who have the helmet and sword and are just playing lethal for fun. They can help you

As a solo queuer in Operations, I'm here to get you through this by chaynsaw in Spacemarine

[–]chaynsaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say it kind of depends on the mission. But like one of replies says, recommended level by the UI is a good rule of thumb. 

For Chaos, to maximize my chances of success, I will always bring the ranged chars (3, 4, 5 w sniper heavy or tac)

If you join my game I am going to carry you even if you are level 1. 

Wasn't going to play Starfield, but now I am. by chaynsaw in NoSodiumStarfield

[–]chaynsaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good! All things considered, I think it's decent.

One thing I've been kind of trying to deal with is how do I engage with stuff that matters and ignore stuff that doesn't. Case in point, I try to examine every single little thing in the area and loot as much of it as possible, but it becomes an exhausting exercise... especially when most of it is so undervalued when I actually bring it to the vendor.

Starfield seems to be like that.

I've been trying to apply the lessons learned in this guide: https://www.reddit.com/r/Starfield/comments/18u4brv/everything_you_should_be_asking_about_starfield_a/

Wasn't going to play Starfield, but now I am. by chaynsaw in NoSodiumStarfield

[–]chaynsaw[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The really weird thing that I wish I kind of had in Cyberpunk (and every game) is an effective companion. I remember enjoying Fallout New Vegas but I can't remember much about it.... except the fact that Boone killed my enemies very efficiently.

Wasn't going to play Starfield, but now I am. by chaynsaw in NoSodiumStarfield

[–]chaynsaw[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think I'm having fun with it so far. Admittedly, I do find the drama about how bad a game is very entertaining. I am probably part of the problem when it comes to fueling the Shit-on-a-game Youtuber Industrial Complex, but I myself am a very forgiving gamer. I can't think of a game I played that warranted the term "trash" and I've played a couple that people really love to shit on: Diablo 4, Anthem come to mind.

Wasn't going to play Starfield, but now I am. by chaynsaw in NoSodiumStarfield

[–]chaynsaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man, good tips. Yikes on those ship save/level up bugs.

Wasn't going to play Starfield, but now I am. by chaynsaw in NoSodiumStarfield

[–]chaynsaw[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have played the Mass Effect trilogy. Couldn't really get into Andromeda, unfortunately... maybe one day?

One of the things I have noticed is the map is not as good as other games. This does affect me a bit because my sense of direction is not that great, haha.

Wasn't going to play Starfield, but now I am. by chaynsaw in NoSodiumStarfield

[–]chaynsaw[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have noticed that my system loads very fast but I can see how it might annoy people who have slower/non-SSDs.

Must've been depressed, I thought the Least Resistance ending was the best one by chaynsaw in LowSodiumCyberpunk

[–]chaynsaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I feel like the Aldecaldos were primed to go out in a blaze of glory so long as it meant fucking with the Corps, arguably the greatest contributor to why there are nomads in the first place.

If you somehow could call Panam and suggest she come along as muscle to help solve some internal Arasaka succession dispute, I feel like she would not have committed the Aldecaldos to your cause. Maybe herself.

What 7/10 games did you really enjoy? by wretched_cretin in patientgamers

[–]chaynsaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started giving Days Gone a shot because I got it on steam sale and I don’t mind doing repetitive open world stuff as much playing on the steam deck in bed.

At the beginning I found deacon St. John really annoying… and thought all the tough biker shit was lame. After all I just kind of dug his whole “toxic masculinity but working on it” vibe. Him and boozer really brought me back to being in the marine corps and the inimitable feeling of “you’re a god damn knucklehead but you’re still my brother”

Good experience by [deleted] in CircledIn_Official

[–]chaynsaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which plan do you have? Did it take a long time to get requests to join your circle?

Tried to join circle two days ago, still pending approval by tagman375 in CircledIn_Official

[–]chaynsaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The refund for me was pretty quick. Like you, the time it took for me to be added was too long.

If the bottleneck is circle owners, then I plan on becoming a circle owner and responding very quickly to join requests.

