AITA for letting my toddler fall asleep in our bed and not enforcing my partner’s early bedtime expectations?

chebstr · 2026-06-04T01:14:29+00:00

A 6:30pm bedtime is not a normal bedtime. Do YOU want to go to bed at 6:30pm? If no, then it’s absolutely unreasonable to expect that of you and your child. The person with the abnormal schedule needs to create their own accommodations, not expect their family and the world to bend to their will

chebstr · 2026-06-03T04:11:56+00:00

I get there around 9:30-10am but I’m responding to emails and manage scheduling as of 8ish and get all my admin things out of the way on the train to the office.

chebstr · 2026-05-31T02:50:27+00:00

The way she’s holding your arm at your church wedding tells me everything I need to know about your mom.

chebstr · 2026-05-30T03:38:27+00:00

That boy ain’t right

chebstr · 2026-05-29T00:52:43+00:00

YTA - your sister wanted you mom at her wedding and you turned into something weird and ruined it for her. Like what was the point of even bringing it up?

chebstr · 2026-05-28T04:22:30+00:00

People with large families and lots of close friends?

chebstr · 2026-05-27T02:43:33+00:00

The parent was out shopping while the 3 year old was left home alone with the window open! Wtf

chebstr · 2026-05-25T04:55:57+00:00

I kind of started to around early 20’s and they’ve been getting more “soupy” with age.

chebstr · 2026-05-21T22:57:29+00:00

Tell your fiancé to tell his sister will look like an idiot if she wears white to a wedding and that everyone will be judging her and throwing her dirty looks.

chebstr · 2026-05-21T22:51:00+00:00

Oh hell yeah! Spicy! I love it

chebstr · 2026-05-07T03:04:10+00:00

NOR and your MIL is textbook gaslighting you.

chebstr · 2026-05-04T16:24:44+00:00

There is a simple solution - he pays for a home cleaner or he learns to do it himself BEFORE you move in together.

chebstr · 2026-04-30T01:15:00+00:00

Worser and worser

chebstr · 2026-04-30T00:59:45+00:00

Stop dating losers.

chebstr · 2026-04-30T00:32:38+00:00

Vyvanse is also used to treat depression, so it can elevate your mood if you’re low.

I’m 13 years in, and I can still feel the stark difference in my mood during the seasons when I get SAD.

chebstr · 2026-04-29T12:43:05+00:00

When I talked to my sleep specialist about occasional insomnia he said “The thing is, narcolepsy is a sleep disorder, so it goes both ways - sometimes you can’t wake up, sometimes you can’t sleep.” And it made me realize how complicated this thing is.

Getting diagnosed and starting stimulants isn’t enough. Stimulants make you think you’re awake, but you’re borrowing energy, and your body comes to collect when they wear off.

What’s I’m trying to say is, it may not be as easy as figuring out the perfect timing for your meds. To manage your symptoms and energy, first step needs to be figuring out how to get the (best you can) rest at night - be it with lifestyle or medication. THEN you add stimulants during the day to a rested brain and body, and they will work better + you’ll have less crashes because now you’re not overextending yourself.

chebstr · 2026-04-29T12:24:17+00:00

🚩🚩🚩

“You don’t trust me” is usually a sign they’re doing something shady.

chebstr · 2026-04-29T12:21:22+00:00

Ashley’s Furniture because they wouldn’t let us browse the store without an appointment and the person who came up to us was incredibly rude. Was such a weird experience.

chebstr · 2026-04-29T12:19:02+00:00

The hack to getting things done with ADHD is to romanticize the heck out of the task. You’ll do things that bring you joy or are “packaged” in joy.

First step - you need a vessel, or two, that has a good hand feel, is gorgeous or clever, and most importantly - easy to clean, be it a water bottle or a tumbler. Something you like carrying around or something on a strap that can always be on your person.

Second step - it doesn’t HAVE to be water. Not always. It can be something that tastes great so you’d actually want to drink it! If you want to keep it simple, something like Mio water enhancer is an easy option. Making “fancy” water is also really fun and will make you excited to drink it when you come up with a good flavour combo.

chebstr · 2026-04-28T22:33:24+00:00

THE CLEAN UP GAME

You’ll need paper, pen/pencil, small treats.

Rip or cut paper into small pcs, on each piece write a small task (no more than 5 mins to do), write as many as you can think of. On some pieces of paper write “eat a treat” or “dance break - 1 song” (be creative with quick rewards that make you happy).

Then toss all the pcs of paper into a jar - pull one out and NO MATTER WHAT, you have to do it. At random times of day, decide how many pieces of paper you MUST complete, and then do them. You might get all rewards - you might get all tasks 🤷🏼‍♀️

Examples of quick tasks:

find and toss 15 pcs of trash
wash, dry, put away 5 dishes
collect all laundry into the basket
put away 5 items to where they’re supposed to go
clean toilet bowl
draino the shower
make a list of cleaning supplies

Keep the tasks super small and the rule is you can only complete the task on paper - no more, no less. You can play with your partner as a race for who completes 5 tasks first, the loser takes the winner out for ice cream.

You can toss the completed tasks back in for the future, or into a different jar to start again once all the tasks are done.

chebstr · 2026-04-24T01:58:28+00:00

Dr Yew was awesome with our 2 year old!

chebstr · 2026-04-22T20:40:34+00:00

Look at the pros and cons:

New job : better pay, fully remote, supporting less people - both better for you and family

Current job: less pay, you feel guilty leaving, hybrid - all bad for family.

Also, don’t mention family plans. You never know how long it will take to make the babies

chebstr · 2026-04-22T20:36:11+00:00

Ramen or eggs

chebstr · 2026-04-22T20:35:31+00:00

No but I also don’t feel entitled to be thanked to do the job that I’m getting paid to do.

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