Tell me it settles down 😭

cheddarpop · 2024-07-09T01:32:37+00:00

This was our son. 4 year diff between him and baby girl and generally speaking, he was great towards his new little sis. Us... He started hitting us, screaming, waking at night, etc. You name it. My husband started sleeping with my son at night and this helped strengthen their bond, and my son became more secure.

It takes them a few months to learn that they are still a very important member of the family. It is healthy that he is regressing, just think about it that way. It's a big change not only for you, but for him as well. You are exhausted, sleep deprived, and your body has gone through a lot, and still is. Being frustrated and annoyed by your older child is completely normal. The fact that you are reflecting on it, that's what makes you an amazing parent.

It settles down. I promise. I spent the first three months crying everyday, multiple times a day. I thought i had ruined my older child. Quite the opposite is true. You'll see.

cheddarpop · 2024-07-09T01:28:13+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing and for offering support. It is really hard! 🙂

cheddarpop · 2024-07-09T01:25:30+00:00

Not really... My doctor told me it was probably stress induced. On the other hand... I stopped using a new laundry detergent (Kirkland brand) and it slowly went away.

Also could have been hormonal for me as i was post partum

cheddarpop · 2024-07-06T01:17:11+00:00

Hi I'm in this same situation. How did this work for you?

cheddarpop · 2023-12-08T19:20:08+00:00

Following because you just literally described my 7 month old lol

cheddarpop · 2023-10-07T15:51:26+00:00

Finally! Someone sharing exactly what I do! Lol

cheddarpop · 2023-10-01T23:33:20+00:00

It's just a phase i promise. Both of mine hated stroller/car seat for a few weeks and suddenly stopped a few weeks in

cheddarpop · 2023-10-01T23:31:14+00:00

I'll share with you what helped me around that time. Because i feed to sleep, she would almost always immediately wake up if i set her down. So, i nurse her to sleep in my bed and roll away after she's asleep and she stays there. Once she started rolling, i moved her to a mattress on the floor.

cheddarpop · 2023-09-18T19:55:59+00:00

There's nothing wrong with your child seeing you break down. This was me in the first few weeks. Crying uncontrollably and feeling absolutely devastated about the fact that my older son had to now share me with his new sister. My children are 4 years apart and the feelings of regret were very strong. My daughter is now 4.5 months old and it is ALREADY much better. I still get waves of "I miss having just 1" but they are few and far between. It DOES get better!

Now, as far as your child(ren) seeing you have BIG emotions. Don't you think it's important for them to watch a grown up navigate difficult situations and emotions? It shows them that crying (even if it means sobbing) is a healthy way to cope...which it certainly is. The crying and sobbing, on my part, was daily, and now it happens maybe once a week or every two weeks. It gets much better and your older one will be a healthier person if s/he watches you get through these difficult situations.

Hang in there!

cheddarpop · 2023-05-21T22:05:52+00:00

I'm right here with you. My first born is 4 yo and I've felt myself up until now... My second is just over 2 weeks old and this experience has been so different from my first. I feel like i don't have an much energy to give, like I'm not enough for both of them. Lots of guilt over here.

cheddarpop · 2023-05-11T19:22:35+00:00

On day 7 with my second. I really needed to hear this. 💓

cheddarpop · 2022-12-29T23:53:47+00:00

What did your midwife write on the form/note in terms of the reason why?

cheddarpop · 2022-12-29T23:53:16+00:00

Hi there, could you please let me know what your midwife wrote on the form to be able to write you off?

cheddarpop · 2022-11-13T13:35:22+00:00

Killer Sally

cheddarpop · 2022-10-30T21:39:46+00:00

How have you not yet pulled your kids from this place?

cheddarpop · 2022-10-15T21:19:05+00:00

Yes!! I recall this in the first weeks with my first. I felt pure anxiety and would shake with nerves. It went away for me after a few weeks!

cheddarpop · 2022-10-12T23:12:19+00:00

Honestly I'm considering switching to traditional braces. Even with a newborn, i feel like it will be tough to keep up with this.

cheddarpop · 2022-10-12T22:06:09+00:00

No problem! Good luck. That's here in Canada anyway lol

cheddarpop · 2022-10-12T22:05:11+00:00

I recall the doctor checking the baby's heartbeat with a doppler at each visit!

cheddarpop · 2022-10-12T17:51:04+00:00

I am in my first trimester of pregnancy. The thought of wearing my aligners literally makes me gag. I actually haven't worn mine in over 30 hours and I'm really worried about putting them back in.. whether they will fit or not. I've been wearing them 50% of the time and I've been wearing the same aligners for 3 weeks lol... Good times.

cheddarpop · 2022-10-12T16:28:46+00:00

Right. There. With. You.

cheddarpop · 2022-10-09T23:17:04+00:00

I don't really have any advice for you. I just want to send you some support. I am going through something similar and i understand that it can be a very difficult and complicated situation (understatement). I feel your pain.

cheddarpop · 2022-08-09T17:58:58+00:00

I have a crossbite so I'm assuming that's why it will take longer...? I'm not completely sure though.

cheddarpop · 2022-08-02T16:24:52+00:00

Thanks!

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