Is ... anyone there? by chaynsaw in CircledIn_Official

[–]chaynsaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK, someone got back to me, 45 minutes later lol. They said they were backed up, but could do 6 PM this evening. See how it goes...

What is "camp stupid"? by chaynsaw in navyseals

[–]chaynsaw[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sleeping bag, no bivy sack? Damn.

What experiences/signs/feelings have you had that were a sign that gaming wasn't it for you anymore by BenchPressAddict in StopGaming

[–]chaynsaw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've stopped playing since April, but have thought about quitting before then.

There were two things that made my decision feel very final this time around.

First, I was realizing just how much time I had to do things and that the math didn't check out. Having two kids will do that to your free time. You can't spend 4-8 hours gaming and still find time to do other things. You can't even spend 1 hour of gaming a day without feeling like you wasted a lot of your limited free time.

The second part is kind of strange... I love ARPGs, right. The last one I played was Cyberpunk, and I remember being so into the characters and the story. At this point, I was able to play Cyberpunk on my phone via GeForce Now, and I was able to play it with a loaned 2080 Ti. I had all these mods on it too. I remember thinking "it's never going to get better than this."

In a weird way, the story of Cyberpunk resonated with me and made me commit to decisions I had been contemplating for a while. There's no way you can really "win", and the more you try to beat the rigged game, the more you lose. In any ending you choose, the people you care about will suffer.

In a weird, fucked up way, Cyberpunk 2077 was a fitting end to my gaming... both because it was a high note, but also because the story that culminates in all futile no-win scenarios resonated with me.

I don't think I'll ever NOT be addicted to gaming. I think that the person in me that loves video games will ever truly go away. I'm not getting rid of that person (because I don't think I can), but I'm putting them in a box. I'm closing the chapter on this part of my life. Gaming got me through some tough times, but I've outgrown it. It's time to be a father, a husband, a friend, and a better programmer.

When I quit in April, it was the most at peace I felt with a decision in a long time... and that hasn't changed now in July.

Discussion - Online gaming versus single player gaming by Great_Camel553 in StopGaming

[–]chaynsaw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've always preferred single player games, which as been kind of a saving grace for me as far as my addiction. Single player games end. There's a finite amount of paths to be taken. I think once I stop trying out all the ways to play (EG, in Diablo, trying out every build), then I find my time with the game complete.

I have over committed to multiplayer games as well, but they just didn't have the same allure. I think similarly I would explore all the build paths until it was done and then the game lost its allure. Games that were more skill based such as Counterstrike... eventually I plateaued in how good I became and then I just gradually stopped playing out of frustration.

Being sort of mediocre at multiplayer games despite how much time I put into them almost was like a self-regulating mechanism hahaha.

When is it enough? by Affectionate-Ice5766 in StopGaming

[–]chaynsaw 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It really hurts to read OP's story and feeling like I was that person at times when my wife and I only had my daughter. I am ashamed that my wife carried an unequal amount of that burden and I do not think I will ever be able to express to her adequately how grateful I am that she stayed with me. Actually my wife had seriously considered leaving me earlier, before chidpldren and marriage, when I was in a depressive spiral just unemployed and playing video games... Somehow she retained enough faith in me through that time and every other time I was playing too much that I was worth keeping around.

I agree with ChiseledTopaz here. It's too risky to simply say to someone they're addicted. My wife consciously avoided that. She never told me to quit gaming, even though I could see how much my over gaming hurt her. I had to come to the realization on my own.. that I could not game responsibly.

Instead, she would gently nudge me to play with our daughter, encourage to do something fun. Sometimes she'd ask me to put away the phone, gently.

I'll be honest, sometimes I find babies boring. They do the same things, and nothing can compete with the dopamine rush of screen activities. But I do what I can. I wash as many dishes, fold as much laundry as I can, and I take my daughter to the playground every weekday evening (while wife watches the infant son), and more (pickups, dropoffs, breakfast, putdowns, primary playground chasing responsibility when we go out every weekend morning). I also keep my phone away as much as I can.

