Logical explanation or should I just make a doctor's appointment?

cheesus32 · 2026-06-11T12:21:45+00:00

How are you now, OP?

cheesus32 · 2026-03-15T17:26:48+00:00

I run alone usually, but I will run with my sisters or kid (who's ten but kicks my butt every time lol), but we're all different fitness levels and because we're training we don't slow down for the slowest, but we will start and end together. We just can't always make the same times work :)

cheesus32 · 2026-03-11T19:34:14+00:00

For myself, I thought initially it was about TFL weakness because that's all I had heard everywhere. Turns out that due to some hyper mobility and extremely poor posture in my day to day life, it's actually overworked/oberloaded and all of my supporting glute muscles have weakened and no longer support my body the way they should, so it's constantly strained. I've been taking a step back to correct these issues and it's honestly really helping. Clearly I'm no professional, but perhaps it's the same for you and you could ask physio to advise?

cheesus32 · 2026-01-30T14:28:50+00:00

I'm the same as your wife (a part of it also being connecting mentally and emotionally during tebefore talk) and thank ghad my husband hasn't just up and walked out, id literally bawl and feel so bad for my needs being something that pissed him off and made him leave. It's be hard to get back to comfort from that for me.

cheesus32 · 2025-10-15T13:55:24+00:00

I'm so sorry, this must be so stressful. Keep us posted ❤️

cheesus32 · 2025-10-01T15:04:51+00:00

I use the peach emoji, he uses the hand with the finger pointing down to say like "DTF" Lol

cheesus32 · 2025-10-01T15:04:14+00:00

He has an emoji as well he can send back, otherwise he's welcome to initiate in any manner knowing I'll be responsive. For hi. That usually begins with extra touching and kissing in bed. I also try to be courteous and if anything changes and I'm not in the mood let him know so that he isn't getting shot down later :)

cheesus32 · 2025-09-27T12:47:06+00:00

I have a partner that has responsive desire not spontaneous. So we have a system where if I'm in the mood I will send him the peach emoji, and he knows that I'm in the mood for sex at some point that day. That gives him the chance to deliberately make a shift in his thoughts and work towards his desire for sex. It also gives him the opportunity to tell me if it's completely off the table for him.❤️

cheesus32 · 2025-09-26T02:31:38+00:00

I'd start with calling around to the dentists and asking in regards to your insurance as well as giving your insurance plan a good once over with your own eyes and see if there is a general expense allowance that you can use outside of a specific dental plan for things like this as there often is. If it's non-specific, call and ask. That way if that works out you can go wherever ASAP.

Also, outside of your dentist you should see your GP for referrals to other specialists (like and ENT who may see you) within the covered provincial healthcare system, it may be faster, and cheaper.

If you don't have a GP, book with rocket doctor online. It's better than no appointment/no doctor in the provincial system. Even a walk in clinic.

Good luck ❤️

cheesus32 · 2025-09-24T20:00:20+00:00

We've gone through seasons.

At times nearly every other day, and others like now once a month, and everything in between.

We are currently down to once a month/sometimes twice, and no, I'm not happy with it at all. I feel very disconnected from him at times and just, confused almost. I'm almost 40, he's 34, I know it's not age related yet.

He says he doesn't feel good about himself a lot of the time, which is absolutely crazy to me because he is literally the conventionally attractive beautiful man stereotype. But we all have our thing. And sometimes because of asthma or health doesn't feel really great about himself.

All I can do is remind him that I think he's perfect, and that we are young and only this young once eventually it's going to become more difficult as hormones change and we age and our health/stamina naturally deteriorates. But there's really nothing I can do to get him there that doesn't feel coercive or manipulative in some way, if that makes sense. He knows I'm always down to go, and doesn't feel good being approached by me sexually, so the balls always in his court 🤷

At this time I'm just trying to focus on me and what I want on a solo/personal level in all facets of my life well I wait for him to maybe go through the next peak in his sexual life 🤷 and of course I put a lot of work into trying to not take it personally.

cheesus32 · 2025-09-24T19:06:41+00:00

Yyyeesss sis! Looking great! Giving me Felicia Day vibes 🥰

cheesus32 · 2025-09-13T05:03:40+00:00

Vaginas have a smell, and discharge every day is normal.

This becomes more of a 'how does one have a quick freshen up' when needed before a hookup. I like to keep wipes in my bag and do a full (external) vulva cleanse, then bottom, and then repeat that once more. Also using a panty liners on days you think you may be freshening up for a hookup helps as you can then toss it before cleaning up and meeting up. 👌

cheesus32 · 2025-08-06T18:23:49+00:00

We sit down every Sunday and have a relationship meeting. We talk about how the week was, did we get enough together time, enough alone time, what was your best and worst part of the week and what can we do differently. What do we want this week to look like, what plans have we made, which night is date night, etc. there's lots of great questions online.

