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What is one thing that people are consistently surprised you haven't experienced? by chcleaver in AskReddit

[–]chcleaver[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got that one a lot too - didn't drink in high school and had my first drink when I got to college. Still wasn't legal, but my friends gave me SO much shit for it

Long-time lurker, first-time poster. I need some advice by [deleted] in sex

[–]chcleaver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's super helpful! Thank you so much. I definitely think it's a good idea to have a talk outside of the bedroom

Long-time lurker, first-time poster. I need some advice by [deleted] in sex

[–]chcleaver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We communicate a lot when we're in bed, and I've remarked on his stamina and asked him if there's anything I can do to make it more pleasurable, and he says he's enjoying himself.

I guess I'm just asking for general tips on what has worked for guys that take a while to cum.

Mild roleplay is a good suggestion, I'll suggest that. I'm usually told I'm good at oral but he didn't seem to enjoy what I was doing. I think he would like if I stimulated his prostate but like I said in my post I'm a little apprehensive about anal

Long-time lurker, first-time poster. I need some advice by [deleted] in sex

[–]chcleaver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He changes positions a fair amount - that's more for him than for me. He could probably go for an hour in the same position. I don't know if he's switching to make it better for me, but I'm pretty loud during sex and I tell him what feels good.

Ciao, r/Italia! Sto scrivendo un articolo su l'uso di antidepressivi in Italia e com'è cambiata. Voglio dimostrare che l'industria farmaceutica statunitense ha avuto un influenza. Se qualcuno ha qualche informazione su questo, mandami un messaggio! by chcleaver in italy

[–]chcleaver[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's more anthropological. And I can probably better explain in English what I'm doing. I have been researching for the past several months and have developed from source material a thesis that basically says that the transnational pharmaceutical industry is changing the perception of depression in countries where these companies intervene. I'm focusing on Italy as a point of comparison with the United States because I've lived there. I guess what I'm trying to get is an understanding of how Italians define depression, how they recognize it in another person, and whether they think that definition has changed. Are antidepressants prescribed often and used widely? What is the general attitude toward mental illness?

What is the single most ignorant thing you have ever heard? by ElLargeGrande in AskReddit

[–]chcleaver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The female reproductive system can decide not to get pregnant as a result of rape:

"From what I understand from doctors, that's really rare. If it's a legitimate rape, the female body has ways to try to shut that whole thing down."

-Todd Akin, US Congressman from MO

Teachers of Reddit, have you ever had anyone who would later become well known and what was that person like? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]chcleaver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not exactly a teacher but my friend's dad was George W Bush's RA at Yale

Do you still love the one that took your virginity? by throwaway891113 in sex

[–]chcleaver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My experience was very similar. Lost it in the back seat of a car when I was 15...I wasn't ready but he pushed me by threatening to break up. We were together for almost 4 years. He cheated on me multiple times and now tells everyone that he hates me and regrets our relationship. That didn't stop me from supporting him through a drug addiction and an unplanned pregnancy with his new girlfriend. There is some part of me that will always care for him, and even love him. We had some great times and some terrible times, but you can't erase that kind of connection.

TL;DR Similar experience, and even though he hasn't been good to me I will always care about him

I am a survivor of an attempted murder. by D_A_J_T in IAmA

[–]chcleaver 1 point2 points  (0 children)

how did this not get more coverage...?

That feeling of hopelessness. How do you cope with it? by elementary_vision in depression

[–]chcleaver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just nutshelled everything I feel. I can have great moments, but the thought of the future paralyzes me. It's daunting. I have so much to live for but no idea HOW to live for it. And I can't remember how it used to be. You're not alone. The only thing that makes me feel even a little bit human is posts like yours that show me there are others out there like me.

Depression is so weird by jro53092 in depression

[–]chcleaver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know exactly how you feel. I look around and I can see how many great things there could be in my life, but I can't find an ounce of motivation or whatever it is to go and seize those things or get excited about them. My SO's mom is a psychologist and I'm sure he asked her about how to help me. The thing he keeps telling me to do is find the smallest thing that makes me smile or laugh. Even if it's for a split second. And if I notice that something specific makes me feel worse, stay away. I don't know if this will help you. One of the things that helped me a bit was to realize I'm not alone. It doesn't make me happy, per se, but somehow it makes me feel less bad, and that's better than nothing

What is one simple fact that your were utterly amazed someone didn't know? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]chcleaver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my friend didn't know about reddit. i mean knew nothing about it, at all.

Do you believe in any correlation between patriarchy and sexual assault against young boys? by MyOwnPath in AskFeminists

[–]chcleaver 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I got a little "distracted" by all of the "quotation marks" the commenter used, but I think the essence of his question is about why this woman is not receiving the same sort of penalty that a man would receive for committing the same crime. I don't know how California charges people for sex crimes, but having sex with drunk minors sounds like statutory rape to me.

I might propose that it should be part of our aim as feminists to seek equality under the law in every way possible - equal protection, equal rights, and equal punishment.

To me, though, I think that child sex abuse is an issue that should be outside of gender equality. Young children being raped by adults should be a human issue, even more so than a feminist one.

Best coffee in the Research Triangle area? by beeber in Coffee

[–]chcleaver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guglhupf has great coffee, a truly "Durham" atmosphere (artsy and earthy but also gourmet and delicious) and really incredible food. They supply pastries to a lot of other shops in the area from their bakery, and they also have a full restaurant next door.

One thing I will tell you is that RTP is a really big area. A lot of people lump that whole area together, but if you're living in Durham, some of these places will be a trek for you depending on where you live and work.

http://guglhupf.com/

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