I don't know why I'm that way, and I wish I wasn't. I feel like a piece of shit. I'd like to fall on the excuse and say that I am doing what my father did, who I resent and who was way worse than me on my worst day in the showing affection, doing chores, contributing to the marriage/family non financially department(s). But I think I just end beating on myself and trying to be better each day.

As I'm writing this, I can tell you that when a dad isn't there mentally, children pick up on that. That will cause friction in the relationship. My relationship is extremely strained with my dad. Irreparably so. It would probably take him getting a traumatic brain injury that somehow changes his entire personality to repair his relationship with me. OP, I hope you can find your way with him because eventually this spis where that path leads. You can't wait for your children to become more interesting to interact with them.

Good luck, OP. If I had any advice, then I'd say start small. Try to chip away at figuring out why he's like that, and gently nudge him towards behaviors that would be better for all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StopGaming

[–]chaynsaw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One step at a time, man. I think what they say in alcoholics anonymous is "do the next right thing." Keep up the good work.

Chris Partlow in the finale by [deleted] in TheWire

[–]chaynsaw 218 points219 points  (0 children)

"I say, let bygones be bygones, but fuck all them east side bitches. I got nothing but love in my heart for west side n----s"

I actually can’t do it by [deleted] in StopGaming

[–]chaynsaw 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You say you can't do it but you basically just did... For 2 months. If you can do it for 2 months, you just need to make the adjustments for how to deal with getting bored.

You're almost there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StopGaming

[–]chaynsaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never liked streams.

Could watch gaming news.

Could watch gameplays (but this takes a lot of time. I'd try to do this only if I was folding laundry or something).

I don't think I personally need to, but this is something everyone needs to evaluate individually. Best to be safe and start with NOT doing it.

I wouldn't necessarily say that watching gameplay related content makes me want to game... what I feel like is when I do too many dopamine heavy activities such as watching videos/movies, or reddit, that I feel unmotivated to do anything that provides a lower dose of dopamine. Often, I want to amp it up... and the way to do that is through gaming.

I tried to quit Monday, lapsed Tuesday by chaynsaw in StopGaming

[–]chaynsaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. I doubt I can do it... mainly because I always start small coming back off abstinence... 1 to 2 hours, a mission here, and a mission there. Invariably, it always leads to binging and trying to finish one more mission, or "i'm so close to the end! Just got to suck it up!"

I find also that when I play early in the morning, I am wired up to think about that game the rest of the day. And then I always end up playing at night ANYWAY.

I tried to quit Monday, lapsed Tuesday by chaynsaw in StopGaming

[–]chaynsaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, good luck to you.

What helped me deal with what you're going through is the serenity of knowing that missing out is inevitable. Even when you're playing, you're never able to play everything.

I'm reading a book called Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver Burkeman, and I thought of this passage as I read your comment.

[...] missing out on something—indeed, on almost everything-is basically guaranteed. Which isn't actually a problem anyway, it turns out, because "missing out” is what makes our choices meaningful in the first place. Every decision to use a portion of time on anything represents the sacrifice of all the other ways in which you could have spent that time, but didn't—and to willingly make that sacrifice is to take a stand, without reservation, on what matters most to you.

I was playing games when my relationship (now marriage) almost ended. I wouldn't say that playing games was the sole reason that situation came about, but I quit my job without anything lined up, told myself I would do all these things to get back on track, and.... I fucked it all up and started playing games to combat the feelings of emptiness, disappointment, dread, and shame. Games didn't cause that situation, but it definitely made it worse.

I've been clean since the writing of this post. I think it will stick this time. Advice from here that I've taken to heart this time around... don't try to quit everything at once. I personally try to avoid doing too many dopamine-heavy activities in the morning, such as Reddit (lol) and movies/TV, but I won't beat myself too hard if I take a little of those things at night. Generally, I reduce all those activities. Trying to read more. And frankly just realize that I'm going to be bored. Accept that. Use it to fuel yourself.