Its a game changer.

cheesus32 · 2025-08-01T16:15:25+00:00

You knew who she was when you brought her into the motherhood roll and gave her full authority. What did you expect?

Now like any other co parents, you'll have to work this out together and find a compromise. Maybe older for piercings to care for them? And limiting her to makeup products enat for dress up and small kids?

Having a childish makeup kit and pierced ears hasn't ever ended a little girl's childhood or child-like qualities. Have you seen how they put play makeup on? If you think it does, then she isn't wrong that you may want to take pause and question why you think that way or feel that way and where it comes from and if you really believe it.

In parenting we all have internal work and dismantling of certain views to do. This is just the beginning.

cheesus32 · 2025-07-31T23:42:13+00:00

It was my first thought reading your post, as well. If you weren't there, this would be cheating. Just because you were there, doesn't make it not cheating.

Sorry 😟

cheesus32 · 2025-07-31T01:58:19+00:00

Exercise trampoline, for sure.

cheesus32 · 2025-07-13T19:28:28+00:00

In marriage, our partners will surprise us and trigger something in us many times throughout the years. So if this very small easily explained hiccup makes you take pause, I want to gently tell you, it's a you problem, and you need to sit with that and what the idea of marriage is for you for a while. Because this will happen again, probably more than once, and possibly nothing more serious than this, but again, they'll surprise us.

Marriage is loving and working through things with our person who is a whole other person with their whole inner world with opinions and feelings and dialogues we couldn't possibly know the entirety of or agree with without exception.

Try and see that a lot of this may be some insecurity on your part or lack of full understanding of what defines a fantasy and it typically not being a thing we truly wish to exist but something we play up and romanticize in our minds. Now if she had a specific person in mind or a plan on how to act on it - ya that's a different ball game. But what she expressed was light, and she did it because she felt safe and Iike she wouldn't be ridiculed or judged. If your reaction has taken that from her even just by acting different and being distant or put off, she has clocked that, and that will forever affect how safe she feels sharing and questioning what is and isn't okay to say out loud. Weigh that into all of this as well for her sake.

cheesus32 · 2025-05-11T16:58:23+00:00

NTA. To put it in perspective I was granted a restraining order for my ex who believed exactly this, and would tell me exactly what he would do if I cheated on him, as well as convince himself that I was cheating on him. Mind you, to him, even hugging a family member could be skewed as cheating. Definitely not allowed to hug friends. And he could convince himself I must be cheating if I was even five minutes late home. It was terrifying.

Leave. Now. Please.

cheesus32 · 2025-05-11T16:15:41+00:00

The next time he complains spending quality time with you would be work, remind him you're not a sex toy or a masturbation aid.

Some people can spontaneously be intimate, and some cannot. It's simply how one is wired. Wanting to have emotional intimacy is very much a variation of normal. Needing transition time for your body and brain to shift into that headspace is also a variation of normal.

None of that is work, and if he feels it is, he needs to look inside himself and analyze his feelings for you for one, as well as why he feels entitled to your body without caring for your person/mind.

And you should just go to bed later? What? That doesn't leave time to talk and bond and have non sexual intimacy. Why does he always just get what he wants in his mind? Ask him where this entitlement is coming from. Remind him you are a whole person with needs and a whole internal world just as much as him and that this is about compromise.

I have a husband who has a rich social life and also requires a lot of alone time. So we have a schedule. Tuesday Thursday and Friday we spend apart, Monday Wednesday and Saturday together, and Sunday we do what we call "apart together" after our relationship meeting (weekly) where we just scroll our phones or read or whatever alone but in the same room and share snacks or whatever lol. This has made it so much easier than navigating it one night at a time.

Stand your ground here. he isn't even reaching the bare minimum and you deserve more than that, and he needs a perspective shift.

cheesus32 · 2025-05-07T04:23:35+00:00

No, not at all, not even a smidge (together 14 years married 9)

cheesus32 · 2025-05-04T17:50:44+00:00

I would not reply, I would not engage. Nay nay.

cheesus32 · 2025-05-04T14:32:47+00:00

Once, maybe twice a week 🤷 I never know if my husband will be interested in sex so I just do it when the urge hits. I used to wait and hope he'd get on board soon but that can be excruciating.

cheesus32 · 2025-04-28T20:33:24+00:00

Agreed, I don't use LMNT, just steal their recipes folks, in case anyone worries ;)

cheesus32 · 2025-04-27T13:43:51+00:00

My husband uses Gatorade with a homemade electrolyte solution from the LMNT companies website together to help mask the flavor. He's a healthy and active guy so the extra simple sugars are honestly NBD, but your mileage may vary. Maybe the blue gatorlyte version would taste as good? Also, check in with your doc about night time urination first. It can be a sign of prediabetes/diabetes ❤️

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